Archive for the ‘Long Term Chastity’ Category


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I said recently that I was going to finally start trying to answer a few questions that have been piling up in my inbox from readers, so here’s the first of them!

Graeme asked:

I have recently become caged and I’m slightly concerned about hygiene. How often realistically should I be allowed out for a proper wash?


Graeme,

First of all let me apologize for taking so long to answer this. If you haven’t already figured out a good cleaning routine I hope you haven’t gotten discouraged and given up on chastity for that reason!

Hygiene is certainly an important issue for anybody who’s locked for more than a day at a time. Failing to keep things clean can lead to any number of problems, ranging from fairly minor (stink) to more serious health issues like infections (especially if there are also any open sores in the area which can sometimes happen with chastity).

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My first chastity “sentence” in the Jail Bird, which also happened to be by far my longest continuous chastity term to date, came to an end last week. Unlike sometimes when I am let out of my device, there was no big fanfare involved, and no hot & sexy story to recount about the event. Pretty much no reason to even act like I was out, besides the fact that I was indeed free for well over a day so I felt it was worth resetting the counter and calling it a new session.

canstockphoto38512116.jpgLast Wednesday, I had a doctor appointment scheduled in the afternoon as a consultation for an upcoming colon screening. I kind of doubted that being locked would be an issue at all for just the consultation, but not knowing for sure I had asked Angel about a week earlier if she would be able to unlock me for this appointment, and she agreed. However, we both ended up forgetting about it, and I just remembered that morning as we were both getting ready for work. Unfortunately, that morning tension was already kind of high and tempers flaring a little bit around our house (I’m sure anyone who has ever had to deal with misbehaving children while already running late for work knows exactly the situation we were going through!) So in that case I opted to not add even more to Angel’s plate and ask again to be released. Since I do know exactly where she keeps the keys, once she left the house I just went back and let myself out of the Jail Bird before I went to work myself. Like I said, no fanfare whatsoever!

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Today I have hit a full SIX MONTHS straight of being locked in the Jail Bird!  This is already roughly two months longer than my previous personal chastity record, and still counting.  Now this is not to say that I have had completely zero orgasms over the past 6 months or have been locked absolutely 24×7 since October 4, 2016, but both of those statements are ALMOST true.

According to my records on my Current Status page, I have only been unlocked very briefly a total of 4 times over the past 6 months, including two of them on the same day.  I would estimate that I have had less than 1 hour TOTAL of “freedom” since we began this lock-up session.  And each of those outings did include an orgasm, so I can say that I’ve had a total of 4 full orgasms plus 2 of what I like to call “Chastegasms.”  So I guess you could say that I am still averaging 1 “release” per month, give or take a few days/weeks.

Now I’m not going to lie, a chastegasm does feel pretty damn good and does provide a bit of relief from all of the pent up sexual energy that just keeps building inside of me during long periods of chastity.  It ends up being pretty close to a “normal” orgasm, but still very different at the same time.  There’s just something about being scrunched in a steel cage less than 2 inches long, not being able to get completely hard at all and not feeling the stroking motion all the way down your shaft that makes it a completely new experience.  The only way I’ve ever even been able to have one is with very strong vibrations (i.e. from a Hitachi Magic Wand) directly on the tip of the cage.  The most recent such experience was just this past weekend, and it’s a fun story!

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I have been wanting for a while to write up a good review of my “Jail Bird” chastity device now that I’ve been wearing it for some time, so here it is!  I’m going to at least try to make this somewhat of a shortened version though.  I know that I’ve written before, and I will still maintain that among Mature Metal’s devices, the Jail Bird and Queen’s Keep are VERY similar in terms of form, function, comfort, etc.  So probably 99% of what I wrote in my Queen’s Keep review will still apply to this device.  That can be viewed HERE.  Instead of repeating much of that information, I will instead try to focus on the differences that I made in the new order and how that’s been working out for me, much of which would have been the same had I been ordering a new Queen’s Keep as well! (more…)


Happy Valentine’s Day, everybody!  Being how it falls in the middle of the week this year, Angel and I had a chance to celebrate this past weekend instead.  Friday night we had an all-night sitter for the kids, so when those nights come around something fun is almost always bound to happen!  We started off with getting tickets to a Broadway production currently touring at a theatre in our city.  I haven’t been to a live show myself for a few years, so that’s always a good date night!  Since we ran out of time for dinner beforehand, we stopped off for some food after the show, then it was back home where we very quickly made our way to the bedroom, already getting quite frisky!

As I warmed Angel up with my hands, she wanted to jump straight to her best friend (the Magic Wand), propping it between my legs and riding herself to several quick and powerful orgasms!  I love the experience of getting to have a front row seat and being kept right on the edge for the entire time, while Angel basically just uses my body as a wand holder and comes over and over again on top of HER locked dick!  In fact there aren’t many places I’d rather be, second only to having my head down BETWEEN her legs licking her to even more orgasms..  That’s a good thing, I suppose, since as soon as she was completely drenched from riding her wand, Angel rolled over to her back and nudged me right down there to help clean up!

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I have been trying out my new Jail Bird off and on for the past few days just to start getting a feel for it, but never more than a few hours at a time so far.  It has been feeling good though, and I’ve been getting a little antsy not being locked much for the past 9 days!  It really is almost strange how chastity has become such a part of me that it really feels like something is just missing when I’m out for a while! So as of today, I am locked back up and gave Angel the keys back to hold until she’s good and ready to let me out again!  I know it will be at least a little while, as she is going out of town again this weekend to visit some family, and I will be home alone.  That’s another great thing about chastity:  I do always feel like I am still much more connected to Angel when locked, even when we are apart for a few days!

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There hasn’t been a whole lot of chastity-related activity going on around our house lately to speak of, but so far things are going pretty well with the Queen’s Keep since having it resized!  I really like the shorter length, as now I truly am always pushed up against the tip of the cage instead of not being able to completely fill it when soft.  I haven’t noticed the bad chafing that I had started getting before either.  One other thing that I HAVE changed up though, is using a dab of baby oil gel every day at the bottom of the cage and as much as I can get under the cage.  That stuff doesn’t really absorb into the skin very fast so it keeps everything nice and fluid.  It does seem to help! 
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As more and more people discover and read parts of my blog, I inevitably field a number of various questions around chastity.  I do try my best to get back with at least a brief answer for each and every question that comes up, and many of them even become an entire topic for a new blog post.  One question that seems to be asked most often is simply “WHY?  Why the heck would I actually WANT to be locked in a chastity device and be denied orgasm?  I write often about all of the orgasms/pleasure that Angel is receiving (at my “expense”), but what about MY pleasure; isn’t that important too?

canstockphoto8241603Now, the easiest answer to that question would be to just go back and read my entire blog from the beginning! After all, that’s basically what the entire subject of Thrill of the Chaste is all about! 🙂  But that’s kind of mean.. I could never actually answer one of my readers in that way!  Lol  I am into the 100’s of posts now, so that would be an awful lot of content to sift through.  And I do greatly appreciate the fact that so many people do read my blog and ask such thoughtful questions as they try to comprehend why exactly I do what I do, so I don’t think it would be fair in the least to just brush anybody aside and tell them that their question has already been answered, so go find it…

As I thought more about it, I realized that I have written pretty extensively on various blog posts about WHY I enjoy chastity so much, but I can’t recall ever dedicating one single post to that topic alone.  So here it is!  This should give a pretty good rundown of why I allow myself to be locked in chastity (and even ask for it).  When I get this question in the future, I may very well start redirecting folks back to this particular page, so if that is you, please don’t be offended that I didn’t type out a personalized, lengthy response to your question.  I think this should give you the very basics, and if you want to know more about literally ANY aspect of the lifestyle that I haven’t covered enough of here, please feel free to keep asking questions!  If you ask about something that I either don’t know or don’t have any direct experience with then I will tell you that; but if I have any insights/opinions on the topic then I’m more than happy to share it!


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I have been learning lately, that not only is a good fitting chastity device crucial for long-term comfort, but that it can actually change over time!  I wrote a tiny blurb in my last post (Left To My Own Devices) about how recently I have been noticing a bit of an issue with the very bottom of the cage kind of rubbing a sore spot on the scrotum.  I had just a tiny bit of an issue with this early on with the Queen’s Keep, but had found that keeping things lubricated and sort of “free-flowing” would solve the problem, and I hadn’t had any issue with that in quite a long time.  Lately though, it has been happening again, and it seems like none of my normal little tricks are working to make it better.  MOST of the time it isn’t too bad and I barely even notice it.  Until I do notice, then it can be difficult to get comfortable for a little while..  I have had to go so far as to take the cage off and put a band-aid over the sore spot in order to keep the cage from rubbing it too hard; and as my last post indicated, at the worst case I even had to leave it completely off for a couple days to heal.
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I had a series of questions from a reader that I wanted to share on here, about Mature Metal Devices and effects of Long Term Chastity on the psyche.  For some background, this actually started on a different forum where a question was raised about the longest period of time that people have been locked in a chastity device.  I shared that I had made it just over 4 full months of being continuously locked (see that story here).  This led to a rather lengthy private conversation with this gentleman (Fantiesiza) about what device I was using and generally how I “dealt with” being locked for that long.  Here are some excerpts of that conversation, reposted with his permission. The quoted parts will be Fantiesiza’s side of the conversation, followed by my responses.

 

Fantiesiza asked:

Hi there,

I have read your comment in a group about longest period without cumming.  You claimed a significant period of time continually locked. 

What type of device is it?  Did you need any time out of the cage for cleaning or stress relief?

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It’s an age-old question, in practically all walks of life. Men all have their opinions of what feels the most comfortable to them, and women all have opinions of what they like to see on their man! So what kind of underwear do YOU prefer: Boxers or Briefs?

Through my teenage years and most of my adult life, personally I always tended to be a Boxers kind of guy. Keep everything loose, free, and able to “breathe!” But when it comes to wearing a chastity device, I can start to see the other side of it too! On one hand, boxers can make it a little bit easier to “reposition” the cage once in a while if it starts getting uncomfortable.  On the other hand though, the closeness and extra support of briefs, can make your chastity feel even more comfortable and secure!

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Something I’ve been working on for a little while lately is trying to compile a list of normal, everyday activities that I engage in (either on a daily basis or just occasionally), which I am also able to do while wearing a chastity device.  I have added this list as a separate “Blog Page” within the side and top menus of my site.

This list is specific to myself, for activities that I have personally engaged in while chaste, but I do welcome comments (on that page, please) from readers with any other experiences you may have had–especially if there is something that you CANNOT do while wearing a device!  For the most part, it seems like my Queen’s Keep does not really prohibit me from doing anything that comes up during my normal, daily routine.

The last point I wanted to make is that this list is primarily for NON-SEXUAL activities, as things that I can/cannot do in that department are fairly obvious–not to mention well documented throughout this blog!  Chastity is somewhat of a unique “kink” (for long-term wearers, at least) given how it extends far outside the bedroom, and into every mundane detail of our lives!

I will update this list periodically, as I think of anything new to add, so feel free to check back once in a while to see what’s different or to let me know about your own experiences!

The full list that I’ve come up with so far can be viewed here:

Chaste Activities

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I recently had a question from a reader regarding Chastity Game Rules; specifically how I actually count time locked vs. unlocked.
Servinghimwithchastity wrote (in response to “Four Months in the Keep“):

A super congratulations! That was a very long time and much longer than we have been able to go, hats off. I believe we are caught up with all your past posts but am wondering what your “game rules” are. We never know how long my hubbie has been “officially” locked. About 2 weeks ago he had an accident right in his cage (my fault), we don’t believe that counts as an unlocking. And about 3 weeks ago I was not having a good day (it happened to land on a bad day of the month 😦 ) and I unlocked him out of anger and told him to give it to me. I wasn’t even warmed up and as he had been locked for a few weeks at that point he lasted exactly 2 pumps and I put his device back on, the whole thing ended up being a lesson but does that count as unlocked? We were thinking it maybe it counts if he sleeps without the device on. I know it’s whatever “rules” you want it to be but if you can post (or point me to where you already posted) your rules of an official unlocking, we would love to follow them! You never know, your rules may become “The Official Rules to Chastity Time Locked”.

Thanks so much for your posts, we always look forward to reading them and get so excited for you and yours.

I hope your release is mind blowing.

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JUST in case you’re wondering, yes–the play on words in my title was very intentional! Four months of being locked in the Queen’s Keep pretty much equates to four straight months of foreplay leading up to the big event that we had this past Saturday night! So yes, I think that the term “fourplay” seems to be most appropriate! 🙂

I wasn’t completely sure if I would be getting out this past weekend or not.  Friday night came and went without much of a word about it.  Saturday, Angel did start hinting quite a bit that she “might” unlock me. Later that night after we had gotten the kids down to bed, we started talking about maybe taking a shower together since we had relatively early plans on Sunday morning and it would be much more difficult to take them while trying to get the kids going at the same time. The reasoning was sound, plus we don’t seem to get many opportunities to actually shower TOGETHER anymore, so of course I was all for that idea!  As she went off to get undressed, Angel also commented that maybe we should also go ahead and get that code for the lockbox (from EmlaLock).
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We’ve done it!  Four full months of being locked 24×7 in the Queen’s Keep with absolutely no release, even for a cleaning! I’d say it’s a good thing I chose one of the more “open” chastity designs, like the Queen’s Keep, otherwise it would be much more difficult to take care of and keep the device from getting rather smelly!  At any rate, I might have been able to get a break from it last weekend after EmlaLock released the keys back to us, except for the fact that Angel decided that as close as we were we should shoot for a full 4 months..  So here we are! My previous record duration of 60 days has been completely shattered (by more than double).  I could try to say it’s been the hardest 4 months of my life (no pun intended!), but it really hasn’t! 
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As I wrote about last week, the EmlaLock session that I had started which kept my keys completely out of reach for a couple months has ended.  We have not yet actually clicked the “End” button and gotten the combination to the lockbox, but Angel now has full say again of when that will happen.  The control is completely back in her hands again, and she has already taken great advantage of that fact!

Based only on recent bedroom talk and knowing our past history, I actually rather expected that Angel would most likely be letting me out sometime this past weekend.  I know that she has been desperately craving the intimate, one-on-one connection between us that only “real” sex seems to be able to fully provide.  Yes, I have been practically bouncing off the walls at times too, wanting my OWN release, but that is completely secondary to HER wants/needs and I wouldn’t have it any other way!

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At last, my session on EmlaLock has reached the end, and the combination to the lockbox holding my keys is now within reach!

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We’re coming down the home stretch! At most, it should only be about 10 more days before EmlaLock reaches the “max time” for my chastity session and releases the combination to the keys, effectively giving Angel full control once again of when I will actually be unlocked. But my feeling is that it will be a little bit earlier than that, so I’m expecting it to hit at some point this coming week! I have told Angel that as well, and she is definitely looking forward to having me out and being able to feel me inside of her again!
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I decided to go back through the records on my Current Status page and add up how many total days I was locked in a chastity device vs. being unlocked during 2015.  I was actually somewhat surprised by the results: For every day that I was free, I spent almost 5 days locked up!

The year ended the same way as it began, with me locked in the Queen’s Keep.  At the beginning of the year, the steel device was brand new to me and that was the very first session where I had turned control of these keys over to Angel.  But she took to it like a fish to water, and started keeping me locked far more than not!
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I had another question from a reader, this one about possible unwanted side effects from engaging in long-term chastity.

🔒🍆🗝👸🏽 wrote:

Hi, I’m an avid follower and love your writing. My wife and I enjoy it as we have much in common with you guys (or as much as can be surmised from your writing) ;).

I know you can lay an issue we have with chastity to rest once and for all, get it from the horses mouth so to speak. We have gone to 20 days in the past and read you can either have difficulty achieving erection or your size of the erection gets diminished with long term chastity. My wife saw this and immediately unlocked me. Now we are going to try for 6 weeks but were hoping you can put our concerns to rest.

Any advice you might have would be wonderful, thanks!

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Well 🔒🍆🗝👸🏽, here’s the deal.  First of all, thank you for the compliment! It is rather flattering to hear that I have an “avid follower!” Lol
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