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I feel like it’s been a while since I’ve been able to write anything, as life has been pretty crazy for the past few weeks.. Not in a bad way or anything, just lots of things going on with the kids, plus Angel and I have been taking some dance lessons together so that has been interesting. It’s been pretty fun, but kind of crazy trying to juggle between babysitters, etc. for at least one night most weeks so we can go out for a while.

But even through our hectic “vanilla” lives, it seems like there has still been plenty of the “kinky” stuff going on behind the scenes too. For one, I’m still locked in the Jail Bird–and loving it! And Angel gets off on that fact so much too, which just makes me love it even more! We haven’t had a whole lot of actual “play time” lately, but when we do we have really been incorporating the strap-on a LOT more! As in, ME wearing the strap-on over the top of my cage, and filling Angel up with a fake dick considerably larger than the real one still locked away…

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I had some more great questions come in from a new reader, regarding (among other things) how I brought my wife on board with male chastity and “convinced” her to keep me locked for longer periods.

bigdaddyb wrote:

I haven’t read through all of your posts (just found the site today) but I have a few questions as I have been trying to figure out how to get my wife to be interested in chastity play.

1. How did you bring it up to your wife and did she show interest right away or did you have to slowly work into it?

2. How long did she lock you up for to begin with? (I read about your current status and lengthy lock up with enjoyment and excitement).

3. Did you have to tell her not to let you out/deny you at first? or did she take to it right away and keep you in? I ask this one because even though I have told my wife how much the thought of T&D in chastity excites me – including the denial part – she still hasn’t kept me locked more than 4 days so far.

4. Did your wife always enjoy her wand or is it something she had to get use to? I bought my wife a wand and a rabbit vibe based on everything I had read thinking that she would enjoy them and that would be a means for her to orgasm while keeping me locked but she has not shown interest in them saying that “they don’t do anything for me”.

5. Does she keep the keys hidden or does she wear one on a necklace/anklet/bracelet?

Thanks in advance for any answers/input. I’m hoping that she will eventually see the fun that can be had for her by being a more strict keyholder.


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My first chastity “sentence” in the Jail Bird, which also happened to be by far my longest continuous chastity term to date, came to an end last week. Unlike sometimes when I am let out of my device, there was no big fanfare involved, and no hot & sexy story to recount about the event. Pretty much no reason to even act like I was out, besides the fact that I was indeed free for well over a day so I felt it was worth resetting the counter and calling it a new session.

canstockphoto38512116.jpgLast Wednesday, I had a doctor appointment scheduled in the afternoon as a consultation for an upcoming colon screening. I kind of doubted that being locked would be an issue at all for just the consultation, but not knowing for sure I had asked Angel about a week earlier if she would be able to unlock me for this appointment, and she agreed. However, we both ended up forgetting about it, and I just remembered that morning as we were both getting ready for work. Unfortunately, that morning tension was already kind of high and tempers flaring a little bit around our house (I’m sure anyone who has ever had to deal with misbehaving children while already running late for work knows exactly the situation we were going through!) So in that case I opted to not add even more to Angel’s plate and ask again to be released. Since I do know exactly where she keeps the keys, once she left the house I just went back and let myself out of the Jail Bird before I went to work myself. Like I said, no fanfare whatsoever!

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I had a Reader question come in via one of my older posts (Queen’s Keep: Official Review) regarding my observation that shorter chastity cages seem to work better than longer devices and are much more comfortable for the long-term.  I felt that my response was getting a bit too wordy for the comments section, so here we are with a new post!

Tamekeri asks:

I’m curious. Can you explain why having less space in the cage means less strain on the scrotum? From what you wrote, it sounds like the less space there is in the cage, the less the penis can grow. But in my experience, the penis will grow no matter what. The less room it has to grow outwards, the more the erection is pulled into the body, but the more pressure there also is for it to go outwards. Which means that the less space there is in the cage, the more strain there will be on the scrotum, not less.


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Today I have hit a full SIX MONTHS straight of being locked in the Jail Bird!  This is already roughly two months longer than my previous personal chastity record, and still counting.  Now this is not to say that I have had completely zero orgasms over the past 6 months or have been locked absolutely 24×7 since October 4, 2016, but both of those statements are ALMOST true.

According to my records on my Current Status page, I have only been unlocked very briefly a total of 4 times over the past 6 months, including two of them on the same day.  I would estimate that I have had less than 1 hour TOTAL of “freedom” since we began this lock-up session.  And each of those outings did include an orgasm, so I can say that I’ve had a total of 4 full orgasms plus 2 of what I like to call “Chastegasms.”  So I guess you could say that I am still averaging 1 “release” per month, give or take a few days/weeks.

Now I’m not going to lie, a chastegasm does feel pretty damn good and does provide a bit of relief from all of the pent up sexual energy that just keeps building inside of me during long periods of chastity.  It ends up being pretty close to a “normal” orgasm, but still very different at the same time.  There’s just something about being scrunched in a steel cage less than 2 inches long, not being able to get completely hard at all and not feeling the stroking motion all the way down your shaft that makes it a completely new experience.  The only way I’ve ever even been able to have one is with very strong vibrations (i.e. from a Hitachi Magic Wand) directly on the tip of the cage.  The most recent such experience was just this past weekend, and it’s a fun story!

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So this isn’t directly chastity related, but it COULD be! A man trying to wear a metal cock ring that’s too small, gets it stuck on, and has to have the local fire department cut it off with an angle grinder!

I’ve linked to the original news article below, as well as pasted the text directly into my blog in case the link ever goes away for any reason..  It’s also a pretty interesting read (with more detail on the case) from the Irish Medical Journal, here:

http://imj.ie/multidisciplinary-emergent-removal-of-a-metal-penoscrotal-constriction-device/

The bottom line here folks is measure, measure, measure! Don’t try to be tough and wear a base ring with your chastity device that’s way too tight! If it’s painful, get it off right away and try something else.  Don’t let this be you next!

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There are a few other chastity sites/forums (besides mine) that I follow fairly religiously, and will chime in once in a while on various subjects when I feel I might have something relevant to say.  I’m not going to call out the other sites here, but it’s likely that at least some of you reading this have probably seen me perusing other groups! 🙂  Anyway, one topic that seems to come up on a somewhat regular basis is that of revealing your chastity device to others.  Especially others who may not know anything about this kind of thing, and probably don’t WANT to know anything about that side of your sexuality!  Most of the time in the groups I’m reading this is centered around chastity specifically, but it can usually also be applied to revealing any other “kink” to unsuspecting persons, and it generally gets into the issue of consent vs. non-consent as well.

The place this comes up most often is when talking about wearing a chastity device in a locker room, be it at the gym, pool, or elsewhere.  I guess for some locked-up guys it’s kind of exciting to be exposed in that type of environment with a risk of being seen, or getting “caught.”  These usually turn into fairly lengthy discussions, with at least one person adamantly stating that it is NEVER ok to purposely force your kink onto non-consenting outsiders.  It’s an interesting debate.  I can see both sides to this, and I think locker rooms in particular seem to be a pretty big gray area.
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I have been wanting for a while to write up a good review of my “Jail Bird” chastity device now that I’ve been wearing it for some time, so here it is!  I’m going to at least try to make this somewhat of a shortened version though.  I know that I’ve written before, and I will still maintain that among Mature Metal’s devices, the Jail Bird and Queen’s Keep are VERY similar in terms of form, function, comfort, etc.  So probably 99% of what I wrote in my Queen’s Keep review will still apply to this device.  That can be viewed HERE.  Instead of repeating much of that information, I will instead try to focus on the differences that I made in the new order and how that’s been working out for me, much of which would have been the same had I been ordering a new Queen’s Keep as well! (more…)


Happy Valentine’s Day, everybody!  Being how it falls in the middle of the week this year, Angel and I had a chance to celebrate this past weekend instead.  Friday night we had an all-night sitter for the kids, so when those nights come around something fun is almost always bound to happen!  We started off with getting tickets to a Broadway production currently touring at a theatre in our city.  I haven’t been to a live show myself for a few years, so that’s always a good date night!  Since we ran out of time for dinner beforehand, we stopped off for some food after the show, then it was back home where we very quickly made our way to the bedroom, already getting quite frisky!

As I warmed Angel up with my hands, she wanted to jump straight to her best friend (the Magic Wand), propping it between my legs and riding herself to several quick and powerful orgasms!  I love the experience of getting to have a front row seat and being kept right on the edge for the entire time, while Angel basically just uses my body as a wand holder and comes over and over again on top of HER locked dick!  In fact there aren’t many places I’d rather be, second only to having my head down BETWEEN her legs licking her to even more orgasms..  That’s a good thing, I suppose, since as soon as she was completely drenched from riding her wand, Angel rolled over to her back and nudged me right down there to help clean up!

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I had kind of an interesting, self-imposed experience last weekend which, well.. didn’t exactly go quite as planned/expected!  First off the boys went to spend Saturday night with their Grandpa, meaning Angel and I got the evening completely to ourselves.  After dinner and a movie we did rather quickly make it to the bedroom to have plenty of fun giving Angel numerous orgasms while I still continued to be denied in the Jail Bird!  (Which, by the way, I still have no idea when I may be out of again, but will at least be trying to write up a bit of a review of soon!)

After we were both exhausted and very satiated, it was time to get some sleep.  Angel even decided to sleep naked with me for the night, which is a fairly rare occurance these days!  It’s always nice to go to sleep snuggling up against her naked body, always just TRYING to get hard but having that steel cage constantly reminding me that it’s NOT going to happen!  With no kids in the house, it was also very likely that we would be able to pick up and continue the night’s activities again the next morning!  I think I’ve said a few times on here that morning sex is the BEST!

However, when Sunday morning came around I woke up well before Angel with a somewhat different plan brewing in my head..  I just had this deep seated desire, if not even a NEED, to have my ass played with–something we hadn’t actually engaged in at all the night before.  Since the house WAS empty, I really wanted to introduce Angel to the new spreader bar and “probe” that I wrote about playing with once a few weeks ago (see “Hands Free Anal“).  So after a little bit of contemplating how I wanted it to happen, I grabbed a few things from a bin under our bed and headed to the basement..

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Last year around this time I went through my Current Status page and wrote up a 2015 Lock-up Summary, so I thought I’d do the same thing again for 2016.  Turns out I’m very consistent!  I felt like I was probably locked more this past year than I was the year before, but it turns out that is not true.  I was let out FEWER times, but some of them were for longer durations, so it kind of evened out.  For example, in 2015 I reported being let out of chastity 9 times, for a total of 61 days.  In 2016, I was only let out 5 times, for a total of 62 days!  As with last year, for those 5 “release periods” I only counted times where I was let out for at least one full day at a time.  If I was only out for a few minutes for a quickie orgasm or something then locked right back up, I still count that as being in chastity for that day (just being used by Angel however SHE sees fit!)

Last year I did the math to determine that I was LOCKED for a total of 304 days, or 83% of the year.  With 2016 being a leap year and all, turns out I was STILL locked for a total 304 days, or 83% of the year!  I had no idea that I was being so consistent for two years in a row, but that is still a LOT of time locked!  I know there were a couple of those 5 “outings” where I was free for about 2 weeks at a time, and one where I was out for a full 3 weeks.  Some of that was vacation related, and some was holding off on a new device to arrive, etc.  I suspect those kind of scenarios will be increasingly few and far between though.  I have actually vowed to Angel that this year (short of any unforeseen circumstances popping up) if she’s not actively “using” her dick then I will do my best to keep it locked at all times!  So we will just have to see how easy it is to keep that promise throughout 2017.

I also always find it very fun & rewarding to go back and reread some of my other posts over the past year to remember and sort of relive some of the highlights!

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Once again I just wanted to wish everybody a Happy New Year, and take a few moments to recap the fun night that WE had this past weekend, albeit a day early for the new year.  I knew that Angel and I would be out all night with the extended family on new year’s eve, so I had planned our own little party the night before!  Once we were sure the kids were both sound asleep, I had Angel change into a sexy new piece of lingerie I’d bought for her and meet me in the bedroom.  I wish I could get a couple pics on here of that but I doubt she’d appreciate that very much!  But it is this bright red outfit, trimmed in black lace which just barely covers the nipples, then a pair of black fishnet stockings and some new strappy high heels.  Very tall heels have never really been Angel’s “thing,” but I bought her a pair this time anyway hoping she might try them on for me at least once, and I must say that they do look very HOT on her!  She is a tall woman anyway, and these actually make her even taller than me.  When she’s standing and I’m not, it’s as if Angel is just completely towering over me which just seems to add even more to the new D/s dynamic that has been growing ever stronger between us lately!

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Happy Chaste New Year everybody!  I still have to go back and see just exactly how much I was locked this past year as compared to the year before, but it definitely felt like more.  And I don’t really make “resolutions,” but if I have one main goal for this coming year it will be to stay locked for Angel even more than ever before!

I am so used to this as a lifestyle now, that it almost seems strange to be unlocked much longer than a few hours at a time.  I’m guessing that this year will bring much more of being unlocked whenever Angel wants me out, and at that ONLY for however long it takes to please her!  Then I can go right back into the Jail Bird until the next time..  Pending any “life” circumstances that might dictate otherwise (doctor visits? vacations-air travel? unforseen device issues?) I don’t really see much reason not to be able to commit to that for all of 2017!


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Wow, can I just say: This has been one of the more fun & rewarding Christmas seasons that I can ever remember!  Of course, our boys are at just the right age where they are really into everything, so that is always a blast to watch them. But Angel and I have also been able to have even more of our own fun behind closed doors, every day lately!  Honestly I can’t even remember the last day that we DIDN’T either wake up and/or go to bed with some play time, and with SO many orgasms for Angel!  I’m sure it’s been every day for at least the better part of the past two weeks now, and I see no reason that this streak might break at least until we get into the new year!

Some of the most fun yet, has been just the past couple of nights, starting on Christmas Eve.  We knew we’d have to be getting up early with the boys the next day to see what Santa brought for them, but Angel was all for having some fun of our own the night before!  I had thought she’d be too tired that night since we were already up past midnight finishing up the last bit of wrapping, etc.  But when I realized she wasn’t I had a little early gift for her.  First I sent her off to change into a fun new piece of lingerie I’d picked up for her.  She had asked for something rather “slutty” for christmas, so when she came back in her red lace outfit decked out with bits of white fur along the neckline and of course crotchless panties, I could tell by the look on her face that she was really going to love being my slutty little Mrs. Clause for the evening!  For myself, I had pulled on a new pair of green velvet underwear complete with a red ribbon tied into a bow right at the tip of my cage.  A nice little “present” for Angel to unwrap later if she so desired!

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Merry Christmas, everybody!  True to our now almost-famous jingle (LOL) still posted down below, I am still locked for Christmas!  I did have one little surprise release about two days before the holiday, but was immediately locked back up afterwards.  Other than that there is no end in sight until Angel decides… And that, to me, is the best gift she could give me!

So while we’re on the topic of songs, Christmas Carols, etc. I will sign off today with a very quick stab at another familiar tune.  Primarily targeted at anybody who is locked in chastity, thinking of being locked in chastity, or locking or thinking of locking somebody ELSE into chastity.  Enjoy!

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Had a little fun at home alone this afternoon and the poetic juices kind of started flowing! I couldn’t help but to just write it down and get a post out here before I changed my mind…  This may be just a tiny bit “raunchier” than my normal blog entry and definitely NSFW!


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Besides a couple of new things that I wrote about in my last post that Angel and I explored in November, I forgot to mention something else we’ve been doing pretty much every night for almost a month now.  And that is that I, at least, have been sleeping completely nude (except for the Jail Bird, of course!)  There have always been occasional nights where we would do this, after an evening of sexy fun, then we would both just sort of collapse into each other and fall asleep.  But normally we would each get up at some point (not necessarily at the same time) and pull on some underwear at the very least.  I would especially tend to do that fairly quickly as I’ve always preferred to not just be “flopping around” all over the place while I sleep! 🙂

But one night early last month we must have just REALLY worn ourselves out, because we both went all night sleeping like that.  And I’ve got to tell you, it felt pretty great!  Just having our warm bodies pressed up against each other all night was a treat in itself, but then it also made it that much easier for an extra round the next morning.  Even when I stay locked, morning sex really is the best!! (more…)


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November is coming to an end and I am still locked, for ~56 days now and still counting. This is my first stint in the new “Jail Bird” chastity device, and I am really loving it so far! All in all there is really very little difference between this one and my Queen’s Keep, other than the fact that I think I really have finally gotten the measurements near-perfect now. The length and diameter of the cage do keep me very restricted to my most flaccid size. I was even sick one day a couple weeks ago, and that’s when I can usually really tell exactly how large a cage is on me since that’s obviously when I’m by far the LEAST aroused! But in this case it really didn’t change much; the cage still fit very tightly all the way around the sides and tip! The only thing I may change, eventually, is the gap size between the base ring and the cage. It’s not terrible, but does seem just a hair too long. So one of these days when I might happen to be unlocked for a few days, I may decide to go ahead and send it back in for Mature Metal to reduce that by at least 1/2 a size.

canstockphoto17076699So I’m still locked, but Angel and I HAVE been able to have quite a lot of fun this month! Mostly for her benefit of course, but some for me as well. I have even managed… Let’s call it 1 1/2 orgasms for myself this month! Starting with the full one, I remember there was one night after I had been treating Angel to one orgasm after another with my fingers, tongue, magic wand, etc. and she decided that she really wanted to see me have one as well! I wasn’t going to be allowed inside of her, but she really wanted to make me come by HER mouth! She handed me the key to the Jail Bird, and I had the cage off very quickly. When I started to take the base ring off though, she stopped me saying that I might as well leave that piece there, as I was DEFINITELY going right back in! Have I ever mentioned how hot that is when Angel takes charge to that extent? 🙂 Anyhow, as HER dick was springing to life, Angel took it a step further and pulled out our cuffs from under the bed so she could secure both of my hands to the corners. Now she could really have her way with me!

Angel teased and tantalized me for several minutes before finally taking her plaything into her mouth and licking/sucking in such a way as I’m not sure I’ve ever felt before! This only took a few minutes before I was right on the edge and practically begging her to either finish it off or just lock me back up and let me simmer down that way. It was completely her choice and I truly didn’t care; I just couldn’t take much more of that! Angel had never really considered the latter proposal, and thinks that would be kind of “mean,” but she did finally give permission to explode in her mouth. That was about the best I’d felt in a long time, and as I laid there reveling in the moment I barely noticed that I was still tied to the bed for a while when Angel disappeared to the bathroom to clean up a bit. When she came back and released me, I went to the bathroom as well, taking the Jail Bird with me, and dutifully locked right back up again as per Angel’s request. Total time out was less than 20 minutes, so in my opinion that doesn’t really count as being out of chastity as far as my Current Status page is concerned. That streak will continue until I’ve been out for at least most of one full day. After all, I’m only counting days locked, not necessarily days without an orgasm! 🙂

20161129_070637.jpgThe other more memorable experience from this past month involved playing with a new toy! We now have one of these double-dildo type things, or a “strapless strap-on” if you will. We have used a regular strap-on several times in the past, mostly with me wearing it over my cage and letting Angel feel some real penetration while I get zero stimulation from it whatsoever. Only once have we reversed roles with HER wearing the strap-on and taking me in the ass, which was also quite an enjoyable experience! This time, I took it upon myself to at least try to provide something more pleasurable for both of us at the same time. This time, ANGEL was the one tied to the bed (at her request even, which is somewhat rare!) I was not unlocked at all this time, but got to spend a good amount of time working her entire body, drawing orgasm after orgasm from her! After a while of this, I pulled out the new toy, lubed up the short end and worked it inside of her. I had to go very slow with that as it almost seemed to be hurting her, but I don’t know if that’s because it was just too big/inflexible, or Angel just isn’t really used to being penetrated much anymore! Regardless, it eventually slipped in and Angel became more accustomed to it. Now it was my turn, so I also lubed up the longer end, then straddled her while slipping it into my ass! It took a little while to get the angles right for it to be comfortable, but eventually everything hit home!

This toy does also have a pretty good little vibrator built into it, though I believe I was feeling much more of that than Angel was. As I kind of bounced around on top of her, exactly the way that she typically enjoys riding ME, I was feeling like I was VERY close to having a little mini-orgasm just from anal stimulation alone! But alas, as I was getting pretty close to it, the vibrator’s battery died. It’s rechargable, and only comes partially charged at time of purchase, so I guess that’s what I get for not following the directions and taking the time to fully charge it before the first use! Lol Though that part was over, it still felt pretty amazing being completely impaled while riding on top of Angel. Her magic wand was still laying right there beside us, so I tried picking that up and holding it against the toy to continue the sensation–but it didn’t work particularly well. I settled with holding the wand against my cage, which of course made EVERYTHING try to spring to life once more! It wasn’t long at all before I knew I was close. It’s not like Angel was in much of a position to stop me, but I still asked her permission to finish myself off on her belly. She was throughly enjoying the show happening on top of her, and oblidged my request. Pretty much as soon as I got the nod, it was all over! Of course it felt very nice and all, but there’s still just something quite different about coming from within the confines of my cage, where I am not fully hard in the least! So I guess that’s what I’ll call the 1/2 orgasm. Not exactly a “ruined” one, but certainly not the normal full-blown “out of this world” experience either!

canstockphoto37653771.jpgSo that’s the latest, and now I’m still locked for who knows how long. Most likely at least until the holidays, as fitting for our song that Angel just loves for me to play for her daily! For November I did manage a couple of brief releases despite being locked in my Jail Bird for the whole month. But hey, even a REAL “jailbird” might be granted a conjugal visit on occasion, right? I know, I know… The jokes kind of write themselves with this device, right? Lol


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I’ll Be Locked For Christmas

Lyrics by: pcguy0681
Music by: Dying Seed
To the tune of Bing Crosby’s classic melody: “I’ll Be Home For Christmas”


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Happy Thanksgiving, everybody!  As usual I have SOO much to be thankful for, including my great family and wonderful friends–from old friends who have known me for years, except for this ONE tiny part of my life, to several NEW friends I’ve been able to make this year who DO know of this part of me!

When Angel and I woke up this morning snuggling and telling each other “Happy Thanksgiving,” Angel began by saying that she was very thankful for me. Of course I had to reciprocate that I am thankful for HER as well.. Along with being thankful that she still keeps the keys to my chastity device, and therefore the “control!” I’m thankful that I can just completely let go and be myself with her, and of how she takes care of me.  I’m thankful that I so often get to feel like I’m part of something much “bigger and better” when SHE loses herself to the pleasure of one orgasm after another while I’m denied yet still riding that “high” right along with her, over and over again!

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This isn’t going to be anything directly related to my own chastity experience, but I just wanted to throw out another little nod to my web-savvy readers and how you guys might happen to find my little blog out here in the vast expanses of the internet!

One thing that’s kind of nice about WordPress (that’s who hosts my blog here, JUST in case you didn’t know!) is that it gives all kinds of stats about how many visitors you get each day/week/month, as well as country of origin, what other site they may have clicked through to reach mine, etc.  One thing I’ve always found particularly interesting are the various search queries that folks will type into a web browser, and ultimately end up on my site.  Apparently some search engines (Google in particular) encrypt that kind of data so I can’t actually see what terms were being searched, which is unfortunate because I do know that quite a lot of my traffic does come through Google first!  I’m sure that those probably account for the majority of nearly 20,000 “unknown search terms” to be flagged in my stats.

But none-the-less I do still get to see quite a number of queries generated from other search engines, and wanted to take some time to examine a few of them, possibly spread out over multiple posts.  It’s entirely possible that there could be some search terms that landed on my site for which I only have some tiny little blurb, but nothing very substantial/helpful to the person searching for information.  If I find something like that along the way, it could even generate a more lengthy response if it’s a topic that I have some good experience to share!

So let’s just start at the very top of the list…  The top 5 search queries to find “Thrill of the Chaste” are:

  1. Male Chastity
  2. Mature Metal
  3. Carlilock
  4. Male Chastity with kids in the house
  5. Chastity blog

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