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When Locktober Ends…

Posted: October 31, 2018 in Chastity, Fetish, Kinky, Orgasm Denial

Happy Halloween, everybody! And for anybody who participated, the end of Locktober! If this was your first time being caged and/or orgasm free for an entire month, let me be among the first to say congratulations! That is no small feat, and definitely something to be proud of! There may be a push for many to continue right on through to “NO-vember” and “DENY-ember” or whatever the play on words are for those months. But I would say to do whatever feels right to YOU! If you think it’s time to take a break to enjoy being free for a while, then work back into longer periods of chastity, then do that.

If you’ve made it a month now, my guess is that you have experienced first hand how great chastity can be. And if you have a key-holder, I hope that THEY have also seen first hand how great chastity can be! Even if you’re happy to be free after today, my guess is that it’s burned into your brain enough now that you will soon crave going back in and breaking your own personal lock-up records. That is, at least if you’re anything at all like me and many others I’ve interacted with over the years in the Chastity world! πŸ™‚

As written in my last post, I was personally let out a couple times very briefly during the month, but now will be locked for good until well into 2019 at a minimum. That will most likely become MY personal record, and I am looking forward to that as well!

If anybody has any fun stories that you would like to share, whether about being chaste for all of Locktober or any other topic, feel free to leave in the comments below or e-mail me directly. I love to hear from YOU! πŸ™‚


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Half way through Locktober, I WAS let out of the Jailbird twice, for a full blown orgasm each time. So I won’t be able to say that I was locked completely 24/7 for the entire month, but each time out was so short (maybe about 30 minutes TOTAL) that I’ll just add a note and not even reset the counter on my Current Status page.

Angel does like the idea of Locktober, but it just so happens that our anniversary falls during the same month. And as previously written, I surprised her with a trip to a place with a private pool inside our suite! (re-read that story here in case you missed it!) I had joked with Angel before we left, that this surprise was probably going to have her so turned on that it was going to be a “panty-dropping moment” as soon as she saw what it was! Her response was “Oh, we’re going to Hugh Jackman’s house?!” Dammit.. Guess I’ll have to settle for SECOND best panty-dropping surprise for her! Lol

But nonetheless, we obviously had LOTS of sexy time together last weekend, of which there will be many more details written here in future posts! I was locked for the vast majority of time, but Angel made comments on several occasions that before we left she wanted to have me out and actually have REAL sex in the pool for a change! I blew that off and kept redirecting her attention (with more orgasms, of course) as long as I could, but after all she IS the one ultimately in control of whether or not I am allowed out of chastity! (more…)


Well we made it to Sybaris last night! I managed to keep the destination for our 10th anniversary trip a secret from Angel for a good month, and it was worth it for her reaction when she stepped through the door (and took off the blindfold I made her wear for the last mile! Lol) This place is AMAZING! This post will be short and not formatted as well as normal since I don’t have a computer here and it’s all from my phone (while floating in the pool no less, waiting for Angel to wake up), but I wanted to at least try to share a couple pics.

This is all within our private space, for THREE WHOLE DAYS!!!

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It’s been one week now that I’ve been locked for this round of chastity, and boy am I feeling it! I think I was out for way too long this last time. In fact, from the amount of self-indulgence going on I KNOW I was definitely out way too long! In the past I don’t think I ever thought much of it when I’d read of a guy who was either locking himself up or being locked by his partner as a way of “controlling masturbation.” I don’t think I ever did it THAT much; I just enjoyed the feeling of being locked and especially the feeling of Angel getting off herself on the fact that I COULDN’T get off!

But over these past 3 months, I have definitely done more than my share. I always knew I should stop and put the focus back on Angel again, it was just a little “hard” (no pun intended!) to do so without a direct order from my Wife/Mistress/Key-holder. Thankfully, “Locktober” provided enough of an excuse to lock myself back up, and on top of that I finally got the order that I craved at the same time!

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Angel and I have been taking some dance lessons together for a little while now, and recently got back into the routine of that after taking nearly a year off due to Angel having a little accident and breaking her leg right above the ankle. Last week we had one of our private lessons, followed immediately by a group class which we’d signed up for that week.

In the groups, men and women are lined up opposite each other to learn our respective steps separately. Then we try them again with a partner. Most folks generally at least begin with the partner they came with, but there are also sometimes singles in the group on either side; and anyways after a couple of practice steps with your partner they make it a point to rotate the line so that everybody essentially dances with everybody else at various points through the night. It is a good system, and we’ve both learned a lot more that way from people who had already learned from past missteps, and can sometimes offer more practical pointers than what the instructors might necessarily think of on the spot.

Anyway, the point is that last week while rotating through the line, there was one woman in particular that I ended up dancing with a few times whom I couldn’t help but notice was wearing a nice little charm on her necklace in the form of a heart-shaped key. I realize that odds are, this is just a completely innocent little symbol: “key to my heart” type of romantic mumbo jumbo. But of course my rather kinky, chastity brain started wondering if maybe, just maybe it was something deeper than that and she actually has somebody locked up!

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Well I’ve done it!Β  After nearly 3 full months of freedom, I am back in my Jail Bird in time for Locktober!Β  And it’s even better than I had planned.Β  I had already expected to lock myself back up and give Angel the keys, but the day I was going to do this she even went all the way and ASKED me to do it!

Sunday morning, the last day of September before I was planning to be locked again anyway, Angel and I woke up both treating each other to a nice orgasm.Β  I think I’ve said somewhere before that as much as I am NOT a morning person in the least, morning sex has always been the BEST!Β  A little while later, Angel had two requests for me:

  1. Would I give her a back rub?Β  (Yes, of course!)
  2. Would I put that cage back on until our Anniversary trip in a couple of weeks? After all, [her words] I’m MUCH more horny when locked, and that’s how Angel wants me to be for our little vacation.

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I had an e-mail a few weeks ago from Keith, who wrote:

I am male, mid 50’s and would love to try chastity the way you are doing it.Β The thing I like about your blog and lifestyle that is different than other websites is it doesn’t involve your wife cuckolding or spanking or being overly dominant. It is about controlling your sexuality which is the part I like.

I have semi jokingly asked my wife if she would lock me up and she thought I was kidding or crazy. If you google male chastity, most websites come up where the woman completely dominants the male, which my wife would not do that.

I would love for her to read your posts and have a question for you.Β  Do you know of any books or other websites that are similar to yours where chastity is used in marriage as more of a fun game for couples that is not so kinky where the wife dominants the male in other aspects? I think my wife would be more accepting to the idea if it was a little more vanilla so to speak.

Also, you are right, somewhere in your blog you mentioned more couples would do it if they tried it.

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Namely, this October marks our 10 year wedding anniversary! I’m planning a suprise, long-weekend trip in a couple of weeks for the occasion. It’s not a complete surprise, as I had to tell her to at least get an extra day off of work and we had to coordinate some family to help watch the boys that weekend. But she has no idea WHERE we are going and that has been a pretty hard secret to keep!

In fact I need to tell SOMEBODY about what we’re going to be doing, so why not anybody in the world who reads my blog? πŸ™‚ I’m pretty sure Angel does NOT read it, so my secret will be safe.. If I’m wrong, it will be worth giving up this little surprise in order to find that out! Lol
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I’m still unlocked from my chastity device, 49 days and counting. I really should lock myself back up and give Angel the keys again but there’s just something holding me back this time that I’ve been trying to really put my finger on. I guess in a way I’m almost waiting for Angel to ORDER me back in, but that has never really happened yet in the years we’ve practiced male chastity so I don’t anticipate it now either. She HAS hinted strongly at it though… Said numerous times that she was surprised I haven’t locked myself back up yet. And says that I am much more horny when locked. But she will stop short of directly asking me to go back in, even if I ask her if those comments are meant to be a directive.

Truth be told I’ve been having a bit of fun while unlocked the last several weeks. Too much fun I suppose. A big part of me still desperately craves being locked back into my Jail Bird, unable to have any orgasms without Angel’s express permission. But then again since I’m free, I have to admit that sometimes temptation just gets the best of me. In the shower, naked, warm water rolling down my body, and a nice hard dick in hand… I can’t even say how many times I’ve probably jerked one off that way over the past month or so.

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Happy Fourth of July everybody! In years past I’ve tried coming up with some clever and/or deep writings about the irony of celebrating Independence while I’ve given up one area of my own independence to Angel. But I don’t really have anything new to add along those lines so if you want to see what I’ve said previously feel free to look back through my archives! πŸ™‚

Angel and I definitely made some of our own fireworks last night which I’ll try to elaborate more on later… So stay tuned!


We just returned from a family vacation to the Northeast United States, a good 1200 miles from home! We drove there, so this made for quite a long road trip with two young boys plus all of our in-laws (Angel and I each only have one parent still living). I think spending that much time in a car together can test the patience of ANY family, but overall it really was a pretty fun trip and hopefully something the boys will remember fondly in the years to come!

One big thing that struck me on this trip that I wanted to write about here, was how Angel’s mindset towards chastity has evolved over time without her even realizing it! In years past when we would leave for a vacation, no matter how long I’d been locked ahead of time she has always been very mindful to pack the keys to my chastity device, “just in case she might decide to use them!” And usually, she does. Even if it’s only late one night while everyone else is sleeping in other rooms, she’ll want to let me out for a quickie then often lock me right back up again for the remainder of our trip.

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I’ve written at least a couple times previously about going through standard metal detectors at public venues (baseball games, the county courthouse, etc.) while wearing my Mature Metal chastity devices–and not setting off any alarms. That’s old news now, but I have a couple of newer stories to share along those lines that are kind of fun!

First, a few weeks ago Angel and I went to see some stand-up comedy. Trevor Noah (from “The Daily Show” on Comedy Central) was in town and we had tickets! It was being held at an older venue in our city that we don’t go to very often; in fact we had only been there one other time earlier this year when there was a kid show that we took the boys to see. I knew from that experience that this place does NOT have metal detectors installed at the doors at all, so I didn’t even give it a second thought to show up still locked as usual.

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What I did NOT expect, was that for this event they had security guards inside with the wand style metal detectors. Sometimes at places like this I’ve seen them just do the occasional spot checks, but here they were pretty much wanding everybody! Well, maybe not EVERYONE.. Ladies like Angel who were carrying a purse, only had their bags checked then were sent on through. But for me, I was definitely getting the wand.

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Catching up on a bit of mail from my inbox,

Jonathan asks:

Hi,

Thanks for the very interesting blog. I’ve gotten my wife into chastity
play and currently I’m wearing a CB-6000S, which is kind of OK, but
we’re planning of upgrading to a Mature Metal Jail Bird, since it seems
much better.

I have a question about the locking system though: I’d prefer to get
the device with the security screw, but it seems that you have had some
bad luck with that. Do you think it’s a general quality issue or have
you just had bad luck with it? I’d prefer having a reliable locking
system.

And do you think one could keep a padlock like in CB-6000S with a
jailbird instead of having it sideways?

Thanks in advance for your answers,

– J


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Note: I had hoped to have this published sometime over this past weekend, but didn’t quite get it all written in time. All references to Memorial Day are still very pertinent, even if a day late! πŸ™‚


As we come up on Memorial Day here in the U.S. I do want to take a moment to remember those who have given their lives in service to our great country…

I am and will always be very grateful for the sacrifice these fine folks have given to ensure the freedoms that we all take for granted today. Now without further ado and with no disrespect intended whatsoever, I want to shift focus to a different type of “memory.” This IS a chastity blog after all! πŸ™‚

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WOW, OK… Being locked in a chastity device for so long must definitely mess with a guy’s mind a bit, huh? I mean, could I really get to a point where I truly don’t even WANT to get out and have a “real” orgasm? Am I already at that point? I’ve long said that I don’t CARE when I get out, as I want it to be completely Angel’s decision… but in the heat of the moment I always still WANT to be out! Let’s back up a little bit though, and analyze my real-life account of last weekend (yes, I’ve been working this draft for several days now)…

This story takes place a week after I had ventured out into the local community to attend an intro “Rope Bondage” class. It went pretty well and was a lot of fun (read about it here and here.) I just hadn’t had any chance yet to practice any of my new knots on Angel. Saturday morning we woke up both a little frisky, but still couldn’t do very much because we heard that the kids were already up and moving around the house as well. Still, I rolled on top of her to simulate what she had to look forward to LATER if she wished! I held both of her wrists together over her head and said that I might just have to tie them like that to make sure she couldn’t stop me from giving her extra orgasms!

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A fun little poem, submitted by HappilyLockedMan. Enjoy!

Returning to bed
Her sleeping hand finds my cage
Manhood swelling against steel bars
I lay there, content

 


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CALLING ALL BASEBALL FANS!!

Or even if you’re not, you may still enjoy this! I have no idea about internationally, but at least if you live in the U.S. (even if you don’t follow the sport or attend games very often) surely everyone is at least familiar with the catchy little jingle played during the 7th Inning Stretch at pretty much every game, right?

You know, they get the old pipe organ fired up and everyone sings:

Take me out to the ball game,
Take me out with the crowd.
Buy me some peanuts and cracker jack,
I don’t care if I never get back.
Let me root, root, root for the [home team],
If they don’t win it’s a shame.
For it’s one, two, three strikes, you’re out,
At the old ball game!

WELL, I’ve gone and written some new lyrics to that tune, starting with “Lock Me Up in a Steel Cage!
Then I hired it out to be sung and get a new track created, and it is fantastic!

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Angel has been out of town this week visiting some family, and I sure do miss her! I’ve been keeping busy and pretty productive around the house in her absence (painting the boys’ room, etc.), but at night when I’m alone in our big bed… That’s when it usually seems to hit the hardest. Luckily it’s only for a couple of days, so she will be back again tonight!

In the mean time, I wanted to write briefly about a couple of new experiences that I’ve had this week while locked. The first one being that I DID go to the doctor for an annual physical for the first time in chastity! I was a little bit emboldened the last time I went for a check-up (unlocked that time) and found out that apparently they don’t really do the little testicular check much anymore… If he’s not going to be feeling around down there, I see no reason that I would “need” to be unlocked!

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And it’s true, it was no big deal at all. All we talked about was my general health, cholesterol, exercise (or lack thereof!); all that type of normal mundane stuff. If he HAD tried to go south with it, my contingency plan was to stop him and ask if this would be considered a “kink-friendly” type of practice… then would of course have to explain why I was asking and effectively be “out” to my doctor. But you know, at this stage in my life I think I would be OK with that. But at the same time I’m also VERY OK with the fact that the conversation did NOT have to happen there! πŸ™‚

The other thing I’ve done this week, I kind of splurged for a little bit of “me time” and went to a FLOAT spa. Has anybody ever heard of, or done this? Basically you get into this giant tank with like 10 inches of 97 degree water and several hundred pounds of epsom salt. You close the lid, the lights go out and you just float on your back in complete darkness and silence for the duration (90 minutes at this place). With zero outside stimuli, your brain can just completely disengage for a while letting your body completely relax and heal..

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Back in February I was contacted by Ms. Scarlett, who runs an Adult Toy Store & Blog out of the U.K., called “Toys 4 Naughty Boys.” She was getting ready to start writing an article for her blog aimed at helping people who are new to chastity and just trying to find some good beginner tips. As such, she was reaching out to “experts” who have been involved in the lifestyle for quite a while, to give some first-hand advice. I’d use the term loosely, but apparently I fit the bill as expert in this case! Lol

The article has published now, and can be read in its entirety here:

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A comment came in over on my Discussion Board that I wanted to address in a new post rather than being hidden out there on a separate page.Β  This may be one of the last topics to come through that particular board, as I am trying to figure out the best way to shut down new comments there without losing the old content, in favor of running any new such discussions through my FetLife group.

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Of course, you are always welcome to comment on any individual blog posts about the topic at hand, or send me a direct e-mail via my Contact Page.Β  Just please be advised that FetLife really is to be the preferred medium going forward for any general discussions like this that fall outside of existing blog entries.Β  It is free to join, you’ll never be forced to enter a credit card # or anything along those lines, and there is a WEALTH of information out there far beyond my group.Β  So come on out and join us!

But back to the topic at hand!Β  Juan wrote:

I’m considering chastity as a self imposed solution to reduce masturbation, porn, and clear my mind. Has anyone done it for this reason?

I have a friend that will hold the key and keep me accountable. My goal is to make it 365 days.

Suggestions and thoughts are appreciative.


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