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A comment came in over on my Discussion Board that I wanted to address in a new post rather than being hidden out there on a separate page.  This may be one of the last topics to come through that particular board, as I am trying to figure out the best way to shut down new comments there without losing the old content, in favor of running any new such discussions through my FetLife group.

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Of course, you are always welcome to comment on any individual blog posts about the topic at hand, or send me a direct e-mail via my Contact Page.  Just please be advised that FetLife really is to be the preferred medium going forward for any general discussions like this that fall outside of existing blog entries.  It is free to join, you’ll never be forced to enter a credit card # or anything along those lines, and there is a WEALTH of information out there far beyond my group.  So come on out and join us!

But back to the topic at hand!  Juan wrote:

I’m considering chastity as a self imposed solution to reduce masturbation, porn, and clear my mind. Has anyone done it for this reason?

I have a friend that will hold the key and keep me accountable. My goal is to make it 365 days.

Suggestions and thoughts are appreciative.


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Last week I recieved my Jail Bird back from Mature Metal, with a new key and new security screws that are now countersunk into the device. Ahh, it is GOOD to be home! The Holy Trainer is pretty decent as far as stock off-the-shelf plastic chastity devices go, but there is still a huge difference to get back to a custom steel device!

I will completely stand by my initial assessments of the HTV3 found here, but I did just want to elaborate a tiny bit more on a couple things now that I’ve had almost two weeks of continued usage.

Holy Trainer V3 Review – Part1
Holy Trainer V3 Review – Part2

HTV3 Design:
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I was having an e-mail conversation the other day with HappilyLockedMan and an interesting question came up that I didn’t really have an immediate, intelligent answer to.

canstockphoto10675338.jpgBy the way if you have not yet read the fictional short story of “Aaron and Melissa,” by HappilyLockedMan, I strongly encourage you to do so here!

Anyway, to put it into context we were discussing how Angel is generally a very private person in regard to her bedroom proclivities and PROBABLY doesn’t exactly know the extent to which I do tend to write about us here in my blog. It’s not that I want to hide it from her by any means, as I HAVE told her several times before that I was blogging about my chastity experiences and even offered a link if she wanted to have a look. She has never taken me up on it, and I seriously doubt she’s ever gone to the trouble to try and find it on her own.

HappilyLockedMan inquired: 

… Do you sometimes feel that you’re on thin ice in that if your wife read it you think she would be upset about your writing in such detail about your lives together?
Why do you write the blog? Do you have an exhibitionist streak like I spoke of having? Does the blog satisfy that streak?


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OK, it’s time to get down a little bit into the nitty gritty of the Holy Trainer V3, now that I’ve had a couple of days to check it out. You can read my initial assessment upon recieving the new device in Part 1, HERE.

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My new Holy Trainer V3 has arrived! The only complaint I have so far (and it’s very minor!) is that it took a tiny bit longer to get here than I hoped.. I did pay for expedited shipping, hoping to get my Jail Bird off to Mature Metal as soon as possible. It still took about 2-3 days before I even heard that the order had been processed and shipped, and by then it was the weekend so I didn’t expect too much. I then recieved a tracking notification from the shipping company with an ETA of this past Monday, so I was very excited that whole day at work, anxious to get home and try it out! But alas, there were no packages on my doorstep that evening, and when I checked the tracking link again it was still in Switzerland… Luckily, Overnight Post as it is, it DID arrive in my town by Tuesday though and since I wasn’t home at the time I was able to sign for the delivery on Wednesday of this week.

As far as plastic chastity devices go, this really is a thing of beauty! My only other experiences with plastic is the CB-xxxx line, so I will mainly be comparing this to the CB-6000s which I spent most of my time locked in back in the days prior to going with custom steel.

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Getting a discussion group started on FetLife has already been well worth it!  Thank you so much to everybody who has joined already, and I look forward to hosting even more in that forum!

There has already been one early thread on Fet with something I’d never seen before and I couldn’t resist sharing on the blog!

Thank you very much furcissy for the link to this video!  A VERY young looking John Stewart hosting the Daily Show on Comedy Central, has one of his correspondents interview the inventors of the CB-2000; possibly the first ever mass-marketed male chastity device.  It’s well worth a few minutes of your time to watch!

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I am locked back into the Jail Bird again as of today, but with one difference in that it is being held by a regular padlock now instead of the security screw. I was experimenting with it during my short, few days of freedom, and I definitely think that at least the one key is almost completely rounded out and useless now. I could get the screw IN somewhat easily but to back it back out requires catching it at just the right angle with the right amount of pressure (not too hard, for fear of stripping it even more!) Just dry-fitting the cage and base ring together with the screw, I almost didn’t think I was going to get it back out at all, but eventually did. It’s not exactly a chance I want to knowingly take while wearing it though!

I asked Angel if she had the second key to see if it worked any better, but she wasn’t finding it right away. We’ll probably have to clean out her bedside drawer at some point and see if it’s buried in there somewhere! But for now, this will work. I suppose.. Sort of…
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I’ve decided to try something new this year with my blog to hopefully make it easier for at least some readers to interact with me and with each other, for anybody who may be interested. I’ve had a discussion page on the blog for quite a while, but it really doesn’t get used very often. I’m perfectly OK with that, as I know that just using a WordPress comments section isn’t exactly a particularly good communication medium (it can sometimes be kind of hard to sort out where one conversation ends and another begins…) And we HAVE had some great, more pertinent discussions on individual blog entries over the past few years. For that I thank you, and your feedback and questions are ALWAYS welcome!!

So for a general discussion page, I’m going to try using a group on FetLife instead. I don’t know for sure, but I suspect a large percentage of my readers might already be on Fet anyway, so you would know that the groups there are pretty easy to navigate, start new discussions, follow discussions, send a private message to individual members if desired, etc. If you’re not already a member, I highly recommend joining anyway even if my group has nothing to do with it (yes it is free!)

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After over 5 months (163 days total), a personal record setting chastity duration came to an end on New Year’s Day 2018! This wasn’t the longest total duration that I’ve ever been locked, as I’ve done a stint over 6 months before, but it is the longest time that I’ve ever gone without ever being unlocked ONE SINGLE TIME, for anything at all!

Normally Angel will let me out every great once in a while for some quick fun (maybe I’ll even get an orgasm out of it) but then I’m put right back into the cage. As those outings are usually far less than even 20 minutes of freedom, I don’t normally count them as being out, so the chastity session continues. I DO try to record those instances though on my Current Status page as an FYI only. The past 5 months have had ZERO such releases!

Angel has been lamenting quite a bit lately about missing having me inside her, so I wasn’t sure if it would be coming soon or not. Or I guess a better way to phrase it would be if I would be coming soon or not! 🙂 After getting home from the New Year’s party and getting the kids down to bed, Angel was definitely getting a little frisky. She began rubbing the key to the Jail Bird against my back asking if that was something I wanted. I told her that I wanted anything that SHE wanted, whether or not it involved that key!

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Happy New Year, everyone!  Whether 2017 was good or bad from your perspective, I hope it only gets better here in 2018!

I love this graphic I found when I went searching for an image for this post.. I think it definitely signifies how the biggest part of my year is sure to be: under lock & key!  This past year was as well, and I’m pretty sure we already set some personal chastity records in 2017, so it will be very interesting to see how much further things may or may not go in 2018!


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I said this to Angel the other night.. Maybe not quite so eloquently as I kind of added some of the poetry to it after the fact, but the message here is exactly what I said to her and I truly meant it from the bottom of my heart!  Angel’s response did not involve words at all, but led to some of the best sex we’ve had in a long time (with me remaining locked of course; 5 months and counting!) 

So without further ado, simple but very meaningful…

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Back to the mailbag for another reader question!  Keep them coming folks, I’m more than happy to chime in on pretty much any chastity and/or kink related question you can throw my way! 🙂

Anonymous writes:

Dude you are the shit, and I thank you. I just wanna run a couple of things by you to get your thoughts.

I’ve always been really kinky I enjoy femdom, I worship women. My wife however not so much. I really don’t get how if someone wants to worship you, you don’t take advantage of it. She will indulge me from time to time though when she wants a few things done around the house and I make Damn sure I go far beyond her expectations and she will sort of reward me by tying me to the bed and giving me a bit of tease and denial, but it’s always about me when I want to worship her……..

Long story short a couple of years ago she found a male chastity device online and showed it to me and it pretty much gave me an instant hard on, but I was to afraid to say anything……. Unfortunately….. Fast forward to the about a week ago when we hadn’t had sex in a week or two because you know life…. I was feeling horny as hell! I grabbed her and pulled her down touching and feeling her and she states I should keep you horny all the time….. Well something tripped inside me and I’ve decided to give this a try I ordered a cheap chastity device online to give it a try before sinking $$ into it.

So my question is: I’ve always had a problem with cumming to fast so I’ve offered to go down on her or getting a magic wand or even a cock sheath but she doesn’t seem to respond to any of them.  Any other things you have tried to maybe make up the difference?


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I had something new and interesting come up the other day, where a reader and aspiring author [HappilyLockedMan] wrote to ask if I would possibly be interested in reading over a short story (fiction) that he had written.  Of course I’m always a sucker for a good chastity story, real or fiction, so I obliged.  And I have to say, it was good!  In my opinion, right out of the gate I’d call it just as good if not better than a large part of other similar content I’ve ever come across out on the net.

Anyway, over the course of several e-mails I found myself helping HappilyLockedMan with some editing, and I think there’s really a pretty decent product here!  Now as I told him, I have no credentials whatsoever as a copy editor, but I have picked up a few things over the course of writing my blog as far as rules of grammar, sentence structure, etc.  I may not always get EVERYTHING right, but overall I think I do a fairly good job and tried to direct a bit of that knowledge into this piece too–without changing any of the “meat” of the story which was already very well established!

Fiction is hard, at least in my opinion.  I tend to need real events in my life to reflect back upon when I’m writing, so I really don’t think I would be very good at dreaming up something like this from scratch.  So kudos to HappilyLockedMan and anybody else who can bring erotic fantasies to life through words on paper!  And it WAS rather fun being an editor, so perhaps I will end up doing more of that in the future as time allows…

Posting both by request and with permission of the author, enjoy!  We would both love to hear any feedback that readers may have on this story!


Aaron and Melissa
by HappilyLockedMan

“Honey, I need you to do this.”

Aaron trembled as Melissa looked into his eyes. She was holding his face with her two hands so he had to look back at her.

“We’ve worked hard for this. This is our moment.”

There was urgency in her voice. Aaron nodded his head and looked down. With that assent Melissa continued with her preparations.

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The next set of questions from my inbox is from a gentleman who has written to me before, and seems to happily be getting much more into the lifestyle with his wife lately.  I always enjoy stories and questions like that, keep them coming!

Oh, and if you have not yet voted on your favorite Chastity Christmas tune, please do so here!

Ben (bigdaddyb) updated:

Appreciate reading your blog. And I appreciate you having turned my questions into a post and answering all of them. I wanted to give a brief update from back in April when I sent my initial message. [See previous post HERE ] While my wife hasn’t taken off as 100% domme/keyholder she has certainly begun on the path. Prior to last month after attempting to get her to do a bit longer of chastity play for almost a year and a half the longest she had ever kept me locked was 4 days. Regardless of my repeated requests for her to attempt longer periods between release. I don’t recall exactly how I brought up the subject but during a playfull text I said that “Locktober is coming up which is followed by No-vember”. She replied with a smiley emoticon and I didn’t hear anything else. That was – until Sept 25th came along. I had been uncaged for a few days and she told me I needed to go het her property caged in preparation for Locktober. It caught me off guard because she hadn’t said anything about it and the only mention I had given about it was almost a month prior.

When I did what she told me and handed her the key she said “Good pet, now we both have something to look forward to on my birthday”. Her birthday is on Oct. 20th. I had a moment of extreme excitement as she said that. But then I tried to play coy and said that she wouldn’t last more than 4 days before letting me out. Long story short – she didn’t keep me locked up the entire time – but she did last longer than she had ever before, 8 days. And she has locked me up for another 6 day period after that and then told me to lock up 3 days ago repeating that “it is Locktober so you need to be locked up a lot more”. It would appear that she is beginning to take a liking to things. Her favorite thing to do while I’m locked is to tell me to get “The Trainer” on (shock collar) so that we can lay in bed with each other and I can give her a full body rub.

A few follow up questions for you that I’m sure may be answered in some older posts but I haven’t been able to read through all of them as of yet:

1. Is there any punishment system between the two of you for bad behavior/breaking rules? That’s what I feel is a missing link with my wife and I as she merely tells me that I can’t go down on her as punishment if I do something wrong. But I don’t want my punishment to involve her limiting her pleasure. Wondering about some real life possibilities that others use (not the extreme things you sometimes see when perusing things like Tumblr)

2. Do you know what can and can’t get through a metal detector without setting it off? I have a Holy Trainer V2 and I have a metal cage (haven’t yet paid for a top end one – but it is working out OK so far) that I got off of Amazon from China. I would have to assume that a metal cage would set off all kinds of alarms at an airport security check. What about the small lock that goes with a Holy Trainer V2? I just feel that the plastic locks are cheesy and not a valid option but I also don’t want to have to have a search of that region by an airport security guard. 🙂

3. Do you have any books/blog recommendations that your wife has shown interest in that I might be able to share with my wife to further her interest? (aside from your blog of course – LOL)

I have other questions swimming around in my head but I’m a bit scattered and have to get going anyways. I appreciate your blog and your time in responding to me.


Ben,

Thank you for you the great questions and continuing to read my blog! I’ve noticed many great comments you’ve left recently throughout different pages as well; I just apologize that you caught me during a VERY busy time in life so it has taken a while to get back with you! I will go through your questions one by one, though some I think you may have already found elsewhere on my blog by now..

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Next up is a question about measuring for a new custom chastity device as well as considering cheaper designs.

Juan C wrote:

Congratulations on your web, it is a joy for me to have found it. I have 55 and married since 25. I practiced chastity subject with the CB3000s but as a game only. I would like to buy the metal bird but I am afraid to be wrong with the measurements. Ademas live in Spain and possibly would have to pay customs.

I have ordered one in the Chinese are many cheaper $20. Do you think there is much difference? Thanks


Good day, Juan! Thank you very much for reading my blog, I am so glad that you are enjoying it! You have a very good question here, which I don’t know if I’ll have a great answer to or not–but I will certainly give it a try!

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I said recently that I was going to finally start trying to answer a few questions that have been piling up in my inbox from readers, so here’s the first of them!

Graeme asked:

I have recently become caged and I’m slightly concerned about hygiene. How often realistically should I be allowed out for a proper wash?


Graeme,

First of all let me apologize for taking so long to answer this. If you haven’t already figured out a good cleaning routine I hope you haven’t gotten discouraged and given up on chastity for that reason!

Hygiene is certainly an important issue for anybody who’s locked for more than a day at a time. Failing to keep things clean can lead to any number of problems, ranging from fairly minor (stink) to more serious health issues like infections (especially if there are also any open sores in the area which can sometimes happen with chastity).

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One week ago, Halloween night, was not so great around our house.  It started off fun, getting the kids all dressed up in their costumes and feeding off of their excitement about going out to collect candy from all of the neighbors.  It was a cool evening, so we pulled out the fire pit to the front of the house and had a nice blaze going with some friends over to keep that going as well as hand out our own candy while Angel and I were gone with the boys.

Everything was going fine until the third house that we went to, maybe 100 yards from our own driveway.  Angel was walking back down the neighbor’s front hill towards the street, lost her footing and slipped down the hill, breaking her left leg and dislocating the ankle in the process.  Thankfully a police car just happened to be cruising down our street within minutes of the accident, so we managed to flag them down for help and they were able to get an ambulance very quickly as well.

The kids of course were very scared and distraught that mommy wouldn’t be able to keep walking around the neighborhood with them, so it pretty much put a huge damper on the whole evening for everyone.

In the ER, Angel was fixed up as much as they could do at the time and sent home on crutches.  The following day at a follow-up visit she learned that she was going to have to have a little surgery on it since ligaments on both sides of the angle were also torn.  That was scheduled and happened without any further complications on Friday.

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It has been three years to the day since I began writing about my chastity experiences here on Thrill Of The Chaste! I still give that credit to you, my regular readers, for continuing to come back to keep me engaged and make it fun to keep telling my story as it unfolds. So THANK YOU!

That being said, I do realize that I’ve been a bit absent lately and haven’t had much new content for the past couple of months or so. I apologize for that, as life does just kind of get in the way sometimes and that’s definitely what we’ve been running into lately. But through it all I am still locked! Over 90 days so far for this session and still counting. I’ve been locked continuously (not so much as a short “quick release” session) since our Disney vacation back in July, and I have no idea how long Angel might decide to go this time around!

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Many who read my blog very regularly would probably know that besides chastity I tend to have a little thing for being tied up as well.  There’s just something about being tightly restrained, unable to move, and completely at the mercy of my Wife/Mistress, Angel!

At least at this stage of our D/s relationship, Angel has never really taken very much to initiating such a scene. Sure, she will put the cuffs on me and draw them tight to the bed if I specifically ask her to do something like that, but generally speaking if I want to be tied up I have to get my “fix” by doing it myself.  Self-bondage can be a lot of fun in its own right, but if playing COMPLETELY alone I can’t really say I ever feel like it is truly secure, as there kind of has to be a somewhat easy escape plan (darn that whole “Safe” piece of SSC! Lol)

Luckily, Angel and I HAVE gotten to a point where I can occasionally tie myself up while she is perhaps in another room, then she will come in and find me completely helpless to deflect anything she wants to do with me.  More often than not, Angel doesn’t know it’s happening until she comes into the room, but she is usually pleasantly surprised and anxious to take advantage of the situation when she finds me like this!  The nice part about engaging in self-bondage with another person in the general vicinity, is that I can get much more elaborate with it and even get into positions that there’s probably no way I would ever escape from without some assistance!

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wp-1489691168539.jpgOK, I’ll admit it.  I think I may be an addict!  Not in a bad way though.. I’m not an alcoholic, I don’t smoke or do drugs, I don’t particularly like to gamble, and can’t even realistically call myself a “sex addict” (given my situation! Lol) — though that’s probably at least much closer to being on the right track.  No, I’m addicted to Angel, and HER sex!  Everything about her, and every way I can help HER to orgasm; I just find myself craving it pretty much all the time!

Last Friday morning before work, Angel and I both woke up slightly before our alarms would start going off.  She rolled over and kind of snuggled into me, probably thinking she’d get a few more minutes to snooze before starting her day.  I wrapped my arm around and began lightly caressing her ass and upper legs.  She said she really needed to get up and use the bathroom, but even so it wasn’t very long at all before she began to spread her legs to let my roaming fingers hit home!

As Angel began to moan and really get into the moment, I could feel myself straining very hard against the tight, unforgiving cage.  But truly all I wanted to do was to get HER off!  I really couldn’t have cared less about being let out and having an orgasm for myself.  I just rode that high right along with Angel through the entire “build-up” process, then got to keep it there right on the edge, FAR beyond how long I’d have ever been able to last on my own accord!  Angel seemed like she might have been holding back a tiny bit herself, trying to delay the inevitable for as long as possible, but really exploded when I said the simple words “Come for me!”  And I got to feel all of that too, at least vicariously THROUGH Angel!
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