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This weekend I hit 230 days on my EmlaLock session which started back on the 1st day of “Locktober” 2018! I HAVE been locked basically continuously since that time, with the exception of two very brief outings part way through that month while Angel and I were at Sybaris, but then the keys truly have been locked away and out of reach ever since then.

I don’t know exactly how much time is left, other than the session should end sometime before my birthday in June. Then it will be up to Angel again to determine exactly when I will be released. The remaining time has been on “Very Hot” for several days now so it should be any time now!

Over 7 months now, I am definitely in personal record territory at this point for continuous time locked, and still loving every minute of it!

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Ok, I suppose the little teaser from my last post has been going on long enough! I promised at that point to reveal MY answer to one of the most asked questions in the Chastity Community.  I’ve always had opinions about this topic, but now I actually have a bit of experience to back myself up with when talking about it!

For anybody who follows me on FetLife, you may already have seen exactly what I’m talking about here.  No, Fet is still not my primary blogging platform, but in this case it was definitely easier to update there in near-realtime as events were unfolding for me, and now I have a little more time to share with the REST of the world!

Without further ado, the ultimate question that I am now capable of  answering for myself as well as any curious readers out there is…

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Flying in chastity! Going through the dreaded metal detectors and/or full body scanners at the airport, while locked. Will TSA agents see, or even care?

I am well aware of one popular opinion on this, which is simply “Don’t do it.” It is not fair to even think about exposing vanilla folks to our kink “non-consensually” yadda yadda. I do respect that stance but please don’t flood me with messages to that effect! Personally I am more in the other camp; that chastity is a personal choice, not illegal, and exposure to certain things like that may come with the territory of certain jobs. An occupational hazard, so to speak. It’s no different than exposing other very personal things like piercings or tattoos to the general public, including people who might find those types of things objectionable. I think as long as everyone remains professional, even a TSA agent can do their job to ensure our flights are safe, without infringing on anybody’s personal space too much.

Back in October when Angel and I agreed to lock the keys to my Jail Bird into a lockbox with the combination controlled by EmlaLock, I never anticipated this trip coming up at all! With only a couple weeks notice, I learned that I would be flying to Las Vegas for a tech conference for work.  When I’ve flown before, I’ve always made sure to not be in chastity at the time, but that has always been when flying with my family (children, mother, etc.). I would worry more about how to explain to THEM why it might potentially take me longer to get through security than they did! But luckily for this trip I would be traveling alone, so the only conversations would be between myself and TSA. What could go wrong? Lol

I’ve read plenty of other threads along these lines and people chime in with their own experiences flying chaste. I’ve seen everything from no issues whatsoever to being taken into a back room for a visual inspection. Some stories I tend to believe, others I’m not really so sure as they just smell of wank fodder… But one thing I’ve NEVER read about was someone being denied boarding a plane because of it! Nor should I ever hear of that happening, because as stated above – not illegal!

It was time that I find out for myself, once and for all, exactly what happens when going through airport security with a steel cage wrapped around the nether regions.  I have been through countless metal detectors at other venues (sporting events, theme parks, courthouse…) but this may just be the ultimate test of it!

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Hello, everybody! I know I’ve been very absent for a few months now from my blog and the interwebs in general. But I AM okay, and still alive! I’ve actually had several folks contact me at various times either from my contact page or via FetLife to check up on me and make sure everything’s ok. That’s much appreciated, but no worries- there’s just been way too much “real life” going on so my writing has kind of had to take a back seat to that for a while.

That is not to say that chastity hasn’t still been a very big part of our real lives! In fact, I am still locked and have not been out of my Jail Bird for one single minute since way back in October when I wrote about our little getaway to Sybaris! It has been over 6 months so far for this cycle. I’m not sure if it’s quite my longest lockup yet, but very close. And I’m pretty sure it will be by the time Emlalock releases me this time around!

I do still have a handful of e-mails in my box with some chastity related questions that I haven’t gotten around to answering yet. I DO plan on getting back to those, and greatly apologize for the delay. If you’ve sent something recently and NOT heard back from me, feel free to resubmit and I’ll try to answer even quicker this time. Most likely in the form of a new blog post but I will also try to answer back via email as well when possible.

Now, I do have to admit that the particular timing of my jumping back into the blogosphere is not entirely coincidental! Over the next couple of weeks, I will be having at least a couple of experiences in chastity that I know I will really want to write about. Partly for my own sake, continuing to document my “chaste adventures” so I can look back later and relive the best moments in my head. But also for the readers of my blog, who have still been coming in droves even when it’s been a few months since I’ve posted any new content!  (Thank you for that too, by the way!)

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When Locktober Ends…

Posted: October 31, 2018 in Chastity, Fetish, Kinky, Orgasm Denial

Happy Halloween, everybody! And for anybody who participated, the end of Locktober! If this was your first time being caged and/or orgasm free for an entire month, let me be among the first to say congratulations! That is no small feat, and definitely something to be proud of! There may be a push for many to continue right on through to “NO-vember” and “DENY-ember” or whatever the play on words are for those months. But I would say to do whatever feels right to YOU! If you think it’s time to take a break to enjoy being free for a while, then work back into longer periods of chastity, then do that.

If you’ve made it a month now, my guess is that you have experienced first hand how great chastity can be. And if you have a key-holder, I hope that THEY have also seen first hand how great chastity can be! Even if you’re happy to be free after today, my guess is that it’s burned into your brain enough now that you will soon crave going back in and breaking your own personal lock-up records. That is, at least if you’re anything at all like me and many others I’ve interacted with over the years in the Chastity world! 🙂

As written in my last post, I was personally let out a couple times very briefly during the month, but now will be locked for good until well into 2019 at a minimum. That will most likely become MY personal record, and I am looking forward to that as well!

If anybody has any fun stories that you would like to share, whether about being chaste for all of Locktober or any other topic, feel free to leave in the comments below or e-mail me directly. I love to hear from YOU! 🙂


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Half way through Locktober, I WAS let out of the Jailbird twice, for a full blown orgasm each time. So I won’t be able to say that I was locked completely 24/7 for the entire month, but each time out was so short (maybe about 30 minutes TOTAL) that I’ll just add a note and not even reset the counter on my Current Status page.

Angel does like the idea of Locktober, but it just so happens that our anniversary falls during the same month. And as previously written, I surprised her with a trip to a place with a private pool inside our suite! (re-read that story here in case you missed it!) I had joked with Angel before we left, that this surprise was probably going to have her so turned on that it was going to be a “panty-dropping moment” as soon as she saw what it was! Her response was “Oh, we’re going to Hugh Jackman’s house?!” Dammit.. Guess I’ll have to settle for SECOND best panty-dropping surprise for her! Lol

But nonetheless, we obviously had LOTS of sexy time together last weekend, of which there will be many more details written here in future posts! I was locked for the vast majority of time, but Angel made comments on several occasions that before we left she wanted to have me out and actually have REAL sex in the pool for a change! I blew that off and kept redirecting her attention (with more orgasms, of course) as long as I could, but after all she IS the one ultimately in control of whether or not I am allowed out of chastity! (more…)


Well we made it to Sybaris last night! I managed to keep the destination for our 10th anniversary trip a secret from Angel for a good month, and it was worth it for her reaction when she stepped through the door (and took off the blindfold I made her wear for the last mile! Lol) This place is AMAZING! This post will be short and not formatted as well as normal since I don’t have a computer here and it’s all from my phone (while floating in the pool no less, waiting for Angel to wake up), but I wanted to at least try to share a couple pics.

This is all within our private space, for THREE WHOLE DAYS!!!

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It’s been one week now that I’ve been locked for this round of chastity, and boy am I feeling it! I think I was out for way too long this last time. In fact, from the amount of self-indulgence going on I KNOW I was definitely out way too long! In the past I don’t think I ever thought much of it when I’d read of a guy who was either locking himself up or being locked by his partner as a way of “controlling masturbation.” I don’t think I ever did it THAT much; I just enjoyed the feeling of being locked and especially the feeling of Angel getting off herself on the fact that I COULDN’T get off!

But over these past 3 months, I have definitely done more than my share. I always knew I should stop and put the focus back on Angel again, it was just a little “hard” (no pun intended!) to do so without a direct order from my Wife/Mistress/Key-holder. Thankfully, “Locktober” provided enough of an excuse to lock myself back up, and on top of that I finally got the order that I craved at the same time!

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Angel and I have been taking some dance lessons together for a little while now, and recently got back into the routine of that after taking nearly a year off due to Angel having a little accident and breaking her leg right above the ankle. Last week we had one of our private lessons, followed immediately by a group class which we’d signed up for that week.

In the groups, men and women are lined up opposite each other to learn our respective steps separately. Then we try them again with a partner. Most folks generally at least begin with the partner they came with, but there are also sometimes singles in the group on either side; and anyways after a couple of practice steps with your partner they make it a point to rotate the line so that everybody essentially dances with everybody else at various points through the night. It is a good system, and we’ve both learned a lot more that way from people who had already learned from past missteps, and can sometimes offer more practical pointers than what the instructors might necessarily think of on the spot.

Anyway, the point is that last week while rotating through the line, there was one woman in particular that I ended up dancing with a few times whom I couldn’t help but notice was wearing a nice little charm on her necklace in the form of a heart-shaped key. I realize that odds are, this is just a completely innocent little symbol: “key to my heart” type of romantic mumbo jumbo. But of course my rather kinky, chastity brain started wondering if maybe, just maybe it was something deeper than that and she actually has somebody locked up!

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Well I’ve done it!  After nearly 3 full months of freedom, I am back in my Jail Bird in time for Locktober!  And it’s even better than I had planned.  I had already expected to lock myself back up and give Angel the keys, but the day I was going to do this she even went all the way and ASKED me to do it!

Sunday morning, the last day of September before I was planning to be locked again anyway, Angel and I woke up both treating each other to a nice orgasm.  I think I’ve said somewhere before that as much as I am NOT a morning person in the least, morning sex has always been the BEST!  A little while later, Angel had two requests for me:

  1. Would I give her a back rub?  (Yes, of course!)
  2. Would I put that cage back on until our Anniversary trip in a couple of weeks? After all, [her words] I’m MUCH more horny when locked, and that’s how Angel wants me to be for our little vacation.

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I had an e-mail a few weeks ago from Keith, who wrote:

I am male, mid 50’s and would love to try chastity the way you are doing it. The thing I like about your blog and lifestyle that is different than other websites is it doesn’t involve your wife cuckolding or spanking or being overly dominant. It is about controlling your sexuality which is the part I like.

I have semi jokingly asked my wife if she would lock me up and she thought I was kidding or crazy. If you google male chastity, most websites come up where the woman completely dominants the male, which my wife would not do that.

I would love for her to read your posts and have a question for you.  Do you know of any books or other websites that are similar to yours where chastity is used in marriage as more of a fun game for couples that is not so kinky where the wife dominants the male in other aspects? I think my wife would be more accepting to the idea if it was a little more vanilla so to speak.

Also, you are right, somewhere in your blog you mentioned more couples would do it if they tried it.

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wpid-canstockphoto7890332.jpgI’m still unlocked–for almost 3 full months this time.. Way too long! I don’t believe Angel is going to be ordering me back into the cage any time soon, so I suspect I’ll do it myself and give her the keys back starting for Locktober! We’ll see how long it lasts after that, as we have some other big plans coming up next month.

Namely, this October marks our 10 year wedding anniversary! I’m planning a suprise, long-weekend trip in a couple of weeks for the occasion. It’s not a complete surprise, as I had to tell her to at least get an extra day off of work and we had to coordinate some family to help watch the boys that weekend. But she has no idea WHERE we are going and that has been a pretty hard secret to keep!

In fact I need to tell SOMEBODY about what we’re going to be doing, so why not anybody in the world who reads my blog? 🙂 I’m pretty sure Angel does NOT read it, so my secret will be safe.. If I’m wrong, it will be worth giving up this little surprise in order to find that out! Lol
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I’m still unlocked from my chastity device, 49 days and counting. I really should lock myself back up and give Angel the keys again but there’s just something holding me back this time that I’ve been trying to really put my finger on. I guess in a way I’m almost waiting for Angel to ORDER me back in, but that has never really happened yet in the years we’ve practiced male chastity so I don’t anticipate it now either. She HAS hinted strongly at it though… Said numerous times that she was surprised I haven’t locked myself back up yet. And says that I am much more horny when locked. But she will stop short of directly asking me to go back in, even if I ask her if those comments are meant to be a directive.

Truth be told I’ve been having a bit of fun while unlocked the last several weeks. Too much fun I suppose. A big part of me still desperately craves being locked back into my Jail Bird, unable to have any orgasms without Angel’s express permission. But then again since I’m free, I have to admit that sometimes temptation just gets the best of me. In the shower, naked, warm water rolling down my body, and a nice hard dick in hand… I can’t even say how many times I’ve probably jerked one off that way over the past month or so.

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Happy Fourth of July everybody! In years past I’ve tried coming up with some clever and/or deep writings about the irony of celebrating Independence while I’ve given up one area of my own independence to Angel. But I don’t really have anything new to add along those lines so if you want to see what I’ve said previously feel free to look back through my archives! 🙂

Angel and I definitely made some of our own fireworks last night which I’ll try to elaborate more on later… So stay tuned!


We just returned from a family vacation to the Northeast United States, a good 1200 miles from home! We drove there, so this made for quite a long road trip with two young boys plus all of our in-laws (Angel and I each only have one parent still living). I think spending that much time in a car together can test the patience of ANY family, but overall it really was a pretty fun trip and hopefully something the boys will remember fondly in the years to come!

One big thing that struck me on this trip that I wanted to write about here, was how Angel’s mindset towards chastity has evolved over time without her even realizing it! In years past when we would leave for a vacation, no matter how long I’d been locked ahead of time she has always been very mindful to pack the keys to my chastity device, “just in case she might decide to use them!” And usually, she does. Even if it’s only late one night while everyone else is sleeping in other rooms, she’ll want to let me out for a quickie then often lock me right back up again for the remainder of our trip.

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I’ve written at least a couple times previously about going through standard metal detectors at public venues (baseball games, the county courthouse, etc.) while wearing my Mature Metal chastity devices–and not setting off any alarms. That’s old news now, but I have a couple of newer stories to share along those lines that are kind of fun!

First, a few weeks ago Angel and I went to see some stand-up comedy. Trevor Noah (from “The Daily Show” on Comedy Central) was in town and we had tickets! It was being held at an older venue in our city that we don’t go to very often; in fact we had only been there one other time earlier this year when there was a kid show that we took the boys to see. I knew from that experience that this place does NOT have metal detectors installed at the doors at all, so I didn’t even give it a second thought to show up still locked as usual.

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What I did NOT expect, was that for this event they had security guards inside with the wand style metal detectors. Sometimes at places like this I’ve seen them just do the occasional spot checks, but here they were pretty much wanding everybody! Well, maybe not EVERYONE.. Ladies like Angel who were carrying a purse, only had their bags checked then were sent on through. But for me, I was definitely getting the wand.

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Catching up on a bit of mail from my inbox,

Jonathan asks:

Hi,

Thanks for the very interesting blog. I’ve gotten my wife into chastity
play and currently I’m wearing a CB-6000S, which is kind of OK, but
we’re planning of upgrading to a Mature Metal Jail Bird, since it seems
much better.

I have a question about the locking system though: I’d prefer to get
the device with the security screw, but it seems that you have had some
bad luck with that. Do you think it’s a general quality issue or have
you just had bad luck with it? I’d prefer having a reliable locking
system.

And do you think one could keep a padlock like in CB-6000S with a
jailbird instead of having it sideways?

Thanks in advance for your answers,

– J


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Note: I had hoped to have this published sometime over this past weekend, but didn’t quite get it all written in time. All references to Memorial Day are still very pertinent, even if a day late! 🙂


As we come up on Memorial Day here in the U.S. I do want to take a moment to remember those who have given their lives in service to our great country…

I am and will always be very grateful for the sacrifice these fine folks have given to ensure the freedoms that we all take for granted today. Now without further ado and with no disrespect intended whatsoever, I want to shift focus to a different type of “memory.” This IS a chastity blog after all! 🙂

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WOW, OK… Being locked in a chastity device for so long must definitely mess with a guy’s mind a bit, huh? I mean, could I really get to a point where I truly don’t even WANT to get out and have a “real” orgasm? Am I already at that point? I’ve long said that I don’t CARE when I get out, as I want it to be completely Angel’s decision… but in the heat of the moment I always still WANT to be out! Let’s back up a little bit though, and analyze my real-life account of last weekend (yes, I’ve been working this draft for several days now)…

This story takes place a week after I had ventured out into the local community to attend an intro “Rope Bondage” class. It went pretty well and was a lot of fun (read about it here and here.) I just hadn’t had any chance yet to practice any of my new knots on Angel. Saturday morning we woke up both a little frisky, but still couldn’t do very much because we heard that the kids were already up and moving around the house as well. Still, I rolled on top of her to simulate what she had to look forward to LATER if she wished! I held both of her wrists together over her head and said that I might just have to tie them like that to make sure she couldn’t stop me from giving her extra orgasms!

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A fun little poem, submitted by HappilyLockedMan. Enjoy!

Returning to bed
Her sleeping hand finds my cage
Manhood swelling against steel bars
I lay there, content

 


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CALLING ALL BASEBALL FANS!!

Or even if you’re not, you may still enjoy this! I have no idea about internationally, but at least if you live in the U.S. (even if you don’t follow the sport or attend games very often) surely everyone is at least familiar with the catchy little jingle played during the 7th Inning Stretch at pretty much every game, right?

You know, they get the old pipe organ fired up and everyone sings:

Take me out to the ball game,
Take me out with the crowd.
Buy me some peanuts and cracker jack,
I don’t care if I never get back.
Let me root, root, root for the [home team],
If they don’t win it’s a shame.
For it’s one, two, three strikes, you’re out,
At the old ball game!

WELL, I’ve gone and written some new lyrics to that tune, starting with “Lock Me Up in a Steel Cage!
Then I hired it out to be sung and get a new track created, and it is fantastic!

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