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Next up is a question about measuring for a new custom chastity device as well as considering cheaper designs.

Juan C wrote:

Congratulations on your web, it is a joy for me to have found it. I have 55 and married since 25. I practiced chastity subject with the CB3000s but as a game only. I would like to buy the metal bird but I am afraid to be wrong with the measurements. Ademas live in Spain and possibly would have to pay customs.

I have ordered one in the Chinese are many cheaper $20. Do you think there is much difference? Thanks


Good day, Juan! Thank you very much for reading my blog, I am so glad that you are enjoying it! You have a very good question here, which I don’t know if I’ll have a great answer to or not–but I will certainly give it a try!

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I said recently that I was going to finally start trying to answer a few questions that have been piling up in my inbox from readers, so here’s the first of them!

Graeme asked:

I have recently become caged and I’m slightly concerned about hygiene. How often realistically should I be allowed out for a proper wash?


Graeme,

First of all let me apologize for taking so long to answer this. If you haven’t already figured out a good cleaning routine I hope you haven’t gotten discouraged and given up on chastity for that reason!

Hygiene is certainly an important issue for anybody who’s locked for more than a day at a time. Failing to keep things clean can lead to any number of problems, ranging from fairly minor (stink) to more serious health issues like infections (especially if there are also any open sores in the area which can sometimes happen with chastity).

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One week ago, Halloween night, was not so great around our house.  It started off fun, getting the kids all dressed up in their costumes and feeding off of their excitement about going out to collect candy from all of the neighbors.  It was a cool evening, so we pulled out the fire pit to the front of the house and had a nice blaze going with some friends over to keep that going as well as hand out our own candy while Angel and I were gone with the boys.

Everything was going fine until the third house that we went to, maybe 100 yards from our own driveway.  Angel was walking back down the neighbor’s front hill towards the street, lost her footing and slipped down the hill, breaking her left leg and dislocating the ankle in the process.  Thankfully a police car just happened to be cruising down our street within minutes of the accident, so we managed to flag them down for help and they were able to get an ambulance very quickly as well.

The kids of course were very scared and distraught that mommy wouldn’t be able to keep walking around the neighborhood with them, so it pretty much put a huge damper on the whole evening for everyone.

In the ER, Angel was fixed up as much as they could do at the time and sent home on crutches.  The following day at a follow-up visit she learned that she was going to have to have a little surgery on it since ligaments on both sides of the angle were also torn.  That was scheduled and happened without any further complications on Friday.

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It has been three years to the day since I began writing about my chastity experiences here on Thrill Of The Chaste! I still give that credit to you, my regular readers, for continuing to come back to keep me engaged and make it fun to keep telling my story as it unfolds. So THANK YOU!

That being said, I do realize that I’ve been a bit absent lately and haven’t had much new content for the past couple of months or so. I apologize for that, as life does just kind of get in the way sometimes and that’s definitely what we’ve been running into lately. But through it all I am still locked! Over 90 days so far for this session and still counting. I’ve been locked continuously (not so much as a short “quick release” session) since our Disney vacation back in July, and I have no idea how long Angel might decide to go this time around!

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Many who read my blog very regularly would probably know that besides chastity I tend to have a little thing for being tied up as well.  There’s just something about being tightly restrained, unable to move, and completely at the mercy of my Wife/Mistress, Angel!

At least at this stage of our D/s relationship, Angel has never really taken very much to initiating such a scene. Sure, she will put the cuffs on me and draw them tight to the bed if I specifically ask her to do something like that, but generally speaking if I want to be tied up I have to get my “fix” by doing it myself.  Self-bondage can be a lot of fun in its own right, but if playing COMPLETELY alone I can’t really say I ever feel like it is truly secure, as there kind of has to be a somewhat easy escape plan (darn that whole “Safe” piece of SSC! Lol)

Luckily, Angel and I HAVE gotten to a point where I can occasionally tie myself up while she is perhaps in another room, then she will come in and find me completely helpless to deflect anything she wants to do with me.  More often than not, Angel doesn’t know it’s happening until she comes into the room, but she is usually pleasantly surprised and anxious to take advantage of the situation when she finds me like this!  The nice part about engaging in self-bondage with another person in the general vicinity, is that I can get much more elaborate with it and even get into positions that there’s probably no way I would ever escape from without some assistance!

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wp-1489691168539.jpgOK, I’ll admit it.  I think I may be an addict!  Not in a bad way though.. I’m not an alcoholic, I don’t smoke or do drugs, I don’t particularly like to gamble, and can’t even realistically call myself a “sex addict” (given my situation! Lol) — though that’s probably at least much closer to being on the right track.  No, I’m addicted to Angel, and HER sex!  Everything about her, and every way I can help HER to orgasm; I just find myself craving it pretty much all the time!

Last Friday morning before work, Angel and I both woke up slightly before our alarms would start going off.  She rolled over and kind of snuggled into me, probably thinking she’d get a few more minutes to snooze before starting her day.  I wrapped my arm around and began lightly caressing her ass and upper legs.  She said she really needed to get up and use the bathroom, but even so it wasn’t very long at all before she began to spread her legs to let my roaming fingers hit home!

As Angel began to moan and really get into the moment, I could feel myself straining very hard against the tight, unforgiving cage.  But truly all I wanted to do was to get HER off!  I really couldn’t have cared less about being let out and having an orgasm for myself.  I just rode that high right along with Angel through the entire “build-up” process, then got to keep it there right on the edge, FAR beyond how long I’d have ever been able to last on my own accord!  Angel seemed like she might have been holding back a tiny bit herself, trying to delay the inevitable for as long as possible, but really exploded when I said the simple words “Come for me!”  And I got to feel all of that too, at least vicariously THROUGH Angel!
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Last week, we just returned from our second little vacation for the summer, back to Florida again. This one was a family vacation with the kids though–quite different than the trip Angel and I were able to take last month by ourselves!

For this trip we did the whole Disney thing for a couple of days (first time for the boys), after which we planted ourselves on the beach for the last half of the week. It was fun, don’t get me wrong. And the boys were definitely very excited for many of the rides, getting to meet some of their favorite characters, etc. But on the other hand it can get very frustrating dealing with kids “world is ending” type of problems every day while on vacation.. I love them dearly, but travelling with them can make me want to pull out what little hair I have left! 🙂

But I digress. The point of this story as it relates to chastity is that I was NOT in chastity for most of last week! I knew Angel had picked up a key before we left the house, it was just unclear if/when she would want to use it. Turns out, she was a little bit afraid of me possibly being stopped at the metal detectors at the gates to Disney World.

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I’ll make this the last post in my little “mini-series” of sorts about the kink-heavy vacation that Angel and I took together a few weeks ago. That’s not to say I’ll never speak of it again elsewhere, but I wanted to do one more entry here just to kind of sum up all of our experiences and lessons learned from the trip.

Overall this little get-away with Angel was absolutely WONDERFUL! There we were at the ocean, a good 1300 miles from home with no kids, no commitments, and pretty much no inhibitions! In the weeks leading up to this trip we had made so many plans of what we wanted to do (both inside and outside the bedroom). Many of those plans played out quite nicely, while others either fell by the wayside or just fell flat.

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This one is kind of a hard post to write.. I’ve had a blank draft out there with this title (at least the first part of it) for a few weeks now in anticipation of what was to come, just had to wait until our vacation to see how things played out to know what to ACTUALLY write about. And this particular thing couldn’t have happened any more different than what I had hoped/played out in my head.

Every relationship & journey has to have its little bumps along the way, and I guess this is one for me. I think I’ve been pretty lucky since I started this blog, as overall it has been a pretty huge success story of introducing my previously completely “vanilla” wife to a pretty “out-there” thing (somewhat out there even as far as kink goes) like long term chastity. Not only has Angel been very open minded and accepting of my deep seeded desire to be locked, but she has completely embraced the role of key-holder and even learned a lot about herself along the way in terms of actually ENJOYING denying me orgasms as she has them for herself over and over again!

As anybody who has been following/reading my blog for very long would know, besides chastity Angel and I have slowly been venturing into quite a few other things along the kink spectrum; especialy in the realm of bondage, spanking, ass/foot worship, etc. The only major line Angel has drawn has been in coming out to any “public” BDSM-type events with me, whether it be a local munch, a play party, etc. She has been at least somewhat accepting of ME going to such things, but will not go herself. I can’t say that I completely agree with her reasoning, but I do at least somewhat understand where she’s coming from–being that she does work in the public sector and is fairly well known around certain circles in our community. You never know where those circles and the BDSM crowd may intersect, and Angel is very afraid of running into somebody who might recognize her. Personally I would just say that if there IS somebody there who knows her, the fact is that they are at these events for the SAME reason, and there are kind of unspoken “rules” against outing individuals that you may happen to see at kink events. But nonetheless, if Angel is not comfortable attending any events with me for those reasons, I will never force it on her.

But now back to our vacation. We spent an entire week in a Total Power Exchange with Angel playing the part of my Mistress/Domme (and doing it VERY well I may add!) For our last night on the drive home, I had come up with one last little surprise for Angel that I thought (hoped) she might enjoy. I’m not going to name any names here, but just outside of Atlanta I actually found a popular local “Dungeon,” which has a handful of private little suites for nightly rentals (each with their own private dungeon spaces as well). It’s like a kinky little B&B, only the second “B” doesn’t exactly stand for “Breakfast” in this case (think: “Bed & Bondage!”)

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For my birthday in the Florida Keys, following a fun day of SCUBA diving Angel and I got off of the boat and went to get ourselves a nice couple’s massage! We’ve only done that together one other time since we’ve been married. That time, we made it a point to unlock/remove my chastity cage before going to the spa–but not this time around! Not only was I to be locked, but sporting my new “Property of Angel” tattoo as well.

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Day two of our little Kinky Getaway; it was a long travel day since we opted to drive all the way to the Florida Keys rather than fly. But driving does have its advantages, as we can pack a lot more into the van to bring along with us than what we’d have been able to put on a plane! Especially when it comes to fun toys to use in the bedroom. A lot of the things we packed would have had to stay home if we’d been flying on this trip. Especially the BIG toys, like my next surprise for Angel!

This gift has been in the works for a long time, like several years now… But we’re pretty much pulling out all the stops for this trip, there’s nothing held back or completely off-limits! Angel has been well acquainted for a while now with the Hitachi Magic Wand, and there is nothing else that has ever been able to get her off as hard or as often as that, until now when I introduced her to the fabled Sybian! IF you’ve never heard of this machine before, go Google it… but not now, you should finish reading MY account of it first! Lol

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As we get started on our week long getaway, my first little surprise/gift for Angel comes in the form of… a new Tattoo! Well, sort of. Maybe not exactly full-blown, permanent ink on my body. I don’t think I’d ever really go that far, at least certainly not without first discussing it with Angel and making sure she was on board with it!

But I did come up with this design and sent it off to have a bunch of temporary tats printed! Just in case the picture at the top of this post ever isn’t displaying properly, the best way to describe my tattoo is a heart-shaped padlock with Angel wings around it, and the words “Property of Angel” at the top.

I am wearing one now, right in the pubic area directly above the Jail Bird. Being able to spend an entire week in complete service to my wife/Mistress, this is a very powerful way to start me off immediately in that submissive mindset! That which is locked tightly within a chastity device is certainly Her property, but even more importantly I am completely marked as Angel’s property–mind, body and soul…

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Angel and I will be embarking on a long awaited vacation next week, and it absolutely cannot get here soon enough!  We’re going to be letting grandparents take care of the boys for a while so we can take a full week long trip to probably the most tropical area in the continental U.S.: the Florida Keys!  Outside of a little day trip where we drove down there a couple years ago while staying elsewhere in South Florida, I haven’t been to this location for probably 20 years or so, and I’ve been wanting to get Angel there with me for quite some time to enjoy the relaxing atomosphere, some world class SCUBA diving, etc.  So when an opportunity presented itself to spend an entire week there with just the two of us, we both jumped at the chance!

To be clear, I have no idea at this point if any other types of “keys” will be involved while we are IN the Keys!  I fully intend to continue wearing the Jail Bird until (if/when) the time comes that Angel decides to let me out.  If she decides not to even BRING the keys to my chastity device with us, that is completely up to her!  We have been talking about this and planning things for weeks now, and I believe there will be PLENTY of fun, even rather “kinky” things going on between us throughout the week, whether I am ever unlocked or not!

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Believe it or not, my last post was not originally meant to be all about “Richard,” and strap-on sex!  But as I began writing and got stuck on that topic, it just kept getting longer and longer until I felt it justified its own blog entry.  What I had intended to write about, was the deepening D/s bond which has definitely been happening between Angel and I of late!
I feel like every day I wake up loving Angel even more and more; not just as my beautiful wife, my life partner, and my (kinky) best friend, but as my key-holder and most recently–my Domme.  We’ve talked about this a few times and even Angel can’t believe how much she has been able to find her little “inner dominatrix” and how much she enjoys and even gets off on dominating me!  Of course just hearing her speak in her own words of getting off while having her way with me, just makes me want even more of it right then and there!

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I feel like it’s been a while since I’ve been able to write anything, as life has been pretty crazy for the past few weeks.. Not in a bad way or anything, just lots of things going on with the kids, plus Angel and I have been taking some dance lessons together so that has been interesting. It’s been pretty fun, but kind of crazy trying to juggle between babysitters, etc. for at least one night most weeks so we can go out for a while.

But even through our hectic “vanilla” lives, it seems like there has still been plenty of the “kinky” stuff going on behind the scenes too. For one, I’m still locked in the Jail Bird–and loving it! And Angel gets off on that fact so much too, which just makes me love it even more! We haven’t had a whole lot of actual “play time” lately, but when we do we have really been incorporating the strap-on a LOT more! As in, ME wearing the strap-on over the top of my cage, and filling Angel up with a fake dick considerably larger than the real one still locked away…

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I had some more great questions come in from a new reader, regarding (among other things) how I brought my wife on board with male chastity and “convinced” her to keep me locked for longer periods.

bigdaddyb wrote:

I haven’t read through all of your posts (just found the site today) but I have a few questions as I have been trying to figure out how to get my wife to be interested in chastity play.

1. How did you bring it up to your wife and did she show interest right away or did you have to slowly work into it?

2. How long did she lock you up for to begin with? (I read about your current status and lengthy lock up with enjoyment and excitement).

3. Did you have to tell her not to let you out/deny you at first? or did she take to it right away and keep you in? I ask this one because even though I have told my wife how much the thought of T&D in chastity excites me – including the denial part – she still hasn’t kept me locked more than 4 days so far.

4. Did your wife always enjoy her wand or is it something she had to get use to? I bought my wife a wand and a rabbit vibe based on everything I had read thinking that she would enjoy them and that would be a means for her to orgasm while keeping me locked but she has not shown interest in them saying that “they don’t do anything for me”.

5. Does she keep the keys hidden or does she wear one on a necklace/anklet/bracelet?

Thanks in advance for any answers/input. I’m hoping that she will eventually see the fun that can be had for her by being a more strict keyholder.


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My first chastity “sentence” in the Jail Bird, which also happened to be by far my longest continuous chastity term to date, came to an end last week. Unlike sometimes when I am let out of my device, there was no big fanfare involved, and no hot & sexy story to recount about the event. Pretty much no reason to even act like I was out, besides the fact that I was indeed free for well over a day so I felt it was worth resetting the counter and calling it a new session.

canstockphoto38512116.jpgLast Wednesday, I had a doctor appointment scheduled in the afternoon as a consultation for an upcoming colon screening. I kind of doubted that being locked would be an issue at all for just the consultation, but not knowing for sure I had asked Angel about a week earlier if she would be able to unlock me for this appointment, and she agreed. However, we both ended up forgetting about it, and I just remembered that morning as we were both getting ready for work. Unfortunately, that morning tension was already kind of high and tempers flaring a little bit around our house (I’m sure anyone who has ever had to deal with misbehaving children while already running late for work knows exactly the situation we were going through!) So in that case I opted to not add even more to Angel’s plate and ask again to be released. Since I do know exactly where she keeps the keys, once she left the house I just went back and let myself out of the Jail Bird before I went to work myself. Like I said, no fanfare whatsoever!

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I had a Reader question come in via one of my older posts (Queen’s Keep: Official Review) regarding my observation that shorter chastity cages seem to work better than longer devices and are much more comfortable for the long-term.  I felt that my response was getting a bit too wordy for the comments section, so here we are with a new post!

Tamekeri asks:

I’m curious. Can you explain why having less space in the cage means less strain on the scrotum? From what you wrote, it sounds like the less space there is in the cage, the less the penis can grow. But in my experience, the penis will grow no matter what. The less room it has to grow outwards, the more the erection is pulled into the body, but the more pressure there also is for it to go outwards. Which means that the less space there is in the cage, the more strain there will be on the scrotum, not less.


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Today I have hit a full SIX MONTHS straight of being locked in the Jail Bird!  This is already roughly two months longer than my previous personal chastity record, and still counting.  Now this is not to say that I have had completely zero orgasms over the past 6 months or have been locked absolutely 24×7 since October 4, 2016, but both of those statements are ALMOST true.

According to my records on my Current Status page, I have only been unlocked very briefly a total of 4 times over the past 6 months, including two of them on the same day.  I would estimate that I have had less than 1 hour TOTAL of “freedom” since we began this lock-up session.  And each of those outings did include an orgasm, so I can say that I’ve had a total of 4 full orgasms plus 2 of what I like to call “Chastegasms.”  So I guess you could say that I am still averaging 1 “release” per month, give or take a few days/weeks.

Now I’m not going to lie, a chastegasm does feel pretty damn good and does provide a bit of relief from all of the pent up sexual energy that just keeps building inside of me during long periods of chastity.  It ends up being pretty close to a “normal” orgasm, but still very different at the same time.  There’s just something about being scrunched in a steel cage less than 2 inches long, not being able to get completely hard at all and not feeling the stroking motion all the way down your shaft that makes it a completely new experience.  The only way I’ve ever even been able to have one is with very strong vibrations (i.e. from a Hitachi Magic Wand) directly on the tip of the cage.  The most recent such experience was just this past weekend, and it’s a fun story!

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So this isn’t directly chastity related, but it COULD be! A man trying to wear a metal cock ring that’s too small, gets it stuck on, and has to have the local fire department cut it off with an angle grinder!

I’ve linked to the original news article below, as well as pasted the text directly into my blog in case the link ever goes away for any reason..  It’s also a pretty interesting read (with more detail on the case) from the Irish Medical Journal, here:

http://imj.ie/multidisciplinary-emergent-removal-of-a-metal-penoscrotal-constriction-device/

The bottom line here folks is measure, measure, measure! Don’t try to be tough and wear a base ring with your chastity device that’s way too tight! If it’s painful, get it off right away and try something else.  Don’t let this be you next!

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