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I’m still unlocked from my chastity device, 49 days and counting. I really should lock myself back up and give Angel the keys again but there’s just something holding me back this time that I’ve been trying to really put my finger on. I guess in a way I’m almost waiting for Angel to ORDER me back in, but that has never really happened yet in the years we’ve practiced male chastity so I don’t anticipate it now either. She HAS hinted strongly at it though… Said numerous times that she was surprised I haven’t locked myself back up yet. And says that I am much more horny when locked. But she will stop short of directly asking me to go back in, even if I ask her if those comments are meant to be a directive.

Truth be told I’ve been having a bit of fun while unlocked the last several weeks. Too much fun I suppose. A big part of me still desperately craves being locked back into my Jail Bird, unable to have any orgasms without Angel’s express permission. But then again since I’m free, I have to admit that sometimes temptation just gets the best of me. In the shower, naked, warm water rolling down my body, and a nice hard dick in hand… I can’t even say how many times I’ve probably jerked one off that way over the past month or so.

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Happy Fourth of July everybody! In years past I’ve tried coming up with some clever and/or deep writings about the irony of celebrating Independence while I’ve given up one area of my own independence to Angel. But I don’t really have anything new to add along those lines so if you want to see what I’ve said previously feel free to look back through my archives! šŸ™‚

Angel and I definitely made some of our own fireworks last night which I’ll try to elaborate more on later… So stay tuned!


We just returned from a family vacation to the Northeast United States, a good 1200 miles from home! We drove there, so this made for quite a long road trip with two young boys plus all of our in-laws (Angel and I each only have one parent still living). I think spending that much time in a car together can test the patience of ANY family, but overall it really was a pretty fun trip and hopefully something the boys will remember fondly in the years to come!

One big thing that struck me on this trip that I wanted to write about here, was how Angel’s mindset towards chastity has evolved over time without her even realizing it! In years past when we would leave for a vacation, no matter how long I’d been locked ahead of time she has always been very mindful to pack the keys to my chastity device, “just in case she might decide to use them!” And usually, she does. Even if it’s only late one night while everyone else is sleeping in other rooms, she’ll want to let me out for a quickie then often lock me right back up again for the remainder of our trip.

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I’ve written at least a couple times previously about going through standard metal detectors at public venues (baseball games, the county courthouse, etc.) while wearing my Mature Metal chastity devices–and not setting off any alarms. That’s old news now, but I have a couple of newer stories to share along those lines that are kind of fun!

First, a few weeks ago Angel and I went to see some stand-up comedy. Trevor Noah (from “The Daily Show” on Comedy Central) was in town and we had tickets! It was being held at an older venue in our city that we don’t go to very often; in fact we had only been there one other time earlier this year when there was a kid show that we took the boys to see. I knew from that experience that this place does NOT have metal detectors installed at the doors at all, so I didn’t even give it a second thought to show up still locked as usual.

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What I did NOT expect, was that for this event they had security guards inside with the wand style metal detectors. Sometimes at places like this I’ve seen them just do the occasional spot checks, but here they were pretty much wanding everybody! Well, maybe not EVERYONE.. Ladies like Angel who were carrying a purse, only had their bags checked then were sent on through. But for me, I was definitely getting the wand.

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Catching up on a bit of mail from my inbox,

Jonathan asks:

Hi,

Thanks for the very interesting blog. I’ve gotten my wife into chastity
play and currently I’m wearing a CB-6000S, which is kind of OK, but
we’re planning of upgrading to a Mature Metal Jail Bird, since it seems
much better.

I have a question about the locking system though: I’d prefer to get
the device with the security screw, but it seems that you have had some
bad luck with that. Do you think it’s a general quality issue or have
you just had bad luck with it? I’d prefer having a reliable locking
system.

And do you think one could keep a padlock like in CB-6000S with a
jailbird instead of having it sideways?

Thanks in advance for your answers,

– J


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Note: I had hoped to have this published sometime over this past weekend, but didn’t quite get it all written in time. All references to Memorial Day are still very pertinent, even if a day late! šŸ™‚


As we come up on Memorial Day here in the U.S. I do want to take a moment to remember those who have given their lives in service to our great country…

I am and will always be very grateful for the sacrifice these fine folks have given to ensure the freedoms that we all take for granted today. Now without further ado and with no disrespect intended whatsoever, I want to shift focus to a different type of “memory.” This IS a chastity blog after all! šŸ™‚

I won’t have to go too far back in time now; only to Mother’s Day weekend, as it was certainly a Mother’s Day worth remembering! (more…)


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WOW, OK… Being locked in a chastity device for so long must definitely mess with a guy’s mind a bit, huh? I mean, could I really get to a point where I truly don’t even WANT to get out and have a “real” orgasm? Am I already at that point? I’ve long said that I don’t CARE when I get out, as I want it to be completely Angel’s decision… but in the heat of the moment I always still WANT to be out! Let’s back up a little bit though, and analyze my real-life account of last weekend (yes, I’ve been working this draft for several days now)…

This story takes place a week after I had ventured out into the local community to attend an intro “Rope Bondage” class. It went pretty well and was a lot of fun (read about it here and here.) I just hadn’t had any chance yet to practice any of my new knots on Angel. Saturday morning we woke up both a little frisky, but still couldn’t do very much because we heard that the kids were already up and moving around the house as well. Still, I rolled on top of her to simulate what she had to look forward to LATER if she wished! I held both of her wrists together over her head and said that I might just have to tie them like that to make sure she couldn’t stop me from giving her extra orgasms!

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A fun little poem, submitted by HappilyLockedMan. Enjoy!

Returning to bed
Her sleeping hand finds my cage
Manhood swelling against steel bars
I lay there, content

 


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CALLING ALL BASEBALL FANS!!

Or even if you’re not, you may still enjoy this! I have no idea about internationally, but at least if you live in the U.S. (even if you don’t follow the sport or attend games very often) surely everyone is at least familiar with the catchy little jingle played during the 7th Inning Stretch at pretty much every game, right?

You know, they get the old pipe organ fired up and everyone sings:

Take me out to the ball game,
Take me out with the crowd.
Buy me some peanuts and cracker jack,
I don’t care if I never get back.
Let me root, root, root for the [home team],
If they don’t win it’s a shame.
For it’s one, two, three strikes, you’re out,
At the old ball game!

WELL, I’ve gone and written some new lyrics to that tune, starting with “Lock Me Up in a Steel Cage!
Then I hired it out to be sung and get a new track created, and it is fantastic!

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Angel has been out of town this week visiting some family, and I sure do miss her! I’ve been keeping busy and pretty productive around the house in her absence (painting the boys’ room, etc.), but at night when I’m alone in our big bed… That’s when it usually seems to hit the hardest. Luckily it’s only for a couple of days, so she will be back again tonight!

In the mean time, I wanted to write briefly about a couple of new experiences that I’ve had this week while locked. The first one being that I DID go to the doctor for an annual physical for the first time in chastity! I was a little bit emboldened the last time I went for a check-up (unlocked that time) and found out that apparently they don’t really do the little testicular check much anymore… If he’s not going to be feeling around down there, I see no reason that I would “need” to be unlocked!

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And it’s true, it was no big deal at all. All we talked about was my general health, cholesterol, exercise (or lack thereof!); all that type of normal mundane stuff. If he HAD tried to go south with it, my contingency plan was to stop him and ask if this would be considered a “kink-friendly” type of practice… then would of course have to explain why I was asking and effectively be “out” to my doctor. But you know, at this stage in my life I think I would be OK with that. But at the same time I’m also VERY OK with the fact that the conversation did NOT have to happen there! šŸ™‚

The other thing I’ve done this week, I kind of splurged for a little bit of “me time” and went to a FLOAT spa. Has anybody ever heard of, or done this? Basically you get into this giant tank with like 10 inches of 97 degree water and several hundred pounds of epsom salt. You close the lid, the lights go out and you just float on your back in complete darkness and silence for the duration (90 minutes at this place). With zero outside stimuli, your brain can just completely disengage for a while letting your body completely relax and heal..

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Back in February I was contacted by Ms. Scarlett, who runs an Adult Toy Store & Blog out of the U.K., called “Toys 4 Naughty Boys.” She was getting ready to start writing an article for her blog aimed at helping people who are new to chastity and just trying to find some good beginner tips. As such, she was reaching out to “experts” who have been involved in the lifestyle for quite a while, to give some first-hand advice. I’d use the term loosely, but apparently I fit the bill as expert in this case! Lol

The article has published now, and can be read in its entirety here:

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A comment came in over on my Discussion Board that I wanted to address in a new post rather than being hidden out there on a separate page.Ā  This may be one of the last topics to come through that particular board, as I am trying to figure out the best way to shut down new comments there without losing the old content, in favor of running any new such discussions through my FetLife group.

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Of course, you are always welcome to comment on any individual blog posts about the topic at hand, or send me a direct e-mail via my Contact Page.Ā  Just please be advised that FetLife really is to be the preferred medium going forward for any general discussions like this that fall outside of existing blog entries.Ā  It is free to join, you’ll never be forced to enter a credit card # or anything along those lines, and there is a WEALTH of information out there far beyond my group.Ā  So come on out and join us!

But back to the topic at hand!Ā  Juan wrote:

Iā€™m considering chastity as a self imposed solution to reduce masturbation, porn, and clear my mind. Has anyone done it for this reason?

I have a friend that will hold the key and keep me accountable. My goal is to make it 365 days.

Suggestions and thoughts are appreciative.


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Last week I recieved my Jail Bird back from Mature Metal, with a new key and new security screws that are now countersunk into the device. Ahh, it is GOOD to be home! The Holy Trainer is pretty decent as far as stock off-the-shelf plastic chastity devices go, but there is still a huge difference to get back to a custom steel device!

I will completely stand by my initial assessments of the HTV3 found here, but I did just want to elaborate a tiny bit more on a couple things now that I’ve had almost two weeks of continued usage.

Holy Trainer V3 Review – Part1
Holy Trainer V3 Review – Part2

HTV3 Design:
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I was having an e-mail conversation the other day with HappilyLockedMan and an interesting question came up that I didn’t really have an immediate, intelligent answer to.

canstockphoto10675338.jpgBy the way if you have not yet read the fictional short story of “Aaron and Melissa,” by HappilyLockedMan, I strongly encourage you to do so here!

Anyway, to put it into context we were discussing how Angel is generally a very private person in regard to her bedroom proclivities and PROBABLY doesn’t exactly know the extent to which I do tend to write about us here in my blog. It’s not that I want to hide it from her by any means, as I HAVE told her several times before that I was blogging about my chastity experiences and even offered a link if she wanted to have a look. She has never taken me up on it, and I seriously doubt she’s ever gone to the trouble to try and find it on her own.

HappilyLockedMan inquired:Ā 

… Do you sometimes feel that you’re on thin ice in that if your wife read it you think she would be upset about your writing in such detail about your lives together?
Why do you write the blog? Do you have an exhibitionist streak like I spoke of having? Does the blog satisfy that streak?


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OK, it’s time to get down a little bit into the nitty gritty of the Holy Trainer V3, now that I’ve had a couple of days to check it out. You can read my initial assessment upon recieving the new device in Part 1, HERE.

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My new Holy Trainer V3 has arrived! The only complaint I have so far (and it’s very minor!) is that it took a tiny bit longer to get here than I hoped.. I did pay for expedited shipping, hoping to get my Jail Bird off to Mature Metal as soon as possible. It still took about 2-3 days before I even heard that the order had been processed and shipped, and by then it was the weekend so I didn’t expect too much. I then recieved a tracking notification from the shipping company with an ETA of this past Monday, so I was very excited that whole day at work, anxious to get home and try it out! But alas, there were no packages on my doorstep that evening, and when I checked the tracking link again it was still in Switzerland… Luckily, Overnight Post as it is, it DID arrive in my town by Tuesday though and since I wasn’t home at the time I was able to sign for the delivery on Wednesday of this week.

As far as plastic chastity devices go, this really is a thing of beauty! My only other experiences with plastic is the CB-xxxx line, so I will mainly be comparing this to the CB-6000s which I spent most of my time locked in back in the days prior to going with custom steel.

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Getting a discussion group started on FetLife has already been well worth it!  Thank you so much to everybody who has joined already, and I look forward to hosting even more in that forum!

There has already been one early thread on Fet with something I’d never seen before and I couldn’t resist sharing on the blog!

Thank you very much furcissy for the link to this video!  A VERY young looking John Stewart hosting the Daily Show on Comedy Central, has one of his correspondents interview the inventors of the CB-2000; possibly the first ever mass-marketed male chastity device.  It’s well worth a few minutes of your time to watch!

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I am locked back into the Jail Bird again as of today, but with one difference in that it is being held by a regular padlock now instead of the security screw. I was experimenting with it during my short, few days of freedom, and I definitely think that at least the one key is almost completely rounded out and useless now. I could get the screw IN somewhat easily but to back it back out requires catching it at just the right angle with the right amount of pressure (not too hard, for fear of stripping it even more!) Just dry-fitting the cage and base ring together with the screw, I almost didn’t think I was going to get it back out at all, but eventually did. It’s not exactly a chance I want to knowingly take while wearing it though!

I asked Angel if she had the second key to see if it worked any better, but she wasn’t finding it right away. We’ll probably have to clean out her bedside drawer at some point and see if it’s buried in there somewhere! But for now, this will work. I suppose.. Sort of…
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I’ve decided to try something new this year with my blog to hopefully make it easier for at least some readers to interact with me and with each other, for anybody who may be interested. I’ve had a discussion page on the blog for quite a while, but it really doesn’t get used very often. I’m perfectly OK with that, as I know that just using a WordPress comments section isn’t exactly a particularly good communication medium (it can sometimes be kind of hard to sort out where one conversation ends and another begins…) And we HAVE had some great, more pertinent discussions on individual blog entries over the past few years. For that I thank you, and your feedback and questions are ALWAYS welcome!!

So for a general discussion page, I’m going to try using a group on FetLife instead. I don’t know for sure, but I suspect a large percentage of my readers might already be on Fet anyway, so you would know that the groups there are pretty easy to navigate, start new discussions, follow discussions, send a private message to individual members if desired, etc. If you’re not already a member, I highly recommend joining anyway even if my group has nothing to do with it (yes it is free!)

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After over 5 months (163 days total), a personal record setting chastity duration came to an end on New Year’s Day 2018! This wasn’t the longest total duration that I’ve ever been locked, as I’ve done a stint over 6 months before, but it is the longest time that I’ve ever gone without ever being unlocked ONE SINGLE TIME, for anything at all!

Normally Angel will let me out every great once in a while for some quick fun (maybe I’ll even get an orgasm out of it) but then I’m put right back into the cage. As those outings are usually far less than even 20 minutes of freedom, I don’t normally count them as being out, so the chastity session continues. I DO try to record those instances though on my Current Status page as an FYI only. The past 5 months have had ZERO such releases!

Angel has been lamenting quite a bit lately about missing having me inside her, so I wasn’t sure if it would be coming soon or not. Or I guess a better way to phrase it would be if I would be coming soon or not! šŸ™‚ After getting home from the New Year’s party and getting the kids down to bed, Angel was definitely getting a little frisky. She began rubbing the key to the Jail Bird against my back asking if that was something I wanted. I told her that I wanted anything that SHE wanted, whether or not it involved that key!

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