Locker Room Chastity

Posted: March 16, 2017 in Chastity, Fetish, Kinky, Male Chastity, Orgasm Denial

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There are a few other chastity sites/forums (besides mine) that I follow fairly religiously, and will chime in once in a while on various subjects when I feel I might have something relevant to say.  I’m not going to call out the other sites here, but it’s likely that at least some of you reading this have probably seen me perusing other groups! 🙂  Anyway, one topic that seems to come up on a somewhat regular basis is that of revealing your chastity device to others.  Especially others who may not know anything about this kind of thing, and probably don’t WANT to know anything about that side of your sexuality!  Most of the time in the groups I’m reading this is centered around chastity specifically, but it can usually also be applied to revealing any other “kink” to unsuspecting persons, and it generally gets into the issue of consent vs. non-consent as well.

The place this comes up most often is when talking about wearing a chastity device in a locker room, be it at the gym, pool, or elsewhere.  I guess for some locked-up guys it’s kind of exciting to be exposed in that type of environment with a risk of being seen, or getting “caught.”  These usually turn into fairly lengthy discussions, with at least one person adamantly stating that it is NEVER ok to purposely force your kink onto non-consenting outsiders.  It’s an interesting debate.  I can see both sides to this, and I think locker rooms in particular seem to be a pretty big gray area.

First, when it comes to exposing non-consenting people to my kinks, I agree that generally speaking that is wrong.  I would never, for example, purposely pull down my pants while walking down the street or in any other public venue to reveal that I am locked in a chastity device.  Even if I WASN’T locked, exposing myself in that kind of environment would be wrong (not to mention illegal in most places), where people have a reasonable expectation that everyone’s going to be keeping their clothes on!

In a locker room, yeah that’s in a way sort of a public venue too, but at least it’s segregated by gender and everyone expects to encounter naked people there.  For the most part I think people tend to just keep their head down and mind their own business while letting everyone else tend to theirs.  If anybody IS looking, there are all kinds of personal things you might see that wouldn’t normally be visible outside of the locker room.  (i.e. hidden tattoos, piercings, etc.)  I don’t necessarily think that seeing somebody in a chastity device in this scenario should be any different.  Most people, even if curious, would probably just ignore it and move on with their life.  Worst case (if it’s really even a bad thing) maybe it would end up being a conversation starter, and “enlighten” someone about something that they never knew anything about before.  As long as everyone involved is being civil about it, there shouldn’t be any issue.

Now that’s not to say that someone in chastity should ever just run around the locker room naked, flaunting it or anything like that.  It’s one thing if someone “happens” to see it, but even there I wouldn’t consider it ok to FORCE everyone nearby to look at your kink!

For myself, I still try to stay in a corner and keep covered as much as possible, and as far as I know nobody has ever seen my device.  But partly why I do that (and yet another caveat to the whole locker room question) is that I have only ever been in this situation at the local YMCA, in the evenings, when there are also lots of children coming and going from swim classes.  I definitely don’t want to be exposing that type of thing to them, for their parents to have to try to figure out what the heck they’re even talking about if/when they start asking questions!  If I were a member of a gym or something, and knew that it would only be adult men in the locker room with me, I still wouldn’t just outright flaunt it but might tend to be more lenient about completely hiding myself.

To me, the bottom line is that everybody has their own unique interests, style, and way of living their life.  It’s what defines each of us as an individual.  When I walk down the street and see a person with giant holes in their ear lobes for some really large guage rings, I might think “OK, that’s not for me–but good for him/her for expressing themselves in that way!”  In that example, from what I understand (with my admittedly very limited knowledge of it) that’s a fairly permanent body mod.  So pretty much every single person that they ever meet for the rest of their life, will be immediately “exposed” to that side of their personality whether they like it or not.  No, it’s not like we’re talking about a “sexual kink” here with that example, but really if someone in a locker room happened to find out that I as an individual happen to be into chastity, is that really so bad?

As always, let me know what you think.  I’m always interested in other’s opinions on these types of issues!  🙂

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  1. I’m always surprised, as I move a little further into this fascinating pool, by the judgements I hear coming from non-partakers. It makes me extra thankful that the more people I meet on the kink side, the more open hearted acceptance I experience.
    I’ve had to explain some interesting piercings to my daughters after trips to the Y, in some ways a cage might be an easier discussion…

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  2. I agree that a locker room is a different type of environment and that expectations are different there. I am allowed to remove my cage on most visits to the gym. The expectation is that I will reinstall it prior to leaving the gym. My wife gives me the key just before I leave in the morning and I remove the cage leaving the padlock unlocked. After my workout I clean up and then reapply the cage and lock. If it’s really busy, I go into a stall. There are times though when I’m just doing light cardio and I am not showering at the gym, where my wife will refuse to let me out for that workout. On one occasion she made sure I kept the cage on for my regular workout and cleanup. I was very circumspect though and no one noticed.

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    • pcguy0681 says:

      So do you find that some, more strenuous types of workouts just wouldn’t be feasible to do while locked? I never actually go to a gym myself, so I really can’t speak for that at all, was just curious where some of the limitations might be. The closest I can probably relate would be where I have done many pretty labor-intensive construction projects around the house, and so far have never really had any issues with chastity during any of that.

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  3. renudepride says:

    A very interesting perspective, my blogging buddy. As a confirmed naturist/nudist, it definitely offers some “food for thought.” Thanks, man. Naked hugs!

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  4. Some interesting points – we often as society has slowly changed come to terms with piercings, tats, etc and seeing them on other people in the locker room. These are often much more commonplace (I expect) than seeing other guys with chastity devices on them. Likewise certain other things, as mentioned in other comments regarding condoms – these are pretty commonplace and nothing unusual about them.

    I certainly would not want people seeing my kink exposed for all and sundry – it’s very much a private thing between me and Mrs EDC. Accidental viewing may be a risk involved in having something pretty much permanently affixed to you, but my thinking is to mitigate that as much as possible.

    The other aspect of people willingly showing their devices off in locker rooms to expose their kink really does fall into the non-consensual camp in my opinion.

    Is it really that bad if someone found out? It’s not the end of the world – my reasons for chastity are as unique as other peoples reasons. For some, it’s a method of control (like the couple who has the misfortune of infidelity – a means of restoring trust), for others it’s a means of power play between partners, for others, a reminder of their kinks in the more extreme.

    It would take me a long, long time to convince someone it’s a: not harmful, and b: actually rather beneficial to our sex life. It took Mrs EDC long enough to come to terms with it !!!

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    • pcguy0681 says:

      That’s a very good point, where things like tats, piercings, etc. are much more common and “accepted” within society these days. But then I suppose part of the path to acceptance must be knowledge, right? And while I totally agree with not just flaunting a chastity device outright for every non-consenting person around you to see, I think as things like this become a bit more mainstream, “accidentally” seeing chastity in a locker room may just open the door for some to expand their horizons. The more extroverted may just ask about it on the spot, others will go home and do some google searches wondering what the heck they just saw, and who knows–may just find something that they could enjoy for themselves!

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  5. The way I see it I wouldn’t run around flaunting vanilla any more than I run around flaunting kink, but if a condom happened to fall out of my purse well ….

    That person might decide to ask me about being sexually active or they might actively ignore me as I put it away. So be it, go with the flow and deal with what, if anything comes of it.

    I think your ideas are sound! 😀

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  6. I know a couple where the man cheated on a regular basis, chastity saved their relationship. They’re the happiest they’ve ever been so no it isn’t bad at all! It’s all a matter of subjectivity

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    • pcguy0681 says:

      Agreed, within a relationship I would say it is perfectly OK, even healthy, to reveal all aspects of yourself–kinks included. Your partner might reject some, if they’re just not “into” it, or they might pick it up and run with it, bringing you even closer as a couple. That’s a great example of a success story, thank you!

      But what about outside the privacy of your bedroom, with people that you are not intimate with, and have no idea how “kink-centric” they may be? Is it ever ok to reveal these kind of kinks to non-consenting folks in that type of situation?

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      • It depends on how secure you are as a person I guess.id have no probs telling anyone my kinks, but I’m probably very desensitised. also I don’t give a toss, I don’t need anyone’s approval. But I think some people wouldn’t have a positive response. I guess the issue is how I’d deal with that….

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