UK Kinksters Unite!

Posted: January 19, 2017 in BDSM, Fetish, Kinky

I’m going to step away from straight-up chastity topics here for a moment and venture briefly into an area that I generally HATE going into at all: Politics!

There is so much crap going around all over the world lately about various governments trying to censor “objectionable” online content. I have a very bad feeling that there will be even more of this type of thing coming to the forefront here in the U.S. over the coming years, but today’s topic will be specifically for my readers in the United Kingdom.

As far as I can understand, there is a “Digital Economy Bill” currently under consideration in Parliament which includes provisions to force ISP’s to block legal online content depicting sexual acts classified as “non-conventional.” As for what types of activities would fall into that category remains to be seen, but the thing is that what to some may seem “non-conventional & objectionable,” to others are a part of who they are, and everybody should be free to that sort of expression — granted, within normal practiced guidelines of Safe, Sane, and CONSENTUAL. It is of my opinion that as long as nobody is actually being hurt (at least beyond negotiated limits, and outside of maybe some conservatives’ collective egos!) it is not up to governments to try to legislate what types of sexual practices are “acceptable” to engage in and share with like-minded individuals. Apparently besides general content censoring, this bill would even make it much more difficult for community sites such as FetLife to operate in the UK. This would be a big blow to countless individuals who rely on such sites for not only organizing events and such, but also being able to share information/experiences to help everyone practice their myriad of kinks in the safest way possible.

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Last year around this time I went through my Current Status page and wrote up a 2015 Lock-up Summary, so I thought I’d do the same thing again for 2016.  Turns out I’m very consistent!  I felt like I was probably locked more this past year than I was the year before, but it turns out that is not true.  I was let out FEWER times, but some of them were for longer durations, so it kind of evened out.  For example, in 2015 I reported being let out of chastity 9 times, for a total of 61 days.  In 2016, I was only let out 5 times, for a total of 62 days!  As with last year, for those 5 “release periods” I only counted times where I was let out for at least one full day at a time.  If I was only out for a few minutes for a quickie orgasm or something then locked right back up, I still count that as being in chastity for that day (just being used by Angel however SHE sees fit!)

Last year I did the math to determine that I was LOCKED for a total of 304 days, or 83% of the year.  With 2016 being a leap year and all, turns out I was STILL locked for a total 304 days, or 83% of the year!  I had no idea that I was being so consistent for two years in a row, but that is still a LOT of time locked!  I know there were a couple of those 5 “outings” where I was free for about 2 weeks at a time, and one where I was out for a full 3 weeks.  Some of that was vacation related, and some was holding off on a new device to arrive, etc.  I suspect those kind of scenarios will be increasingly few and far between though.  I have actually vowed to Angel that this year (short of any unforeseen circumstances popping up) if she’s not actively “using” her dick then I will do my best to keep it locked at all times!  So we will just have to see how easy it is to keep that promise throughout 2017.

I also always find it very fun & rewarding to go back and reread some of my other posts over the past year to remember and sort of relive some of the highlights!

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Once again I just wanted to wish everybody a Happy New Year, and take a few moments to recap the fun night that WE had this past weekend, albeit a day early for the new year.  I knew that Angel and I would be out all night with the extended family on new year’s eve, so I had planned our own little party the night before!  Once we were sure the kids were both sound asleep, I had Angel change into a sexy new piece of lingerie I’d bought for her and meet me in the bedroom.  I wish I could get a couple pics on here of that but I doubt she’d appreciate that very much!  But it is this bright red outfit, trimmed in black lace which just barely covers the nipples, then a pair of black fishnet stockings and some new strappy high heels.  Very tall heels have never really been Angel’s “thing,” but I bought her a pair this time anyway hoping she might try them on for me at least once, and I must say that they do look very HOT on her!  She is a tall woman anyway, and these actually make her even taller than me.  When she’s standing and I’m not, it’s as if Angel is just completely towering over me which just seems to add even more to the new D/s dynamic that has been growing ever stronger between us lately!

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Happy Chaste New Year everybody!  I still have to go back and see just exactly how much I was locked this past year as compared to the year before, but it definitely felt like more.  And I don’t really make “resolutions,” but if I have one main goal for this coming year it will be to stay locked for Angel even more than ever before!

I am so used to this as a lifestyle now, that it almost seems strange to be unlocked much longer than a few hours at a time.  I’m guessing that this year will bring much more of being unlocked whenever Angel wants me out, and at that ONLY for however long it takes to please her!  Then I can go right back into the Jail Bird until the next time..  Pending any “life” circumstances that might dictate otherwise (doctor visits? vacations-air travel? unforseen device issues?) I don’t really see much reason not to be able to commit to that for all of 2017!


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Wow, can I just say: This has been one of the more fun & rewarding Christmas seasons that I can ever remember!  Of course, our boys are at just the right age where they are really into everything, so that is always a blast to watch them. But Angel and I have also been able to have even more of our own fun behind closed doors, every day lately!  Honestly I can’t even remember the last day that we DIDN’T either wake up and/or go to bed with some play time, and with SO many orgasms for Angel!  I’m sure it’s been every day for at least the better part of the past two weeks now, and I see no reason that this streak might break at least until we get into the new year!

Some of the most fun yet, has been just the past couple of nights, starting on Christmas Eve.  We knew we’d have to be getting up early with the boys the next day to see what Santa brought for them, but Angel was all for having some fun of our own the night before!  I had thought she’d be too tired that night since we were already up past midnight finishing up the last bit of wrapping, etc.  But when I realized she wasn’t I had a little early gift for her.  First I sent her off to change into a fun new piece of lingerie I’d picked up for her.  She had asked for something rather “slutty” for christmas, so when she came back in her red lace outfit decked out with bits of white fur along the neckline and of course crotchless panties, I could tell by the look on her face that she was really going to love being my slutty little Mrs. Clause for the evening!  For myself, I had pulled on a new pair of green velvet underwear complete with a red ribbon tied into a bow right at the tip of my cage.  A nice little “present” for Angel to unwrap later if she so desired!

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Merry Christmas, everybody!  True to our now almost-famous jingle (LOL) still posted down below, I am still locked for Christmas!  I did have one little surprise release about two days before the holiday, but was immediately locked back up afterwards.  Other than that there is no end in sight until Angel decides… And that, to me, is the best gift she could give me!

So while we’re on the topic of songs, Christmas Carols, etc. I will sign off today with a very quick stab at another familiar tune.  Primarily targeted at anybody who is locked in chastity, thinking of being locked in chastity, or locking or thinking of locking somebody ELSE into chastity.  Enjoy!

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Munch with Friends

Posted: December 21, 2016 in BDSM, Chastity, Fetish, Kinky, Male Chastity

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Who needs ‘Words with Friends’ when you can go to a kinky Munch with Friends?!  As I’ve written about a couple times previously, I have been trying to get a little more involved in the local kink community this year through various munches, etc.  It’s not something that I’ve been able to make it to EVERY month, but I do what I can to get there as often as possible, and Angel is aware of them now as well.

Last night was the scheduled day for the local munch that I normally try to attend, and I had already cleared things through Angel and planned on heading out there for a little while.  But then in a somewhat surprising turn of events, yesterday afternoon Angel sent me a text out of the blue asking if there was any chance of getting a sitter that night if she should happen to decide to go WITH me!  I know I must have done quite a double-take and had to reread the text a couple of times to make sure I was understanding her right, but I was very excited at that prospect!  I’ve always said that the only thing that might make these things better would be if Angel was there to share it with, but I won’t force that kind of thing on her if she’s not comfortable with it or ready to meet like-minded people out in public like that.

But as it turns out there was far more to this story as well!

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So,  I don’t “reblog” things on here very often, generally sticking to just my own writing for this blog.  But I read something this morning that really struck me as worth sharing! While I am definitely not “there” yet as far as coming out to anybody and everybody about being kinky, I do hope that someday I might be able to at least share that part of my life with a few of my closest friends. 

Unfortunately, even revealing new things like this to Angel has been extremely nerve-wracking for me sometimes (though getting MUCH easier now!) So I don’t know if I’ll ever be able to expand much beyond that in my “vanilla” life, but we shall see!

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So technically, I’ve had two coming outs! I’m greedy like that! There’s my ‘I’m not straight’ coming out and my ‘I’m into BDSM’ coming out. On both counts I’m pretty much entirely out of the closet and that closet is now full of Latex, whips and sex toys. So basically opening it takes me to a sexy Narnia.

I’m going to focus on my kinky coming out though as this writing was inspired by the most recent episode of #ProudToBeKinky podcast and kinky coming outs was this weeks topic.

I’m very lucky in many respects. Firstly I have a job that allows me to be open. My work colleagues all know about my proclivities and while none of them are kinky (that they’ve admitted to me yet) they’ve all be very accepting and have asked lots of questions so they have a better understanding of what it is I enjoy.

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Had a little fun at home alone this afternoon and the poetic juices kind of started flowing! I couldn’t help but to just write it down and get a post out here before I changed my mind…  This may be just a tiny bit “raunchier” than my normal blog entry and definitely NSFW!


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Besides a couple of new things that I wrote about in my last post that Angel and I explored in November, I forgot to mention something else we’ve been doing pretty much every night for almost a month now.  And that is that I, at least, have been sleeping completely nude (except for the Jail Bird, of course!)  There have always been occasional nights where we would do this, after an evening of sexy fun, then we would both just sort of collapse into each other and fall asleep.  But normally we would each get up at some point (not necessarily at the same time) and pull on some underwear at the very least.  I would especially tend to do that fairly quickly as I’ve always preferred to not just be “flopping around” all over the place while I sleep! 🙂

But one night early last month we must have just REALLY worn ourselves out, because we both went all night sleeping like that.  And I’ve got to tell you, it felt pretty great!  Just having our warm bodies pressed up against each other all night was a treat in itself, but then it also made it that much easier for an extra round the next morning.  Even when I stay locked, morning sex really is the best!! Read the rest of this entry »


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November is coming to an end and I am still locked, for ~56 days now and still counting. This is my first stint in the new “Jail Bird” chastity device, and I am really loving it so far! All in all there is really very little difference between this one and my Queen’s Keep, other than the fact that I think I really have finally gotten the measurements near-perfect now. The length and diameter of the cage do keep me very restricted to my most flaccid size. I was even sick one day a couple weeks ago, and that’s when I can usually really tell exactly how large a cage is on me since that’s obviously when I’m by far the LEAST aroused! But in this case it really didn’t change much; the cage still fit very tightly all the way around the sides and tip! The only thing I may change, eventually, is the gap size between the base ring and the cage. It’s not terrible, but does seem just a hair too long. So one of these days when I might happen to be unlocked for a few days, I may decide to go ahead and send it back in for Mature Metal to reduce that by at least 1/2 a size.

canstockphoto17076699So I’m still locked, but Angel and I HAVE been able to have quite a lot of fun this month! Mostly for her benefit of course, but some for me as well. I have even managed… Let’s call it 1 1/2 orgasms for myself this month! Starting with the full one, I remember there was one night after I had been treating Angel to one orgasm after another with my fingers, tongue, magic wand, etc. and she decided that she really wanted to see me have one as well! I wasn’t going to be allowed inside of her, but she really wanted to make me come by HER mouth! She handed me the key to the Jail Bird, and I had the cage off very quickly. When I started to take the base ring off though, she stopped me saying that I might as well leave that piece there, as I was DEFINITELY going right back in! Have I ever mentioned how hot that is when Angel takes charge to that extent? 🙂 Anyhow, as HER dick was springing to life, Angel took it a step further and pulled out our cuffs from under the bed so she could secure both of my hands to the corners. Now she could really have her way with me!

Angel teased and tantalized me for several minutes before finally taking her plaything into her mouth and licking/sucking in such a way as I’m not sure I’ve ever felt before! This only took a few minutes before I was right on the edge and practically begging her to either finish it off or just lock me back up and let me simmer down that way. It was completely her choice and I truly didn’t care; I just couldn’t take much more of that! Angel had never really considered the latter proposal, and thinks that would be kind of “mean,” but she did finally give permission to explode in her mouth. That was about the best I’d felt in a long time, and as I laid there reveling in the moment I barely noticed that I was still tied to the bed for a while when Angel disappeared to the bathroom to clean up a bit. When she came back and released me, I went to the bathroom as well, taking the Jail Bird with me, and dutifully locked right back up again as per Angel’s request. Total time out was less than 20 minutes, so in my opinion that doesn’t really count as being out of chastity as far as my Current Status page is concerned. That streak will continue until I’ve been out for at least most of one full day. After all, I’m only counting days locked, not necessarily days without an orgasm! 🙂

20161129_070637.jpgThe other more memorable experience from this past month involved playing with a new toy! We now have one of these double-dildo type things, or a “strapless strap-on” if you will. We have used a regular strap-on several times in the past, mostly with me wearing it over my cage and letting Angel feel some real penetration while I get zero stimulation from it whatsoever. Only once have we reversed roles with HER wearing the strap-on and taking me in the ass, which was also quite an enjoyable experience! This time, I took it upon myself to at least try to provide something more pleasurable for both of us at the same time. This time, ANGEL was the one tied to the bed (at her request even, which is somewhat rare!) I was not unlocked at all this time, but got to spend a good amount of time working her entire body, drawing orgasm after orgasm from her! After a while of this, I pulled out the new toy, lubed up the short end and worked it inside of her. I had to go very slow with that as it almost seemed to be hurting her, but I don’t know if that’s because it was just too big/inflexible, or Angel just isn’t really used to being penetrated much anymore! Regardless, it eventually slipped in and Angel became more accustomed to it. Now it was my turn, so I also lubed up the longer end, then straddled her while slipping it into my ass! It took a little while to get the angles right for it to be comfortable, but eventually everything hit home!

This toy does also have a pretty good little vibrator built into it, though I believe I was feeling much more of that than Angel was. As I kind of bounced around on top of her, exactly the way that she typically enjoys riding ME, I was feeling like I was VERY close to having a little mini-orgasm just from anal stimulation alone! But alas, as I was getting pretty close to it, the vibrator’s battery died. It’s rechargable, and only comes partially charged at time of purchase, so I guess that’s what I get for not following the directions and taking the time to fully charge it before the first use! Lol Though that part was over, it still felt pretty amazing being completely impaled while riding on top of Angel. Her magic wand was still laying right there beside us, so I tried picking that up and holding it against the toy to continue the sensation–but it didn’t work particularly well. I settled with holding the wand against my cage, which of course made EVERYTHING try to spring to life once more! It wasn’t long at all before I knew I was close. It’s not like Angel was in much of a position to stop me, but I still asked her permission to finish myself off on her belly. She was throughly enjoying the show happening on top of her, and oblidged my request. Pretty much as soon as I got the nod, it was all over! Of course it felt very nice and all, but there’s still just something quite different about coming from within the confines of my cage, where I am not fully hard in the least! So I guess that’s what I’ll call the 1/2 orgasm. Not exactly a “ruined” one, but certainly not the normal full-blown “out of this world” experience either!

canstockphoto37653771.jpgSo that’s the latest, and now I’m still locked for who knows how long. Most likely at least until the holidays, as fitting for our song that Angel just loves for me to play for her daily! For November I did manage a couple of brief releases despite being locked in my Jail Bird for the whole month. But hey, even a REAL “jailbird” might be granted a conjugal visit on occasion, right? I know, I know… The jokes kind of write themselves with this device, right? Lol


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I’ll Be Locked For Christmas

Lyrics by: pcguy0681
Music by: Dying Seed
To the tune of Bing Crosby’s classic melody: “I’ll Be Home For Christmas”


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Happy Thanksgiving, everybody!  As usual I have SOO much to be thankful for, including my great family and wonderful friends–from old friends who have known me for years, except for this ONE tiny part of my life, to several NEW friends I’ve been able to make this year who DO know of this part of me!

When Angel and I woke up this morning snuggling and telling each other “Happy Thanksgiving,” Angel began by saying that she was very thankful for me. Of course I had to reciprocate that I am thankful for HER as well.. Along with being thankful that she still keeps the keys to my chastity device, and therefore the “control!” I’m thankful that I can just completely let go and be myself with her, and of how she takes care of me.  I’m thankful that I so often get to feel like I’m part of something much “bigger and better” when SHE loses herself to the pleasure of one orgasm after another while I’m denied yet still riding that “high” right along with her, over and over again!

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This isn’t going to be anything directly related to my own chastity experience, but I just wanted to throw out another little nod to my web-savvy readers and how you guys might happen to find my little blog out here in the vast expanses of the internet!

One thing that’s kind of nice about WordPress (that’s who hosts my blog here, JUST in case you didn’t know!) is that it gives all kinds of stats about how many visitors you get each day/week/month, as well as country of origin, what other site they may have clicked through to reach mine, etc.  One thing I’ve always found particularly interesting are the various search queries that folks will type into a web browser, and ultimately end up on my site.  Apparently some search engines (Google in particular) encrypt that kind of data so I can’t actually see what terms were being searched, which is unfortunate because I do know that quite a lot of my traffic does come through Google first!  I’m sure that those probably account for the majority of nearly 20,000 “unknown search terms” to be flagged in my stats.

But none-the-less I do still get to see quite a number of queries generated from other search engines, and wanted to take some time to examine a few of them, possibly spread out over multiple posts.  It’s entirely possible that there could be some search terms that landed on my site for which I only have some tiny little blurb, but nothing very substantial/helpful to the person searching for information.  If I find something like that along the way, it could even generate a more lengthy response if it’s a topic that I have some good experience to share!

So let’s just start at the very top of the list…  The top 5 search queries to find “Thrill of the Chaste” are:

  1. Male Chastity
  2. Mature Metal
  3. Carlilock
  4. Male Chastity with kids in the house
  5. Chastity blog

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A few months ago, I wrote a little bit about how lately (this past year, anyway) I’ve been sort of trying to get a little bit more involved in our local “kink community.”  Specifically, you can re-read my last post on the subject here, if interested: From Play Parties to Phone Sex.

canstockphoto35276707I got started with this by finally getting up the courage to venture out to a Munch which meets once a month just a few miles from my house.  I’ve never really been much of a social butterfly at all, and I’m definitely not particularly good at just striking up random conversation with people I don’t know.  The first time I went to this munch I had absolutely no idea what I was getting myself into, but I am so glad that I tried it!  Everybody is always so warm and welcoming, and overall very easy to talk to.  I’m STILL not always the best at approaching anyone “new” out of the blue, but I’ve gotten to know enough people there, and get introduced to even more folks THROUGH the people I know, that I am definitely much more comfortable in that environment now than when I first started attending.

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Happy Halloween, everybody!  And the end of what I noticed a number of folks in chastity forums refer to as “LOcktober!”  For some, perhaps this was your first full month of uninterrupted lock-up?  I would love to hear from anybody who might have done this.  How did it go?  

As for me, I have been locked for ALMOST the entire month, since October 4.  I’m quite sure I’ll hit a full month (or two, or three…) for this round of chastity.  Angel told me the other day that she hasn’t decided yet how long to keep me locked, so guess I’ll just have to wait and find out!  

Of course tonight is all about the kids, so we’ll be taking them trick-or-treating around the neighborhood.  I know that I should keep my mind out of the gutter here, but when it comes to interacting with so many other people (only considering the kids parents, of course! Lol) I can’t help but wonder sometimes how many other guys might be walking around with their own little “trick” going on that nobody knows about… or how many women are looking forward to their own private “treat!”  


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“Thrill of the Chaste” is two years old today!  It is somewhat hard to believe that it’s been so long since I began this blog, really documenting my personal journey in chastity, and that it is still going so strong!  I know that sometimes the frequency of my posts vary quite a bit as life often manages to get in the way, but there are still so many exciting things going on in our lives around the chastity lifestyle that it has been easy to keep writing whenever I have the chance to sit down for a little while to do it!

I am also very humbled by the volume of positive feedback and questions that I continue to receive from my readers, so once again Thank You very much!  Any time you all have any other questions, whether big or small, please feel free to send them in.  Sometimes it does help to have a clear direction to my writing rather than just sort of rambling about the latest goings-on in my life.  And I’m more than happy to share any opinions/real life experiences wherever possible to help others along the way!  Keep in mind that sometimes it might take a little while to draft an adequate answer and get it posted, but I will always do my best to get something out there for pretty much any question that comes in.

So here’s to two years of chaste thrills, and hoping for many more to come!


I had a new reader question come in the other day that I wanted to address.  This one is all about wearing a chastity device with kids in the house!

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May I ask you a question?  How do you explain your cage to your kids?  They for sure feel it when they cuddle with you, or see it when they accidentally come in the bathroom?

This is a great question, thank you!  The short, simple answer is that so far [knocking on wood] I have never actually HAD to explain it to them!  The full answer does get a tad bit more involved, as there IS somewhat of a trick to “hiding” the chastity device from my children.

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As I mentioned in a previous post, Angel and the boys were going out of town this weekend to visit some family, leaving me home alone once again. I miss Angel so much when she is gone. I miss not being able to wake up next to her with my cage somewhat involuntarily getting pushed into her body. I miss her reaching back and grabbing it, making sure I know exactly who this dick belongs to! I miss not being able to reach around with my fingers and give her a good wake-up call by beginning to rub her closer and closer to orgasm (pending no children ending up in our bed first, of course! Lol) It’s like a small part of me is always just missing whenever she goes away for a few days.

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I have been trying out my new Jail Bird off and on for the past few days just to start getting a feel for it, but never more than a few hours at a time so far.  It has been feeling good though, and I’ve been getting a little antsy not being locked much for the past 9 days!  It really is almost strange how chastity has become such a part of me that it really feels like something is just missing when I’m out for a while! So as of today, I am locked back up and gave Angel the keys back to hold until she’s good and ready to let me out again!  I know it will be at least a little while, as she is going out of town again this weekend to visit some family, and I will be home alone.  That’s another great thing about chastity:  I do always feel like I am still much more connected to Angel when locked, even when we are apart for a few days!

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After my post yesterday telling about Angel’s fun birthday which ended with me being unlocked for a few days, I arrived home to find my long-awaited package from Mature Metal in the mailbox!  Indeed, my new chastity device, the Jail Bird, had arrived!

I already had plans and was pretty busy around the house well into the evening hours, but as soon as I had the chance I disappeared into the basement to check it out. As far as first impressions go, it looks amazing! (Not that I expected anything less from Mature Metal!)

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