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Back to the mailbag for another reader question!  Keep them coming folks, I’m more than happy to chime in on pretty much any chastity and/or kink related question you can throw my way! 🙂

Anonymous writes:

Dude you are the shit, and I thank you. I just wanna run a couple of things by you to get your thoughts.

I’ve always been really kinky I enjoy femdom, I worship women. My wife however not so much. I really don’t get how if someone wants to worship you, you don’t take advantage of it. She will indulge me from time to time though when she wants a few things done around the house and I make Damn sure I go far beyond her expectations and she will sort of reward me by tying me to the bed and giving me a bit of tease and denial, but it’s always about me when I want to worship her……..

Long story short a couple of years ago she found a male chastity device online and showed it to me and it pretty much gave me an instant hard on, but I was to afraid to say anything……. Unfortunately….. Fast forward to the about a week ago when we hadn’t had sex in a week or two because you know life…. I was feeling horny as hell! I grabbed her and pulled her down touching and feeling her and she states I should keep you horny all the time….. Well something tripped inside me and I’ve decided to give this a try I ordered a cheap chastity device online to give it a try before sinking $$ into it.

So my question is: I’ve always had a problem with cumming to fast so I’ve offered to go down on her or getting a magic wand or even a cock sheath but she doesn’t seem to respond to any of them.  Any other things you have tried to maybe make up the difference?


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I had something new and interesting come up the other day, where a reader and aspiring author [HappilyLockedMan] wrote to ask if I would possibly be interested in reading over a short story (fiction) that he had written.  Of course I’m always a sucker for a good chastity story, real or fiction, so I obliged.  And I have to say, it was good!  In my opinion, right out of the gate I’d call it just as good if not better than a large part of other similar content I’ve ever come across out on the net.

Anyway, over the course of several e-mails I found myself helping HappilyLockedMan with some editing, and I think there’s really a pretty decent product here!  Now as I told him, I have no credentials whatsoever as a copy editor, but I have picked up a few things over the course of writing my blog as far as rules of grammar, sentence structure, etc.  I may not always get EVERYTHING right, but overall I think I do a fairly good job and tried to direct a bit of that knowledge into this piece too–without changing any of the “meat” of the story which was already very well established!

Fiction is hard, at least in my opinion.  I tend to need real events in my life to reflect back upon when I’m writing, so I really don’t think I would be very good at dreaming up something like this from scratch.  So kudos to HappilyLockedMan and anybody else who can bring erotic fantasies to life through words on paper!  And it WAS rather fun being an editor, so perhaps I will end up doing more of that in the future as time allows…

Posting both by request and with permission of the author, enjoy!  We would both love to hear any feedback that readers may have on this story!


Aaron and Melissa
by HappilyLockedMan

“Honey, I need you to do this.”

Aaron trembled as Melissa looked into his eyes. She was holding his face with her two hands so he had to look back at her.

“We’ve worked hard for this. This is our moment.”

There was urgency in her voice. Aaron nodded his head and looked down. With that assent Melissa continued with her preparations.

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The next set of questions from my inbox is from a gentleman who has written to me before, and seems to happily be getting much more into the lifestyle with his wife lately.  I always enjoy stories and questions like that, keep them coming!

Oh, and if you have not yet voted on your favorite Chastity Christmas tune, please do so here!

Ben (bigdaddyb) updated:

Appreciate reading your blog. And I appreciate you having turned my questions into a post and answering all of them. I wanted to give a brief update from back in April when I sent my initial message. [See previous post HERE ] While my wife hasn’t taken off as 100% domme/keyholder she has certainly begun on the path. Prior to last month after attempting to get her to do a bit longer of chastity play for almost a year and a half the longest she had ever kept me locked was 4 days. Regardless of my repeated requests for her to attempt longer periods between release. I don’t recall exactly how I brought up the subject but during a playfull text I said that “Locktober is coming up which is followed by No-vember”. She replied with a smiley emoticon and I didn’t hear anything else. That was – until Sept 25th came along. I had been uncaged for a few days and she told me I needed to go het her property caged in preparation for Locktober. It caught me off guard because she hadn’t said anything about it and the only mention I had given about it was almost a month prior.

When I did what she told me and handed her the key she said “Good pet, now we both have something to look forward to on my birthday”. Her birthday is on Oct. 20th. I had a moment of extreme excitement as she said that. But then I tried to play coy and said that she wouldn’t last more than 4 days before letting me out. Long story short – she didn’t keep me locked up the entire time – but she did last longer than she had ever before, 8 days. And she has locked me up for another 6 day period after that and then told me to lock up 3 days ago repeating that “it is Locktober so you need to be locked up a lot more”. It would appear that she is beginning to take a liking to things. Her favorite thing to do while I’m locked is to tell me to get “The Trainer” on (shock collar) so that we can lay in bed with each other and I can give her a full body rub.

A few follow up questions for you that I’m sure may be answered in some older posts but I haven’t been able to read through all of them as of yet:

1. Is there any punishment system between the two of you for bad behavior/breaking rules? That’s what I feel is a missing link with my wife and I as she merely tells me that I can’t go down on her as punishment if I do something wrong. But I don’t want my punishment to involve her limiting her pleasure. Wondering about some real life possibilities that others use (not the extreme things you sometimes see when perusing things like Tumblr)

2. Do you know what can and can’t get through a metal detector without setting it off? I have a Holy Trainer V2 and I have a metal cage (haven’t yet paid for a top end one – but it is working out OK so far) that I got off of Amazon from China. I would have to assume that a metal cage would set off all kinds of alarms at an airport security check. What about the small lock that goes with a Holy Trainer V2? I just feel that the plastic locks are cheesy and not a valid option but I also don’t want to have to have a search of that region by an airport security guard. 🙂

3. Do you have any books/blog recommendations that your wife has shown interest in that I might be able to share with my wife to further her interest? (aside from your blog of course – LOL)

I have other questions swimming around in my head but I’m a bit scattered and have to get going anyways. I appreciate your blog and your time in responding to me.


Ben,

Thank you for you the great questions and continuing to read my blog! I’ve noticed many great comments you’ve left recently throughout different pages as well; I just apologize that you caught me during a VERY busy time in life so it has taken a while to get back with you! I will go through your questions one by one, though some I think you may have already found elsewhere on my blog by now..

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I may write more about this at a later date after I have more time to think about it, but wanted to share this post in the mean time. I can’t say that this completely describes my relationship with Angel, but I definitely did see a few parallels in there! Enjoy!

Tall, Dark and Dominant

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During my time maintaining this blog and befriending you kind souls, there has been a recurring theme that runs as an undercurrent to some of the lives that pass me by. And today I wanted to talk a bit about that.

The recurring element I’m speaking about is guilt and today I wanted to write for those with boyfriends or girlfriends or husbands or wives that aren’t remotely interested in anything BDSM related.

Maybe you’ve run it by your partner once and they’ve scoffed, maybe it’s been a few times. Maybe it’s been years since you’ve mentioned it, they’ve scoffed and you’ve been struggling with this emptiness, this desire to know but guilt for feeling so, since that point in time.

Here’s the thing though – you have absolutely no reason to feel guilt. Absolutely no reason. And here’s why.

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It’s getting to be the time of year to dig out one of my absolute favorite Chastity related things that I’ve ever done on this blog! Anybody who has followed me for at least a year or so might already know what I’m talking about, but for new readers who maybe haven’t quite gone back and read much of my old content, you’re in for a treat! 🙂

A few years ago I wrote some new lyrics that flow very well to the classic tune of “I’ll Be Home For Christmas,” only in this case it says “I’ll Be LOCKED for Christmas!” The following year after I came up with it, I hired it out to be sung to actual music as I am not a musician/singer myself in the least. Needless to say the track has been a pretty big hit both here and other chastity-type groups where I’ve posted it, for the past two Holiday seasons! Angel loves it too, and we end up playing it at some point almost every night between Thanksgiving and Christmas!
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e[lust] #100

Posted: November 19, 2017 in Fetish, Kinky, Sex

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Welcome to Elust 100

The only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month. Whether you’re looking for sex journalism, erotic writing, relationship advice or kinky discussions it’ll be here at Elust. Want to be included in Elust #101 Start with the rules, come back December 1st to submit something and subscribe to the RSS feed for updates!

~ This Month’s Top Three Posts ~

He’s Out of My League
Pink Hair, Don’t Care!
I’m a feminist but…

~ Featured Post (Molly’s Picks) ~

Pain Sluts and Brain Squirrels
His Car Keys

~Readers Choice from Sexbytes ~

Raw
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e[lust] #99

Posted: November 19, 2017 in Fetish, Kinky, Sex

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Welcome to Elust 99

The only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month. Whether you’re looking for sex journalism, erotic writing, relationship advice or kinky discussions it’ll be here at Elust. Want to be included in Elust #100 Start with the rules, come back November 1st to submit something and subscribe to the RSS feed for updates!

~ This Month’s Top Three Posts ~

Private Eyes
Brittle
Lust Highway

~ Featured Post (Molly’s Picks) ~

I love a man in a suit
Church Smells, Beliefs and Fornication

~Readers Choice from Sexbytes ~

The House Next Door

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Next up is a question about measuring for a new custom chastity device as well as considering cheaper designs.

Juan C wrote:

Congratulations on your web, it is a joy for me to have found it. I have 55 and married since 25. I practiced chastity subject with the CB3000s but as a game only. I would like to buy the metal bird but I am afraid to be wrong with the measurements. Ademas live in Spain and possibly would have to pay customs.

I have ordered one in the Chinese are many cheaper $20. Do you think there is much difference? Thanks


Good day, Juan! Thank you very much for reading my blog, I am so glad that you are enjoying it! You have a very good question here, which I don’t know if I’ll have a great answer to or not–but I will certainly give it a try!

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I said recently that I was going to finally start trying to answer a few questions that have been piling up in my inbox from readers, so here’s the first of them!

Graeme asked:

I have recently become caged and I’m slightly concerned about hygiene. How often realistically should I be allowed out for a proper wash?


Graeme,

First of all let me apologize for taking so long to answer this. If you haven’t already figured out a good cleaning routine I hope you haven’t gotten discouraged and given up on chastity for that reason!

Hygiene is certainly an important issue for anybody who’s locked for more than a day at a time. Failing to keep things clean can lead to any number of problems, ranging from fairly minor (stink) to more serious health issues like infections (especially if there are also any open sores in the area which can sometimes happen with chastity).

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One week ago, Halloween night, was not so great around our house.  It started off fun, getting the kids all dressed up in their costumes and feeding off of their excitement about going out to collect candy from all of the neighbors.  It was a cool evening, so we pulled out the fire pit to the front of the house and had a nice blaze going with some friends over to keep that going as well as hand out our own candy while Angel and I were gone with the boys.

Everything was going fine until the third house that we went to, maybe 100 yards from our own driveway.  Angel was walking back down the neighbor’s front hill towards the street, lost her footing and slipped down the hill, breaking her left leg and dislocating the ankle in the process.  Thankfully a police car just happened to be cruising down our street within minutes of the accident, so we managed to flag them down for help and they were able to get an ambulance very quickly as well.

The kids of course were very scared and distraught that mommy wouldn’t be able to keep walking around the neighborhood with them, so it pretty much put a huge damper on the whole evening for everyone.

In the ER, Angel was fixed up as much as they could do at the time and sent home on crutches.  The following day at a follow-up visit she learned that she was going to have to have a little surgery on it since ligaments on both sides of the angle were also torn.  That was scheduled and happened without any further complications on Friday.

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Chafing Issue

Posted: October 25, 2017 in Chastity, Fetish, Kinky, Male Chastity

I wanted to throw up a quick post this morning with a rare live pic of myself in the Jail Bird, and ask for some advice from the chastity community at large.  I’ve been having a little bit of an issue that just started within the last week, but last night began to get more painful for some reason..  The cage has started rubbing in a bad way, right in the middle of the ball sack.  I’ve been trying to add a little extra lube (baby oil gel) to reduce some friction, but it hasn’t really been getting much better.

I have to kind of pull the balls down and stretch the skin out to even see it, but it is definitely being rubbed pretty raw.  Unfortunately, it’s never long before that piece of skin ends up retracting itself back into the same place under the edge of the cage, so it never really has a whole lot of time to heal.   Read the rest of this entry »


It has been three years to the day since I began writing about my chastity experiences here on Thrill Of The Chaste! I still give that credit to you, my regular readers, for continuing to come back to keep me engaged and make it fun to keep telling my story as it unfolds. So THANK YOU!

That being said, I do realize that I’ve been a bit absent lately and haven’t had much new content for the past couple of months or so. I apologize for that, as life does just kind of get in the way sometimes and that’s definitely what we’ve been running into lately. But through it all I am still locked! Over 90 days so far for this session and still counting. I’ve been locked continuously (not so much as a short “quick release” session) since our Disney vacation back in July, and I have no idea how long Angel might decide to go this time around!

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e[lust] #98

Posted: September 23, 2017 in Fetish, Kinky, Sex

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Welcome to Elust 98

The only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month. Whether you’re looking for sex journalism, erotic writing, relationship advice or kinky discussions it’ll be here at Elust. Want to be included in Elust #99 Start with the rules, come back October 1st to submit something and subscribe to the RSS feed for updates!

~ This Month’s Top Three Posts ~

Black and white
Underdressed
I Talk Sex – Female Sexuality and Education

~ Featured Post (Molly’s Picks) ~

You Don’t Know What Love Is
Writing for Free vs. Getting Paid

~Readers Choice from Sexbytes ~

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Many who read my blog very regularly would probably know that besides chastity I tend to have a little thing for being tied up as well.  There’s just something about being tightly restrained, unable to move, and completely at the mercy of my Wife/Mistress, Angel!

At least at this stage of our D/s relationship, Angel has never really taken very much to initiating such a scene. Sure, she will put the cuffs on me and draw them tight to the bed if I specifically ask her to do something like that, but generally speaking if I want to be tied up I have to get my “fix” by doing it myself.  Self-bondage can be a lot of fun in its own right, but if playing COMPLETELY alone I can’t really say I ever feel like it is truly secure, as there kind of has to be a somewhat easy escape plan (darn that whole “Safe” piece of SSC! Lol)

Luckily, Angel and I HAVE gotten to a point where I can occasionally tie myself up while she is perhaps in another room, then she will come in and find me completely helpless to deflect anything she wants to do with me.  More often than not, Angel doesn’t know it’s happening until she comes into the room, but she is usually pleasantly surprised and anxious to take advantage of the situation when she finds me like this!  The nice part about engaging in self-bondage with another person in the general vicinity, is that I can get much more elaborate with it and even get into positions that there’s probably no way I would ever escape from without some assistance!

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wp-1489691168539.jpgOK, I’ll admit it.  I think I may be an addict!  Not in a bad way though.. I’m not an alcoholic, I don’t smoke or do drugs, I don’t particularly like to gamble, and can’t even realistically call myself a “sex addict” (given my situation! Lol) — though that’s probably at least much closer to being on the right track.  No, I’m addicted to Angel, and HER sex!  Everything about her, and every way I can help HER to orgasm; I just find myself craving it pretty much all the time!

Last Friday morning before work, Angel and I both woke up slightly before our alarms would start going off.  She rolled over and kind of snuggled into me, probably thinking she’d get a few more minutes to snooze before starting her day.  I wrapped my arm around and began lightly caressing her ass and upper legs.  She said she really needed to get up and use the bathroom, but even so it wasn’t very long at all before she began to spread her legs to let my roaming fingers hit home!

As Angel began to moan and really get into the moment, I could feel myself straining very hard against the tight, unforgiving cage.  But truly all I wanted to do was to get HER off!  I really couldn’t have cared less about being let out and having an orgasm for myself.  I just rode that high right along with Angel through the entire “build-up” process, then got to keep it there right on the edge, FAR beyond how long I’d have ever been able to last on my own accord!  Angel seemed like she might have been holding back a tiny bit herself, trying to delay the inevitable for as long as possible, but really exploded when I said the simple words “Come for me!”  And I got to feel all of that too, at least vicariously THROUGH Angel!
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e[lust] #97

Posted: August 22, 2017 in Fetish, Kinky, Sex

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Welcome to Elust 97

The only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month. Whether you’re looking for sex journalism, erotic writing, relationship advice or kinky discussions it’ll be here at Elust. Want to be included in Elust #97 Start with the rules, come back September 1st to submit something and subscribe to the RSS feed for updates!

~ This Month’s Top Three Posts ~

The Confessional
A MISTRESS UNSEEN
Wrapped around his finger

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Counting
The Storyteller’s Conundrum

~Readers Choice from Sexbytes ~

Rainy Day Lover
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Last week, we just returned from our second little vacation for the summer, back to Florida again. This one was a family vacation with the kids though–quite different than the trip Angel and I were able to take last month by ourselves!

For this trip we did the whole Disney thing for a couple of days (first time for the boys), after which we planted ourselves on the beach for the last half of the week. It was fun, don’t get me wrong. And the boys were definitely very excited for many of the rides, getting to meet some of their favorite characters, etc. But on the other hand it can get very frustrating dealing with kids “world is ending” type of problems every day while on vacation.. I love them dearly, but travelling with them can make me want to pull out what little hair I have left! 🙂

But I digress. The point of this story as it relates to chastity is that I was NOT in chastity for most of last week! I knew Angel had picked up a key before we left the house, it was just unclear if/when she would want to use it. Turns out, she was a little bit afraid of me possibly being stopped at the metal detectors at the gates to Disney World.

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I may add more of my own thoughts on this topic some other time, but I love this post and just wanted to share it here as it fits quite well in my own life as well!

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Last semester, on a whim, I took a ballroom dance class. I’ve always enjoyed partner dances and social dancing, but I’d never really learned any vocabulary. In my dance class, our teacher let us pick our dance roles- leader or follower- regardless of gender or any other trait, which I thoroughly appreciated. I decided to be a lead, also kinda on a whim. I think my whole thought process was “I want to dance with pretty girls!” At the time, it didn’t feel like a big deal, since the teacher was cool with it and we have a handful of other female-presenting leads in the class.

The other day, I showed up to dance class tired and grumpy. My teacher corrected my positioning, which is literally her job and she was perfectly polite about it, but it didn’t help with the grumpiness. I went to dance with a friend of…

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e[lust] #96

Posted: July 19, 2017 in Fetish, Kinky, Sex

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Welcome to Elust 96

The only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month. Whether you’re looking for sex journalism, erotic writing, relationship advice or kinky discussions it’ll be here at Elust. Want to be included in Elust #96 Start with the rules, come back August 1st to submit something and subscribe to the RSS feed for updates!  

~ This Month’s Top Three Posts ~

The Loop Yellow Cab Service Pammy Corrigan Gets Her Wish

~ Featured Post (Molly’s Picks) ~

Luring Him Back Date Night

~Readers Choice from Sexbytes ~

International Chocolate Day 2017 (it was fucking brill)   You really should consider adding your popular posts here too All blogs that have a submission in this edition must re-post this digest from tip-to-toe on their blogs within 7 days. Re-posting the photo is optional and the use of the “read more…” tag is allowable after this point. Thank you, and enjoy!

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I’ll make this the last post in my little “mini-series” of sorts about the kink-heavy vacation that Angel and I took together a few weeks ago. That’s not to say I’ll never speak of it again elsewhere, but I wanted to do one more entry here just to kind of sum up all of our experiences and lessons learned from the trip.

Overall this little get-away with Angel was absolutely WONDERFUL! There we were at the ocean, a good 1300 miles from home with no kids, no commitments, and pretty much no inhibitions! In the weeks leading up to this trip we had made so many plans of what we wanted to do (both inside and outside the bedroom). Many of those plans played out quite nicely, while others either fell by the wayside or just fell flat.

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