e[lust] #106

Posted: May 27, 2018 in Fetish, Kinky, Sex

 

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Welcome to Elust 106

The only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month. Whether you’re looking for sex journalism, erotic writing, relationship advice or kinky discussions it’ll be here at Elust. Want to be included in Elust #107? Start with the rules, come back June 1st to submit something and subscribe to the RSS feed for updates!

~ This Month’s Top Three Posts ~

Orgasms Save Me From Myself
Charlie’s Bar
I’m Not Ready to Love My Body

~ Featured Post (Molly’s Picks) ~

Letters and Lonely Hearts
I Want to Curve and Ache

~Readers Choice from Sexbytes ~

Don’t fear the smear
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Back in the Groove

Posted: May 24, 2018 in Uncategorized

Sorry folks, it feels like I’ve been completely out of touch and AWOL from my blog for the past few weeks! Vanilla life wins again… Work has been ramping up like crazy lately, and Angel just got through the busiest time of her year as well. That included quite a few evening engagements for her, leaving me to juggle extra kid activities at the same time. Not to mention all sorts of outdoor projects popping up now that Spring is finally here; I’ve been pretty well exhausted and falling asleep on the couch by the time I generally call it quits for the night!

I’ll be trying to get back into the groove here, and churn out a couple updates. I’m still locked, but DID actually have a couple days out recently that I can’t wait to share! 🙂

I also can’t wait to get back in and start catching up on the many other blogs I follow. You all live such interesting, kinky lives, sometimes it seems mine pretty much pales in comparison! Lol

Anyway, stay tuned!


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WOW, OK… Being locked in a chastity device for so long must definitely mess with a guy’s mind a bit, huh? I mean, could I really get to a point where I truly don’t even WANT to get out and have a “real” orgasm? Am I already at that point? I’ve long said that I don’t CARE when I get out, as I want it to be completely Angel’s decision… but in the heat of the moment I always still WANT to be out! Let’s back up a little bit though, and analyze my real-life account of last weekend (yes, I’ve been working this draft for several days now)…

This story takes place a week after I had ventured out into the local community to attend an intro “Rope Bondage” class. It went pretty well and was a lot of fun (read about it here and here.) I just hadn’t had any chance yet to practice any of my new knots on Angel. Saturday morning we woke up both a little frisky, but still couldn’t do very much because we heard that the kids were already up and moving around the house as well. Still, I rolled on top of her to simulate what she had to look forward to LATER if she wished! I held both of her wrists together over her head and said that I might just have to tie them like that to make sure she couldn’t stop me from giving her extra orgasms!

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e[lust] #105

Posted: April 27, 2018 in Fetish, Kinky, Sex

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Welcome to Elust 105

The only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month. Whether you’re looking for sex journalism, erotic writing, relationship advice or kinky discussions it’ll be here at Elust. Want to be included in Elust #106 Start with the rules, come back May 1st to submit something and subscribe to the RSS feed for updates!

~ This Month’s Top Three Posts ~

I lost my sexuality for a year.
Stolen Penis
Bright English Mornings

~ Featured Post (Molly’s Picks) ~

Flavour of Femme
She Teaches Sex Ed!

~Readers Choice from Sexbytes ~

Katy
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Last week when I wrote about my plans to attend a rope bondage class being offered in my city, I got quite a few comments of support. It seems there are quite a few fans of rope who read my blog! 🙂

You can go back and read the full post plus comments HERE, but one side conversation left me wanting to write my thoughts in a lot more detail than I could really fit in the comments section there. Nijntje wrote [paraphrasing] that she is also very interested in rope bondage, but had no desire to ever ‘out’ herself by attending a public class.

Being very curious as to whether her reservations about venturing out into the BDSM community were similar at all to Angel’s reasons, I had to ask a few follow-up questions. Here is an excerpt of the reply, which is the part I wanted to expand upon:
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A fun little poem, submitted by HappilyLockedMan. Enjoy!

Returning to bed
Her sleeping hand finds my cage
Manhood swelling against steel bars
I lay there, content

 

RE: A “Binding” Chance

Posted: April 17, 2018 in BDSM, Bondage, Fetish, Kinky, Rope

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It’s been a couple days since I ventured out to an “Intro to Rope Bondage” class that was offered in my city, but I wanted to write up a short follow-up to my last post (Taking a “Binding” Chance). If anybody hasn’t seen that one, it’s a pretty good read and generated some great, thought-provoking comments! (i.e. Is Angel’s lackluster “approval” of me attending an event like this, a way of subliminally trying to guilt me into not doing it, even if she doesn’t mean for it to be that way??)

Thank you for everyone’s support and feedback there, it’s always greatly appreciated! In that last post, I was getting ready to go to this rope class. I was very upfront with Angel about my desire to do it, even though I know that generally speaking she is fairly against any kind of kink-outside-the-privacy-of-the-bedroom type of things. That’s one opinion that I don’t happen to share with her. I mean, I’m completely good with not involving any 3rd party directly into our private, intimate moments (writing about them later doesn’t count as a 3rd party being physically involved!) But we do both seem to enjoy certain aspects of BDSM in our private lives, and I think the best part of having a “community” is to be able to get out and learn from others who have far more experience in doing these things in as safe a manner as possible!

But that’s all a conversation of its own which could probably span MANY blog posts!

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So I did get Angel’s “permission,” and attended a rope class on Saturday… It was a lot of fun! The format was pretty much just as I envisioned, and how a few folks described it on that last post we’ve been talking about. Yes, everyone in attendance was fully clothed. Though the subject matter might be of somewhat of a “kinky nature,” there was nothing particularly sexual going on there at all. The instructor may as well have been teaching basket weaving or any other subject under the sun as far as that goes! 🙂 But it was definitely a very laid back, fun learning environment where sexy things could be talked about candidly with no judgements whatsoever!

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This will be short and sweet (I think) and possibly leave some unfinished thoughts hanging out there, which isn’t usually my style of blogging.  But here goes.

Through some wonderful folks I know through a local Munch that I attend as often as possible, I’m aware of some “Rope Bondage” classes that happen monthly in my city.  I’ve been wanting to try one of these for quite a while but besides normally just being busy with other family things on Saturday afternoons, it has always been a tricky conversation to bring up to Angel.  As I’ve written about before, she is always very open about trying anything between just the two of us behind closed doors at home, but being “out there” in a public venue in a situation regarding any kind of kink, is very far outside of her comfort zone.

I did bring it up to her for the first time last October, and tried to go to an “Intro to Rope Bondage” workshop back then, but she was clearly not really OK with me doing that plus we ended up with something else going on then too, so I dropped it.  The Intro class is only offered once every few months, and I missed January as well but it is being held again this afternoon.  I’ve been talking to Angel about it different times this whole week to feel her out and see if there was any chance I could possibly attend this time.

She’s still not really sure, and says it just “feels weird” to “send” me to something like that…  I would MUCH rather have her right by my side at the event, but I know that’s not going to happen so I haven’t even tried that one.  I asked if she was worried that I may end up cheating on her with someone from there or something like that?  She said it’s not really that, it’s just…  “weird…”  I don’t really know how to respond to that to try and alleviate any of her fears!

I’ve told Angel that I’m absolutely NOT going to be doing anything with anyone else — she is definitely the only person I want in that regard!  I just think something like this could be fun and interesting to try out at least once, and maybe pick up a trick or two that I could bring back and show HER in the bedroom tonight!  Plus, as she knows well, I am definitely not always really the best in new social situations either.  So this is really kind of pushing me outside of my own comfort zone a bit as well!
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Dear Readers:

PLEASE follow this link and read Dave’s post below!  I published a similar plea about a year or so ago for UK residents to go sign a petition about a similar law that was being passed there.  Now that it’s in the U.S., I should do the same.  I have signed the petition myself, and urge others to do the same.

While no doubt everyone with any conscience is all for stopping sex-trafficking, this bill is far too vague and puts very undue responsibility on the “host” sites.  It’s actually best stated directly within the petition itself:

…. “They are public forums and marketplaces, you wouldn’t hold a shopping center or hotel criminally liable for a prostitute on the corner, would you?”

the US Senate has passed the anti-sex trafficking bills SESTA/FOSTA . The bills now go to the US Pres. for signing

via Guys! Need some help here… — dave94015


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CALLING ALL BASEBALL FANS!!

Or even if you’re not, you may still enjoy this! I have no idea about internationally, but at least if you live in the U.S. (even if you don’t follow the sport or attend games very often) surely everyone is at least familiar with the catchy little jingle played during the 7th Inning Stretch at pretty much every game, right?

You know, they get the old pipe organ fired up and everyone sings:

Take me out to the ball game,
Take me out with the crowd.
Buy me some peanuts and cracker jack,
I don’t care if I never get back.
Let me root, root, root for the [home team],
If they don’t win it’s a shame.
For it’s one, two, three strikes, you’re out,
At the old ball game!

WELL, I’ve gone and written some new lyrics to that tune, starting with “Lock Me Up in a Steel Cage!
Then I hired it out to be sung and get a new track created, and it is fantastic!

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Angel has been out of town this week visiting some family, and I sure do miss her! I’ve been keeping busy and pretty productive around the house in her absence (painting the boys’ room, etc.), but at night when I’m alone in our big bed… That’s when it usually seems to hit the hardest. Luckily it’s only for a couple of days, so she will be back again tonight!

In the mean time, I wanted to write briefly about a couple of new experiences that I’ve had this week while locked. The first one being that I DID go to the doctor for an annual physical for the first time in chastity! I was a little bit emboldened the last time I went for a check-up (unlocked that time) and found out that apparently they don’t really do the little testicular check much anymore… If he’s not going to be feeling around down there, I see no reason that I would “need” to be unlocked!

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And it’s true, it was no big deal at all. All we talked about was my general health, cholesterol, exercise (or lack thereof!); all that type of normal mundane stuff. If he HAD tried to go south with it, my contingency plan was to stop him and ask if this would be considered a “kink-friendly” type of practice… then would of course have to explain why I was asking and effectively be “out” to my doctor. But you know, at this stage in my life I think I would be OK with that. But at the same time I’m also VERY OK with the fact that the conversation did NOT have to happen there! 🙂

The other thing I’ve done this week, I kind of splurged for a little bit of “me time” and went to a FLOAT spa. Has anybody ever heard of, or done this? Basically you get into this giant tank with like 10 inches of 97 degree water and several hundred pounds of epsom salt. You close the lid, the lights go out and you just float on your back in complete darkness and silence for the duration (90 minutes at this place). With zero outside stimuli, your brain can just completely disengage for a while letting your body completely relax and heal..

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Back in February I was contacted by Ms. Scarlett, who runs an Adult Toy Store & Blog out of the U.K., called “Toys 4 Naughty Boys.” She was getting ready to start writing an article for her blog aimed at helping people who are new to chastity and just trying to find some good beginner tips. As such, she was reaching out to “experts” who have been involved in the lifestyle for quite a while, to give some first-hand advice. I’d use the term loosely, but apparently I fit the bill as expert in this case! Lol

The article has published now, and can be read in its entirety here:

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e[lust] #104

Posted: March 17, 2018 in Fetish, Kinky, Sex

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Welcome to Elust 104

The only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month. Whether you’re looking for sex journalism, erotic writing, relationship advice or kinky discussions it’ll be here at Elust. Want to be included in Elust #105 Start with the rules, come back April 1st to submit something and subscribe to the RSS feed for updates!

~ This Month’s Top Three Posts ~

A Wank and a Spank
The S Word
At My Feet

~ Featured Post (Molly’s Picks) ~

Boarding School Survivor
Varnish

~Readers Choice from Sexbytes ~

Ode to the 69
You really should consider adding your popular posts here too
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This will probably make more than a few of my readers cringe a bit, but Angel and I watched the 2nd installment of “50 Shades of Grey” last weekend. I had watched the first with her a couple years ago after it was released on DVD, and we’d skipped the second one but she wanted to get caught up on it before the last movie runs its course in the theater and becomes available to rent.

Overall, I find it to be a very cheesy plot line and only so-so sex scenes — probably a fairly typical “guy” reaction. Yes, I DO know that it’s not a particularly good representation of BDSM, but the effect it has on Angel… OH MY! That alone makes it soo worth watching with her, and indeed made for a very fun “post-Valentine’s” night when we managed to have an evening alone without the kids!
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e[lust] #103

Posted: February 22, 2018 in Fetish, Kinky, Sex

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Welcome to Elust 103

The only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month. Whether you’re looking for sex journalism, erotic writing, relationship advice or kinky discussions it’ll be here at Elust. Want to be included in Elust #104 Start with the rules, come back March 1st to submit something and subscribe to the RSS feed for updates!

~ This Month’s Top Three Posts ~

The Friend and The Acquaintance
The dress rehearsal
Lake Malawi

~ Featured Post (Molly’s Picks) ~

Color Me Kinky
A Slow Burn on a Summer Night.

~Readers Choice from Sexbytes ~

Voodoo Me

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This is an excerpt from another blog I enjoy reading whenever I can, the Domme Chronicles.  Ferns has published a new book on Amazon and not only can I say personally that it is a fun read, but it’s also FREE!  Yes, she is literally giving it away, simply for the sake of trying to get a book about real life Female dominant & Male submissive relationships to the top of Amazon charts!  Check it out here, and help her out if you can..  Did I mention it’s FREE?  🙂

https://www.domme-chronicles.com/2018/02/free-happy-femdom-stories-volume-1


**An F/m book #1 on Amazon? Impossible!

A femdom book at #1 on a mainstream behemoth?! CAN YOU IMAGINE HOW GLORIOUS THAT WOULD BE FOR A BRIEF SHINING MOMENT?!!

Here’s how we do it:

1. You download a really great free F/m book
2. You tell everyone you know to download a really great free F/m book
3. WE BASK IN THE GLORY OF A BOOK ABOUT ACTUAL FEMDOM RELATIONSHIPS BEING IN THE #1 SPOT ON THE BIGGEST MAINSTREAM BOOK SITE IN THE WORLD! Bwuhahahahaha etc.

THE FREE BOOK: Happy Femdom Stories Volume 1
I’m giving away my Happy Femdom Stories book: It’s a joyful collection of wonderful stories I have collected from happy F/m folks about their relationships.

It’s positive, uplifting, heartwarming, hopeful. You will love it!

Did I mention it’s free?

It’s FREE.
BUT this is about more than that:

I want to get this book about real life female dominant/male submissive relationships to #1 on Amazon.

CAN YOU IMAGINE A REAL-LIFE F/M RELATIONSHIP BOOK AT #1 ON A MAINSTREAM BEHEMOTH IN FRONT OF ALL OF THOSE VANILLA EYES?! ~wistful sigh~**


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A comment came in over on my Discussion Board that I wanted to address in a new post rather than being hidden out there on a separate page.  This may be one of the last topics to come through that particular board, as I am trying to figure out the best way to shut down new comments there without losing the old content, in favor of running any new such discussions through my FetLife group.

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Of course, you are always welcome to comment on any individual blog posts about the topic at hand, or send me a direct e-mail via my Contact Page.  Just please be advised that FetLife really is to be the preferred medium going forward for any general discussions like this that fall outside of existing blog entries.  It is free to join, you’ll never be forced to enter a credit card # or anything along those lines, and there is a WEALTH of information out there far beyond my group.  So come on out and join us!

But back to the topic at hand!  Juan wrote:

I’m considering chastity as a self imposed solution to reduce masturbation, porn, and clear my mind. Has anyone done it for this reason?

I have a friend that will hold the key and keep me accountable. My goal is to make it 365 days.

Suggestions and thoughts are appreciative.


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Last week I recieved my Jail Bird back from Mature Metal, with a new key and new security screws that are now countersunk into the device. Ahh, it is GOOD to be home! The Holy Trainer is pretty decent as far as stock off-the-shelf plastic chastity devices go, but there is still a huge difference to get back to a custom steel device!

I will completely stand by my initial assessments of the HTV3 found here, but I did just want to elaborate a tiny bit more on a couple things now that I’ve had almost two weeks of continued usage.

Holy Trainer V3 Review – Part1
Holy Trainer V3 Review – Part2

HTV3 Design:
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I was having an e-mail conversation the other day with HappilyLockedMan and an interesting question came up that I didn’t really have an immediate, intelligent answer to.

canstockphoto10675338.jpgBy the way if you have not yet read the fictional short story of “Aaron and Melissa,” by HappilyLockedMan, I strongly encourage you to do so here!

Anyway, to put it into context we were discussing how Angel is generally a very private person in regard to her bedroom proclivities and PROBABLY doesn’t exactly know the extent to which I do tend to write about us here in my blog. It’s not that I want to hide it from her by any means, as I HAVE told her several times before that I was blogging about my chastity experiences and even offered a link if she wanted to have a look. She has never taken me up on it, and I seriously doubt she’s ever gone to the trouble to try and find it on her own.

HappilyLockedMan inquired: 

… Do you sometimes feel that you’re on thin ice in that if your wife read it you think she would be upset about your writing in such detail about your lives together?
Why do you write the blog? Do you have an exhibitionist streak like I spoke of having? Does the blog satisfy that streak?


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e[lust] #102

Posted: January 17, 2018 in Fetish, Kinky, Sex

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Welcome to Elust 102

The only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month. Whether you’re looking for sex journalism, erotic writing, relationship advice or kinky discussions it’ll be here at Elust. Want to be included in Elust #103 Start with the rules, come back February 1st to submit something and subscribe to the RSS feed for updates!

~ This Month’s Top Three Posts ~

Baby, baby…
O Come All Ye Faithful
Christmas Eve

~ Featured Post (Molly’s Picks) ~

Not “only” CP
Whispered Obscenities

~Readers Choice from Sexbytes ~

Happily Barren

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