Reader Question: Further Chastity Reading?

Posted: September 29, 2018 in Chastity, Fetish, Kinky, Male Chastity, Orgasm Denial



I had an e-mail a few weeks ago from Keith, who wrote:

I am male, mid 50’s and would love to try chastity the way you are doing it. The thing I like about your blog and lifestyle that is different than other websites is it doesn’t involve your wife cuckolding or spanking or being overly dominant. It is about controlling your sexuality which is the part I like.

I have semi jokingly asked my wife if she would lock me up and she thought I was kidding or crazy. If you google male chastity, most websites come up where the woman completely dominants the male, which my wife would not do that.

I would love for her to read your posts and have a question for you.  Do you know of any books or other websites that are similar to yours where chastity is used in marriage as more of a fun game for couples that is not so kinky where the wife dominants the male in other aspects? I think my wife would be more accepting to the idea if it was a little more vanilla so to speak.

Also, you are right, somewhere in your blog you mentioned more couples would do it if they tried it.


Thank you very much for reading and dropping me a note; I’m glad you enjoy my blog!

I think you’re in a pretty typical situation there for guys who are curious about chastity but are afraid their significant other won’t be into it. At least you’ve brought it up to her already though, as that is often the most difficult first step! You’re quite right that most sites go waay overboard with the domination aspects of it, but the truth is that you can incorporate as much or as little into that as the two of you want. Every couple is quite different, and you can always get into more over time if that’s the direction you both decide you want to go! Even in my situation, our dynamic has evolved into quite a bit more D/s than I ever could have imagined Angel being comfortable with when we first started out with chastity!

As for other sites, I have a couple of links in the sidebar that may interest you. One that helped me a ton when I was first trying to introduce this lifestyle to my wife, is
The blog itself has been pretty stagnant for a few years now, but there’s quite a bit of good, old content if you wish to go back and read any of it. The main page still comes up with a form where you can get a “Free Male Chastity Guide.” I’m assuming that’s probably been automated to send straight to your e-mail after you sign up for it, even though nobody seems to be managing the site anymore. It may be worth checking out at least. Back in the day, the author of this blog also had a very good e-book that she’d written, called “Be Careful What You Wish For” for sale through that site. I don’t really see a link directly to that anymore, but you may be able to find it somewhere if you search around for it.

The second thing I’d like to direct you to is a pretty much brand new site, I was recently contacted by the webmaster there about exchanging links to each other’s sites… I’m pretty picky about what circumstances I’m willing to do things like that, but I looked over the site and he really does have some pretty good stuff out there. You might at least check it out, let your wife read some of it if she’s willing to, and see where things go from there.

I hope that helps at least a little bit! If you have any other questions, feel free to ask. Or if you even just want someone to share your experiences with, I always love getting updates from my readers about what’s going on with chastity in their lives! 🙂

Thanks, and good luck!

  1. cincy34 says:

    My wife was feeling bad about denying my orgasms, so I posted a question on Chastity Mansion. Would you rather have a wonderful orgasm or be teased and denied?. I let her read the many responses, and now she understands why most men would rather be teased and denied. For me, the feeling of being horny and on edge all the time is better than a few seconds of extreme pleasure.

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