Public Displays of Chastity?

Posted: October 4, 2018 in Chastity, Fetish, Key-Holder, Kinky, Male Chastity, Orgasm Denial


Angel and I have been taking some dance lessons together for a little while now, and recently got back into the routine of that after taking nearly a year off due to Angel having a little accident and breaking her leg right above the ankle. Last week we had one of our private lessons, followed immediately by a group class which we’d signed up for that week.

In the groups, men and women are lined up opposite each other to learn our respective steps separately. Then we try them again with a partner. Most folks generally at least begin with the partner they came with, but there are also sometimes singles in the group on either side; and anyways after a couple of practice steps with your partner they make it a point to rotate the line so that everybody essentially dances with everybody else at various points through the night. It is a good system, and we’ve both learned a lot more that way from people who had already learned from past missteps, and can sometimes offer more practical pointers than what the instructors might necessarily think of on the spot.

Anyway, the point is that last week while rotating through the line, there was one woman in particular that I ended up dancing with a few times whom I couldn’t help but notice was wearing a nice little charm on her necklace in the form of a heart-shaped key. I realize that odds are, this is just a completely innocent little symbol: “key to my heart” type of romantic mumbo jumbo. But of course my rather kinky, chastity brain started wondering if maybe, just maybe it was something deeper than that and she actually has somebody locked up!


There was not just one but TWO guys on my side of the line who seemed to be very close and maybe overly-friendly with her, and I was not entirely sure who she had even come with–possibly both of them?! Could one or both of these dudes be sporting a cage inside their pants? Of course I’ll never know for sure, just as nobody else at the dance studio will ever know about MY hidden secret!

I told Angel about my theory on the drive home that evening. At first I think she was a bit taken aback that I was paying that much attention to other attractive women, but that really can’t be helped in that particular type of learning environment! Angel agreed, that the key on this lady’s necklace could mean anything (or nothing). She relayed a similar story of a time when she was getting her hair done, and two of the stylists were chatting with each other about tattoos and such. One stylist told a story about some friends of hers (a couple), where the man has a tattoo of a little heart-shaped lock and his wife has a corresponding tattoo of a key. As the stylist was gushing about how adorable those two are together, Angel just sat there thinking that there could be a MUCH deeper meaning behind the tattoos than what the stylist could even imagine!

As much as I’m on here writing my blog as well as perusing other similar forums, chastity has a tendancy to start feeling like it’s a fairly mainstream thing. I know it’s not really, but I do always wonder just how common it might be in the real world. Chances are I’ll never meet anybody at a (non-kink) event who introduces themselves and immediately adds the fact that they are in chastity, or are the key-holder of a chaste person. But how many people do you suppose enjoy very subtly telling the world of their status via nondescript symbols in the form of necklace pendants or tattoos, etc.?

On the dance floor, I did have to bite my tongue at least once to keep from blurting out at least a small compliment to this woman about her necklace. Would that be out of line? I don’t know if it would be or not, but at the risk of making awkward moments for the rest of the class any time the two of us were paired up, I didn’t do it.

Feel free to share if you have (or know anybody who has) any publicly viewable displays of chastity, or any other kinky thing for that matter! Is it a symbol that could pass to the average “vanilla” person as completely innocent/romantic, but only has a deeper meaning to YOU or anyone else who shares your secret?


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  3. Nicotime says:

    My wife wears her key on a necklace, I made the key into a pendant. I cut an antique steel heart shaped key down, and cut cage key down to the teeth and attached it. She wears it every day, she has gotten a few questions, mainly if it unlocks anything. She said she usually responds with my husband made it for me, and that suffices. I’m thinking of getting it plated in silver so it looks a little prettier, then people won’t really notice the shiny teeth part in contrast to the antique steel.

  4. Jmad456 says:

    I don’t wear a device regularly although she has had me wear one on occasion but she absolutely controls my orgasms and has told strangers in front of me that she is in control and the domme in our relationship while giving certain details. Also she has told a few of her friends just about everything we do. One time a friend was coming over for drinks before they went out and she told me to put on my complete French maid outfit and answer the door. Then I had to serve them drinks and dance for them. It was completely embarrassing but I would love to do it more. She has even talked about spanking me in front of them. Anyway it is exhilarating to share with others.

  5. nijntje says:

    I’ve had compliments on my collar a few times over the years BUT I have also had compliments on regular necklaces as well. I don’t think there is anything wrong with mentioning that you noticed it and liked it as long as you don’t assign your own meaning to it. Once we have our hearts set on something it is very easy to see it in others, even when it really is not there at all.
    Those necklaces with hearts and keys have been around for ever it seems. There is no reason to believe it automatically means something else. As to the lady and the compliment, if she decides to elaborate afterwards she will but if she doesn’t then we need to respect her privacy, in case it does in fact mean something more. Or so I believe 🙂

  6. Hah! I have a key necklace, although we don’t do caged chastity. I do get lots of compliments on it, usually from women, though.

    • pcguy0681 says:

      Nice! So just curious, would you find it unusual if some random guy (in a dance class, for example) were to say something to you about it? Do you ever elaborate more on things like where it came from, meanings behind it, etc. or pretty much just a simple “thank you” for the compliment?

  7. I wear a lockable braclet. It was placed on me a year ago and hasn’t come off since. I’d have to cut it off. The original mean for it has changed since I’m no longer his sub. I now dom him. So it has come to represent our commitment to our dynamic.

    I get lots of compliments on it from seemingly vanilla folks. And it always makes me smile.

    There is lady at work who wears what might be an everyday day collar. I have complimented her on it. I’ve wanted to ask if it has any special meaning to her and see what kind of response that evokes.

    • pcguy0681 says:

      Interesting, I like how you’ve kept that going even though the meaning has changed. If anybody ever questioned you about its meaning, in a vanilla setting, what would you tell them?

      • That it was an anniversary gift lol

        I had someone ask me the other day where I got it, she wants one. I said I order it online. Now I wonder if she’ll find it because it’s actially called a “slave bracelet” lol

  8. cincy34 says:

    My wife wears a symbolic key around her neck, and a symbolic hotwife anklet on her right ankle. I am not locked, but teased and denied orgasms for long periods of time. And she also has a fantasy bull named Reggie, who she fucks on occasion. She would love it, if someone would ask her if I was a locked up cuckold.

  9. rushmorejudd says:

    Hard to raise the topic or ask the question as a conversation starter. I suspect it is highly unusual and even when true it might be denied. A few years ago I was at a beach resort and there was a couple where the woman wore an anklet with a key on it. Pretty sure it was a key to a chastity device but never had the guts to ask her and didn’t really meet her – just saw her around the resort.

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