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50 Shades Has Nothing on US!

Posted: February 24, 2018 in BDSM, Bedroom Bondage, Bondage, Chastity, Fetish, Kinky, Male Chastity, Orgasm, Romance, Sex, Spanking
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This will probably make more than a few of my readers cringe a bit, but Angel and I watched the 2nd installment of “50 Shades of Grey” last weekend. I had watched the first with her a couple years ago after it was released on DVD, and we’d skipped the second one but she wanted to get caught up on it before the last movie runs its course in the theater and becomes available to rent.

Overall, I find it to be a very cheesy plot line and only so-so sex scenes — probably a fairly typical “guy” reaction. Yes, I DO know that it’s not a particularly good representation of BDSM, but the effect it has on Angel… OH MY! That alone makes it soo worth watching with her, and indeed made for a very fun “post-Valentine’s” night when we managed to have an evening alone without the kids!
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Reader Questions: On Punishments, Metal Detectors, & Books 

Posted: November 24, 2017 in BDSM, Chastity, Fetish, Key-Holder, Kinky, Male Chastity, Orgasm Denial, Spanking
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The next set of questions from my inbox is from a gentleman who has written to me before, and seems to happily be getting much more into the lifestyle with his wife lately.  I always enjoy stories and questions like that, keep them coming!

Oh, and if you have not yet voted on your favorite Chastity Christmas tune, please do so here!

Ben (bigdaddyb) updated:

Appreciate reading your blog. And I appreciate you having turned my questions into a post and answering all of them. I wanted to give a brief update from back in April when I sent my initial message. [See previous post HERE ] While my wife hasn’t taken off as 100% domme/keyholder she has certainly begun on the path. Prior to last month after attempting to get her to do a bit longer of chastity play for almost a year and a half the longest she had ever kept me locked was 4 days. Regardless of my repeated requests for her to attempt longer periods between release. I don’t recall exactly how I brought up the subject but during a playfull text I said that “Locktober is coming up which is followed by No-vember”. She replied with a smiley emoticon and I didn’t hear anything else. That was – until Sept 25th came along. I had been uncaged for a few days and she told me I needed to go het her property caged in preparation for Locktober. It caught me off guard because she hadn’t said anything about it and the only mention I had given about it was almost a month prior.

When I did what she told me and handed her the key she said “Good pet, now we both have something to look forward to on my birthday”. Her birthday is on Oct. 20th. I had a moment of extreme excitement as she said that. But then I tried to play coy and said that she wouldn’t last more than 4 days before letting me out. Long story short – she didn’t keep me locked up the entire time – but she did last longer than she had ever before, 8 days. And she has locked me up for another 6 day period after that and then told me to lock up 3 days ago repeating that “it is Locktober so you need to be locked up a lot more”. It would appear that she is beginning to take a liking to things. Her favorite thing to do while I’m locked is to tell me to get “The Trainer” on (shock collar) so that we can lay in bed with each other and I can give her a full body rub.

A few follow up questions for you that I’m sure may be answered in some older posts but I haven’t been able to read through all of them as of yet:

1. Is there any punishment system between the two of you for bad behavior/breaking rules? That’s what I feel is a missing link with my wife and I as she merely tells me that I can’t go down on her as punishment if I do something wrong. But I don’t want my punishment to involve her limiting her pleasure. Wondering about some real life possibilities that others use (not the extreme things you sometimes see when perusing things like Tumblr)

2. Do you know what can and can’t get through a metal detector without setting it off? I have a Holy Trainer V2 and I have a metal cage (haven’t yet paid for a top end one – but it is working out OK so far) that I got off of Amazon from China. I would have to assume that a metal cage would set off all kinds of alarms at an airport security check. What about the small lock that goes with a Holy Trainer V2? I just feel that the plastic locks are cheesy and not a valid option but I also don’t want to have to have a search of that region by an airport security guard. 🙂

3. Do you have any books/blog recommendations that your wife has shown interest in that I might be able to share with my wife to further her interest? (aside from your blog of course – LOL)

I have other questions swimming around in my head but I’m a bit scattered and have to get going anyways. I appreciate your blog and your time in responding to me.

Ben,

Thank you for you the great questions and continuing to read my blog! I’ve noticed many great comments you’ve left recently throughout different pages as well; I just apologize that you caught me during a VERY busy time in life so it has taken a while to get back with you! I will go through your questions one by one, though some I think you may have already found elsewhere on my blog by now..

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Kinky Travels (pt5): Dungeon B&B – not to be

Posted: June 29, 2017 in BDSM, Bondage, Fetish, Kinky, Male Chastity, Orgasm Denial, Spanking, Submissive
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This one is kind of a hard post to write.. I’ve had a blank draft out there with this title (at least the first part of it) for a few weeks now in anticipation of what was to come, just had to wait until our vacation to see how things played out to know what to ACTUALLY write about. And this particular thing couldn’t have happened any more different than what I had hoped/played out in my head.

Every relationship & journey has to have its little bumps along the way, and I guess this is one for me. I think I’ve been pretty lucky since I started this blog, as overall it has been a pretty huge success story of introducing my previously completely “vanilla” wife to a pretty “out-there” thing (somewhat out there even as far as kink goes) like long term chastity. Not only has Angel been very open minded and accepting of my deep seeded desire to be locked, but she has completely embraced the role of key-holder and even learned a lot about herself along the way in terms of actually ENJOYING denying me orgasms as she has them for herself over and over again!

As anybody who has been following/reading my blog for very long would know, besides chastity Angel and I have slowly been venturing into quite a few other things along the kink spectrum; especialy in the realm of bondage, spanking, ass/foot worship, etc. The only major line Angel has drawn has been in coming out to any “public” BDSM-type events with me, whether it be a local munch, a play party, etc. She has been at least somewhat accepting of ME going to such things, but will not go herself. I can’t say that I completely agree with her reasoning, but I do at least somewhat understand where she’s coming from–being that she does work in the public sector and is fairly well known around certain circles in our community. You never know where those circles and the BDSM crowd may intersect, and Angel is very afraid of running into somebody who might recognize her. Personally I would just say that if there IS somebody there who knows her, the fact is that they are at these events for the SAME reason, and there are kind of unspoken “rules” against outing individuals that you may happen to see at kink events. But nonetheless, if Angel is not comfortable attending any events with me for those reasons, I will never force it on her.

But now back to our vacation. We spent an entire week in a Total Power Exchange with Angel playing the part of my Mistress/Domme (and doing it VERY well I may add!) For our last night on the drive home, I had come up with one last little surprise for Angel that I thought (hoped) she might enjoy. I’m not going to name any names here, but just outside of Atlanta I actually found a popular local “Dungeon,” which has a handful of private little suites for nightly rentals (each with their own private dungeon spaces as well). It’s like a kinky little B&B, only the second “B” doesn’t exactly stand for “Breakfast” in this case (think: “Bed & Bondage!”)

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Kinky Traveling

Posted: June 5, 2017 in BDSM, Bondage, Chastity, Fetish, Kinky, Male Chastity, Orgasm Denial, Spanking
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Angel and I will be embarking on a long awaited vacation next week, and it absolutely cannot get here soon enough!  We’re going to be letting grandparents take care of the boys for a while so we can take a full week long trip to probably the most tropical area in the continental U.S.: the Florida Keys!  Outside of a little day trip where we drove down there a couple years ago while staying elsewhere in South Florida, I haven’t been to this location for probably 20 years or so, and I’ve been wanting to get Angel there with me for quite some time to enjoy the relaxing atomosphere, some world class SCUBA diving, etc.  So when an opportunity presented itself to spend an entire week there with just the two of us, we both jumped at the chance!

To be clear, I have no idea at this point if any other types of “keys” will be involved while we are IN the Keys!  I fully intend to continue wearing the Jail Bird until (if/when) the time comes that Angel decides to let me out.  If she decides not to even BRING the keys to my chastity device with us, that is completely up to her!  We have been talking about this and planning things for weeks now, and I believe there will be PLENTY of fun, even rather “kinky” things going on between us throughout the week, whether I am ever unlocked or not!

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Deepening D/s Bond

Posted: May 30, 2017 in BDSM, Chastity, Dominatrix, Fetish, Key-Holder, Kinky, Male Chastity, Orgasm Denial, Romance, Sex, Spanking, Strap-On, Submissive
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Believe it or not, my last post was not originally meant to be all about “Richard,” and strap-on sex!  But as I began writing and got stuck on that topic, it just kept getting longer and longer until I felt it justified its own blog entry.  What I had intended to write about, was the deepening D/s bond which has definitely been happening between Angel and I of late!
I feel like every day I wake up loving Angel even more and more; not just as my beautiful wife, my life partner, and my (kinky) best friend, but as my key-holder and most recently–my Domme.  We’ve talked about this a few times and even Angel can’t believe how much she has been able to find her little “inner dominatrix” and how much she enjoys and even gets off on dominating me!  Of course just hearing her speak in her own words of getting off while having her way with me, just makes me want even more of it right then and there!

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Locked Up & “Hanging Around”

Posted: February 3, 2017 in Anal Sex, BDSM, Bondage, Chastity, Fetish, Kinky, Male Chastity, Orgasm Denial, Self Bondage, Spanking
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I had kind of an interesting, self-imposed experience last weekend which, well.. didn’t exactly go quite as planned/expected!  First off the boys went to spend Saturday night with their Grandpa, meaning Angel and I got the evening completely to ourselves.  After dinner and a movie we did rather quickly make it to the bedroom to have plenty of fun giving Angel numerous orgasms while I still continued to be denied in the Jail Bird!  (Which, by the way, I still have no idea when I may be out of again, but will at least be trying to write up a bit of a review of soon!)

After we were both exhausted and very satiated, it was time to get some sleep.  Angel even decided to sleep naked with me for the night, which is a fairly rare occurance these days!  It’s always nice to go to sleep snuggling up against her naked body, always just TRYING to get hard but having that steel cage constantly reminding me that it’s NOT going to happen!  With no kids in the house, it was also very likely that we would be able to pick up and continue the night’s activities again the next morning!  I think I’ve said a few times on here that morning sex is the BEST!

However, when Sunday morning came around I woke up well before Angel with a somewhat different plan brewing in my head..  I just had this deep seated desire, if not even a NEED, to have my ass played with–something we hadn’t actually engaged in at all the night before.  Since the house WAS empty, I really wanted to introduce Angel to the new spreader bar and “probe” that I wrote about playing with once a few weeks ago (see “Hands Free Anal“).  So after a little bit of contemplating how I wanted it to happen, I grabbed a few things from a bin under our bed and headed to the basement..

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2016 Lock-up Summary

Posted: January 13, 2017 in BDSM, Bedroom Bondage, Bondage, Chastity, Fetish, Kinky, Male Chastity, Orgasm Denial, Spanking, Strap-On
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Last year around this time I went through my Current Status page and wrote up a 2015 Lock-up Summary, so I thought I’d do the same thing again for 2016.  Turns out I’m very consistent!  I felt like I was probably locked more this past year than I was the year before, but it turns out that is not true.  I was let out FEWER times, but some of them were for longer durations, so it kind of evened out.  For example, in 2015 I reported being let out of chastity 9 times, for a total of 61 days.  In 2016, I was only let out 5 times, for a total of 62 days!  As with last year, for those 5 “release periods” I only counted times where I was let out for at least one full day at a time.  If I was only out for a few minutes for a quickie orgasm or something then locked right back up, I still count that as being in chastity for that day (just being used by Angel however SHE sees fit!)

Last year I did the math to determine that I was LOCKED for a total of 304 days, or 83% of the year.  With 2016 being a leap year and all, turns out I was STILL locked for a total 304 days, or 83% of the year!  I had no idea that I was being so consistent for two years in a row, but that is still a LOT of time locked!  I know there were a couple of those 5 “outings” where I was free for about 2 weeks at a time, and one where I was out for a full 3 weeks.  Some of that was vacation related, and some was holding off on a new device to arrive, etc.  I suspect those kind of scenarios will be increasingly few and far between though.  I have actually vowed to Angel that this year (short of any unforeseen circumstances popping up) if she’s not actively “using” her dick then I will do my best to keep it locked at all times!  So we will just have to see how easy it is to keep that promise throughout 2017.

I also always find it very fun & rewarding to go back and reread some of my other posts over the past year to remember and sort of relive some of the highlights!

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Private New Year’s Party For Two

Posted: January 2, 2017 in Anal Sex, BDSM, Bedroom Bondage, Bondage, Chastity, Fetish, Key-Holder, Kinky, Male Chastity, Orgasm, Orgasm Denial, Romance, Sex, Spanking, Strap-On, Submissive
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Once again I just wanted to wish everybody a Happy New Year, and take a few moments to recap the fun night that WE had this past weekend, albeit a day early for the new year.  I knew that Angel and I would be out all night with the extended family on new year’s eve, so I had planned our own little party the night before!  Once we were sure the kids were both sound asleep, I had Angel change into a sexy new piece of lingerie I’d bought for her and meet me in the bedroom.  I wish I could get a couple pics on here of that but I doubt she’d appreciate that very much!  But it is this bright red outfit, trimmed in black lace which just barely covers the nipples, then a pair of black fishnet stockings and some new strappy high heels.  Very tall heels have never really been Angel’s “thing,” but I bought her a pair this time anyway hoping she might try them on for me at least once, and I must say that they do look very HOT on her!  She is a tall woman anyway, and these actually make her even taller than me.  When she’s standing and I’m not, it’s as if Angel is just completely towering over me which just seems to add even more to the new D/s dynamic that has been growing ever stronger between us lately!

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Twas A Domme Good Christmas!

Posted: December 27, 2016 in BDSM, Bedroom Bondage, Bondage, Chastity, Fetish, Kinky, Male Chastity, Orgasm, Orgasm Denial, Sex, Spanking
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Wow, can I just say: This has been one of the more fun & rewarding Christmas seasons that I can ever remember!  Of course, our boys are at just the right age where they are really into everything, so that is always a blast to watch them. But Angel and I have also been able to have even more of our own fun behind closed doors, every day lately!  Honestly I can’t even remember the last day that we DIDN’T either wake up and/or go to bed with some play time, and with SO many orgasms for Angel!  I’m sure it’s been every day for at least the better part of the past two weeks now, and I see no reason that this streak might break at least until we get into the new year!

Some of the most fun yet, has been just the past couple of nights, starting on Christmas Eve.  We knew we’d have to be getting up early with the boys the next day to see what Santa brought for them, but Angel was all for having some fun of our own the night before!  I had thought she’d be too tired that night since we were already up past midnight finishing up the last bit of wrapping, etc.  But when I realized she wasn’t I had a little early gift for her.  First I sent her off to change into a fun new piece of lingerie I’d picked up for her.  She had asked for something rather “slutty” for christmas, so when she came back in her red lace outfit decked out with bits of white fur along the neckline and of course crotchless panties, I could tell by the look on her face that she was really going to love being my slutty little Mrs. Clause for the evening!  For myself, I had pulled on a new pair of green velvet underwear complete with a red ribbon tied into a bow right at the tip of my cage.  A nice little “present” for Angel to unwrap later if she so desired!

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Angel’s Birthday Bash

Posted: September 28, 2016 in BDSM, Bondage, Chastity, Fetish, Kinky, Orgasm, Orgasm Denial, Sex, Spanking
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Angel’s birthday fell over this past weekend and we were certainly able to have some fun with it!  After the last time I was out of the Queen’s Keep (about a month ago) Angel had decided that I would definitely stay locked until at least her birthday, but at that point she would probably want to have me out.

We ended up being pretty booked up for most of the day on Saturday but fortunately we were able to find an overnight sitter for the kids that night, which meant that we would be able to REALLY have some fun!  First we did meet up with a couple of friends to celebrate Angel’s birthday over dinner, which turned into another stop at a “chocolate bar” for dessert, and it was actually well after midnight before we arrived back at our house for some alone time.  At that point it wasn’t long at all before we were in bed ready to get started!

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Domme Angel

Posted: September 8, 2016 in BDSM, Bondage, Chastity, Dominatrix, Fetish, Key-Holder, Kinky, Male Chastity, Orgasm, Orgasm Denial, Spanking, Submissive
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And now for the REST of the story!  (If you haven’t read my last post yet, I highly suggest starting with that, HERE!)

I left off my story with Angel relaxing on a chair in the basement, still calming down from at least one big orgasm that I had given her while she was hanging by her arms from a hook up in the rafters.  It was such a sight to see, and now she was kicking back, still glowing in post-orgasmic bliss, and still wearing nothing but her black lace teddy covering all but her most intimate parts.

I, for one, knew I had to have more, and I was pretty sure that Angel wasn’t quite finished yet either!  I dropped to the floor at her feet, and began kissing her toes, feet, and legs, making her giggle as I hit some rather ticklish spots.  I worked my way up her legs, eager to taste just how wet she still was from just a few minutes prior.  I was definitely not disappointed to get there and find that she was still VERY wet! Angel scooted forward a bit to give me easier access, and I didn’t have to lick very long before I could tell that she was very close to yet another orgasm!

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Sub Angel

Posted: September 8, 2016 in BDSM, Bondage, Chastity, Fetish, Key-Holder, Kinky, Male Chastity, Orgasm, Orgasm Denial, Spanking, Submissive
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Lately I’ve been writing about several new “firsts” that Angel and I have been able to experience together recently, and this past weekend leading up to the holiday presented yet another!  It’s no secret (at least to readers of my blog here) that we like to “play,” whether it be with light bondage, spanking, vibrators, butt plugs–you name it!  Well a while ago (I can’t really remember if I wrote about this particular experience or not), we played once with some of these “cheaper” little door jamb cuffs, and had a lot of fun with each other actually standing up this time instead of just being tied to the bed or something..  Angel was definitely interested in doing that again, and since we had last Friday night with no kids in the house, I had teased her starting that morning before work by saying that by the end of the day I would have her strung up by her hands and be turning her exposed ass a nice shade of red!

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From Play Parties to Phone Sex

Posted: July 24, 2016 in BDSM, Bondage, Chastity, Fetish, Key-Holder, Kinky, Male Chastity, Orgasm, Orgasm Denial, Phone Sex, Spanking
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Angel was out of town with the boys for this past weekend visiting some family, leaving me home alone again.  Not that I could really do any more than I normally can anyway, since she is still in full control of my keys!  But this did turn out to be a very fun, interesting weekend, with even more FIRSTS for our relationship!

 

To start with, I’m going to have to back up just a little bit to set the stage for what happened Saturday night…  Over the past several months, I have been getting involved to a small extent with our local “kink” community.  There is a really great “munch” just a few miles from my house that meets once a month, where everyone is always so nice and welcoming!  (If you don’t know what a munch is, I highly recommend looking into it to see if there are any in YOUR area!)  It is so nice to have a place to go and be able to talk to real people about absolutely anything!  The conversations are definitely not always kink related, but when it does come up everybody is very accepting and not judgmental in the least.  And in my previous statement, I say “real people” not to imply that you folks from all over the world who are reading my blog AREN’T real, but I find that face-to-face interactions are also very rewarding! It’s one thing to tell my story on the internet for strangers to read in their spare time, but quite another to tell somebody point blank that I am locked in a chastity device for which my wife holds the keys, and see them not even bat an eye at the topic!

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Fun, Free Birthday Week

Posted: June 15, 2016 in Chastity, Fetish, Key-Holder, Kinky, Male Chastity, Orgasm, Orgasm Denial, Spanking
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So it was my birthday this past Monday, and it has been a pretty fun week!  It has been extremely busy too, as I also started a new job on the same day, so there has been the normal concerns of learning a new environment, trying to make a good first impression with a new boss, etc.  But on the bright side, as we anticipated the busy days ahead Angel decided to give me a little birthday surprise and unlock me the weekend before!

It was well after the kids had gone to bed on Friday night.  In fact, well after midnight, which is why I marked Saturday as my official release date for this round, after 29 days of trying out the resized Queen’s Keep.  I am very happy to report no more issues with it at this point!  Of course, we had to begin the fun with several orgasms for Angel, as she “considered” whether or not to let me out of chastity or not.  I do think she had most likely already decided, but nonetheless she was having fun with keeping me in the dark about whether or not I would get out that night!
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2015 Lock-up Summary

Posted: January 13, 2016 in Anal Sex, BDSM, Bondage, Chastity, Kinky, Long Term Chastity, Male Chastity, Orgasm Denial, Queens Keep, Spanking, Strap-On
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I decided to go back through the records on my Current Status page and add up how many total days I was locked in a chastity device vs. being unlocked during 2015.  I was actually somewhat surprised by the results: For every day that I was free, I spent almost 5 days locked up!

The year ended the same way as it began, with me locked in the Queen’s Keep.  At the beginning of the year, the steel device was brand new to me and that was the very first session where I had turned control of these keys over to Angel.  But she took to it like a fish to water, and started keeping me locked far more than not!
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“Angelic” Birthday Spankings

Posted: September 26, 2015 in Chastity, Male Chastity, Orgasm, Orgasm Denial, Spanking
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What do you get when you cross a Hitachi Magic Wand, a butt plug, and a paddle? A little piece of Heaven, apparently! 🙂 I’m not going to have the time to get into a whole lot of our activities of this weekend yet, but at least wanted to get a quick post out here of how it began!

Upon checking in to our condo on Friday evening, the first thing we had to do was meet some friends for dinner.  We had learned that they were going to be in the same area, but had to leave on Saturday so if we were to meet up with them it had to be first thing on Friday.  Oh well, there would still be plenty of time for some alone time later! After dinner, Angel asked how we should start.  Being that she just had a birthday, I told her that we definitely needed to get her warmed up and get things going with a good birthday spanking! As she’s been getting much more “adventurous” lately and we did bring along an entire suitcase full of toys, this was going to be quite the spanking!
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Birthday “Out”ing

Posted: June 14, 2015 in Bedroom Bondage, Bondage, Chastity, Male Chastity, Mature Metal, Orgasm Denial, Queens Keep, Spanking
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This is my Birthday weekend, and Angel has decided to let me out of the Queen’s Keep for a bit! It is nice, of course, but at the same time it almost feels somewhat strange NOT being locked, being how I have been wearing the device almost continuously for the past couple of months! The funny thing is, I might have been able to get out LAST weekend but blew it.. Angel was, as usual, enjoying having me help her orgasm a few times, and suddenly asked if I was “ready” to come out and play. As much as I wanted to, somehow I just told her that I would be happy to be out if SHE really wanted me out then, but I would also be fine with waiting a week for my birthday if she wanted to do something like that instead. I am either a good chaste husband or a sucker, one of the two! 🙂

At any rate, once she remembered that my birthday was coming up, Angel really liked the idea of keeping me locked until then. And I quickly found that no amount of “begging” would change her mind again at that point either! She even teased that she might make me go even longer than that, we would just have to see!

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