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This will probably make more than a few of my readers cringe a bit, but Angel and I watched the 2nd installment of “50 Shades of Grey” last weekend. I had watched the first with her a couple years ago after it was released on DVD, and we’d skipped the second one but she wanted to get caught up on it before the last movie runs its course in the theater and becomes available to rent.

Overall, I find it to be a very cheesy plot line and only so-so sex scenes — probably a fairly typical “guy” reaction. Yes, I DO know that it’s not a particularly good representation of BDSM, but the effect it has on Angel… OH MY! That alone makes it soo worth watching with her, and indeed made for a very fun “post-Valentine’s” night when we managed to have an evening alone without the kids!
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This is an excerpt from another blog I enjoy reading whenever I can, the Domme Chronicles.  Ferns has published a new book on Amazon and not only can I say personally that it is a fun read, but it’s also FREE!  Yes, she is literally giving it away, simply for the sake of trying to get a book about real life Female dominant & Male submissive relationships to the top of Amazon charts!  Check it out here, and help her out if you can..  Did I mention it’s FREE?  🙂

https://www.domme-chronicles.com/2018/02/free-happy-femdom-stories-volume-1


**An F/m book #1 on Amazon? Impossible!

A femdom book at #1 on a mainstream behemoth?! CAN YOU IMAGINE HOW GLORIOUS THAT WOULD BE FOR A BRIEF SHINING MOMENT?!!

Here’s how we do it:

1. You download a really great free F/m book
2. You tell everyone you know to download a really great free F/m book
3. WE BASK IN THE GLORY OF A BOOK ABOUT ACTUAL FEMDOM RELATIONSHIPS BEING IN THE #1 SPOT ON THE BIGGEST MAINSTREAM BOOK SITE IN THE WORLD! Bwuhahahahaha etc.

THE FREE BOOK: Happy Femdom Stories Volume 1
I’m giving away my Happy Femdom Stories book: It’s a joyful collection of wonderful stories I have collected from happy F/m folks about their relationships.

It’s positive, uplifting, heartwarming, hopeful. You will love it!

Did I mention it’s free?

It’s FREE.
BUT this is about more than that:

I want to get this book about real life female dominant/male submissive relationships to #1 on Amazon.

CAN YOU IMAGINE A REAL-LIFE F/M RELATIONSHIP BOOK AT #1 ON A MAINSTREAM BEHEMOTH IN FRONT OF ALL OF THOSE VANILLA EYES?! ~wistful sigh~**


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A comment came in over on my Discussion Board that I wanted to address in a new post rather than being hidden out there on a separate page.  This may be one of the last topics to come through that particular board, as I am trying to figure out the best way to shut down new comments there without losing the old content, in favor of running any new such discussions through my FetLife group.

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Of course, you are always welcome to comment on any individual blog posts about the topic at hand, or send me a direct e-mail via my Contact Page.  Just please be advised that FetLife really is to be the preferred medium going forward for any general discussions like this that fall outside of existing blog entries.  It is free to join, you’ll never be forced to enter a credit card # or anything along those lines, and there is a WEALTH of information out there far beyond my group.  So come on out and join us!

But back to the topic at hand!  Juan wrote:

I’m considering chastity as a self imposed solution to reduce masturbation, porn, and clear my mind. Has anyone done it for this reason?

I have a friend that will hold the key and keep me accountable. My goal is to make it 365 days.

Suggestions and thoughts are appreciative.


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Last week I recieved my Jail Bird back from Mature Metal, with a new key and new security screws that are now countersunk into the device. Ahh, it is GOOD to be home! The Holy Trainer is pretty decent as far as stock off-the-shelf plastic chastity devices go, but there is still a huge difference to get back to a custom steel device!

I will completely stand by my initial assessments of the HTV3 found here, but I did just want to elaborate a tiny bit more on a couple things now that I’ve had almost two weeks of continued usage.

Holy Trainer V3 Review – Part1
Holy Trainer V3 Review – Part2

HTV3 Design:
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I was having an e-mail conversation the other day with HappilyLockedMan and an interesting question came up that I didn’t really have an immediate, intelligent answer to.

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Anyway, to put it into context we were discussing how Angel is generally a very private person in regard to her bedroom proclivities and PROBABLY doesn’t exactly know the extent to which I do tend to write about us here in my blog. It’s not that I want to hide it from her by any means, as I HAVE told her several times before that I was blogging about my chastity experiences and even offered a link if she wanted to have a look. She has never taken me up on it, and I seriously doubt she’s ever gone to the trouble to try and find it on her own.

HappilyLockedMan inquired: 

… Do you sometimes feel that you’re on thin ice in that if your wife read it you think she would be upset about your writing in such detail about your lives together?
Why do you write the blog? Do you have an exhibitionist streak like I spoke of having? Does the blog satisfy that streak?


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OK, it’s time to get down a little bit into the nitty gritty of the Holy Trainer V3, now that I’ve had a couple of days to check it out. You can read my initial assessment upon recieving the new device in Part 1, HERE.

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My new Holy Trainer V3 has arrived! The only complaint I have so far (and it’s very minor!) is that it took a tiny bit longer to get here than I hoped.. I did pay for expedited shipping, hoping to get my Jail Bird off to Mature Metal as soon as possible. It still took about 2-3 days before I even heard that the order had been processed and shipped, and by then it was the weekend so I didn’t expect too much. I then recieved a tracking notification from the shipping company with an ETA of this past Monday, so I was very excited that whole day at work, anxious to get home and try it out! But alas, there were no packages on my doorstep that evening, and when I checked the tracking link again it was still in Switzerland… Luckily, Overnight Post as it is, it DID arrive in my town by Tuesday though and since I wasn’t home at the time I was able to sign for the delivery on Wednesday of this week.

As far as plastic chastity devices go, this really is a thing of beauty! My only other experiences with plastic is the CB-xxxx line, so I will mainly be comparing this to the CB-6000s which I spent most of my time locked in back in the days prior to going with custom steel.

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Reblog: Assessments of Chastity

Posted: January 10, 2018 in Male Chastity

Definitely, a must read for anybody looking to deep-dive into the chastity mindset/lifestyle!

Femdom Ramblings from a submissive male

Pcguy at Thrill of the Chaste has started a new group on Fetlife that I have joined.  I’m not very active on Fet and always looking for reasons to be.  As I did more experimentation with chastity devices in 2017 than ever before, I wanted to revisit the topic.  I will just let my thoughts swirl and try to cover as many aspects of this topic as I can, both in general and what it means to me.  I will warn beforehand that it will probably jump around and feel disorganized.

First off, I will say that when people are into chastity, I term them chastity enthusiasts.  With most topics in the world of BDSM, fetishist is usually the word of choice, but in the case of chastity that seems like an oxymoron.  Having a fetish for not being able to get hard or orgasm doesn’t seem to fit…

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Getting a discussion group started on FetLife has already been well worth it!  Thank you so much to everybody who has joined already, and I look forward to hosting even more in that forum!

There has already been one early thread on Fet with something I’d never seen before and I couldn’t resist sharing on the blog!

Thank you very much furcissy for the link to this video!  A VERY young looking John Stewart hosting the Daily Show on Comedy Central, has one of his correspondents interview the inventors of the CB-2000; possibly the first ever mass-marketed male chastity device.  It’s well worth a few minutes of your time to watch!

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I’ve decided to try something new this year with my blog to hopefully make it easier for at least some readers to interact with me and with each other, for anybody who may be interested. I’ve had a discussion page on the blog for quite a while, but it really doesn’t get used very often. I’m perfectly OK with that, as I know that just using a WordPress comments section isn’t exactly a particularly good communication medium (it can sometimes be kind of hard to sort out where one conversation ends and another begins…) And we HAVE had some great, more pertinent discussions on individual blog entries over the past few years. For that I thank you, and your feedback and questions are ALWAYS welcome!!

So for a general discussion page, I’m going to try using a group on FetLife instead. I don’t know for sure, but I suspect a large percentage of my readers might already be on Fet anyway, so you would know that the groups there are pretty easy to navigate, start new discussions, follow discussions, send a private message to individual members if desired, etc. If you’re not already a member, I highly recommend joining anyway even if my group has nothing to do with it (yes it is free!)

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After over 5 months (163 days total), a personal record setting chastity duration came to an end on New Year’s Day 2018! This wasn’t the longest total duration that I’ve ever been locked, as I’ve done a stint over 6 months before, but it is the longest time that I’ve ever gone without ever being unlocked ONE SINGLE TIME, for anything at all!

Normally Angel will let me out every great once in a while for some quick fun (maybe I’ll even get an orgasm out of it) but then I’m put right back into the cage. As those outings are usually far less than even 20 minutes of freedom, I don’t normally count them as being out, so the chastity session continues. I DO try to record those instances though on my Current Status page as an FYI only. The past 5 months have had ZERO such releases!

Angel has been lamenting quite a bit lately about missing having me inside her, so I wasn’t sure if it would be coming soon or not. Or I guess a better way to phrase it would be if I would be coming soon or not! 🙂 After getting home from the New Year’s party and getting the kids down to bed, Angel was definitely getting a little frisky. She began rubbing the key to the Jail Bird against my back asking if that was something I wanted. I told her that I wanted anything that SHE wanted, whether or not it involved that key!

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Happy New Year, everyone!  Whether 2017 was good or bad from your perspective, I hope it only gets better here in 2018!

I love this graphic I found when I went searching for an image for this post.. I think it definitely signifies how the biggest part of my year is sure to be: under lock & key!  This past year was as well, and I’m pretty sure we already set some personal chastity records in 2017, so it will be very interesting to see how much further things may or may not go in 2018!


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I said this to Angel the other night.. Maybe not quite so eloquently as I kind of added some of the poetry to it after the fact, but the message here is exactly what I said to her and I truly meant it from the bottom of my heart!  Angel’s response did not involve words at all, but led to some of the best sex we’ve had in a long time (with me remaining locked of course; 5 months and counting!) 

So without further ado, simple but very meaningful…

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Back to the mailbag for another reader question!  Keep them coming folks, I’m more than happy to chime in on pretty much any chastity and/or kink related question you can throw my way! 🙂

Anonymous writes:

Dude you are the shit, and I thank you. I just wanna run a couple of things by you to get your thoughts.

I’ve always been really kinky I enjoy femdom, I worship women. My wife however not so much. I really don’t get how if someone wants to worship you, you don’t take advantage of it. She will indulge me from time to time though when she wants a few things done around the house and I make Damn sure I go far beyond her expectations and she will sort of reward me by tying me to the bed and giving me a bit of tease and denial, but it’s always about me when I want to worship her……..

Long story short a couple of years ago she found a male chastity device online and showed it to me and it pretty much gave me an instant hard on, but I was to afraid to say anything……. Unfortunately….. Fast forward to the about a week ago when we hadn’t had sex in a week or two because you know life…. I was feeling horny as hell! I grabbed her and pulled her down touching and feeling her and she states I should keep you horny all the time….. Well something tripped inside me and I’ve decided to give this a try I ordered a cheap chastity device online to give it a try before sinking $$ into it.

So my question is: I’ve always had a problem with cumming to fast so I’ve offered to go down on her or getting a magic wand or even a cock sheath but she doesn’t seem to respond to any of them.  Any other things you have tried to maybe make up the difference?


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I had something new and interesting come up the other day, where a reader and aspiring author [HappilyLockedMan] wrote to ask if I would possibly be interested in reading over a short story (fiction) that he had written.  Of course I’m always a sucker for a good chastity story, real or fiction, so I obliged.  And I have to say, it was good!  In my opinion, right out of the gate I’d call it just as good if not better than a large part of other similar content I’ve ever come across out on the net.

Anyway, over the course of several e-mails I found myself helping HappilyLockedMan with some editing, and I think there’s really a pretty decent product here!  Now as I told him, I have no credentials whatsoever as a copy editor, but I have picked up a few things over the course of writing my blog as far as rules of grammar, sentence structure, etc.  I may not always get EVERYTHING right, but overall I think I do a fairly good job and tried to direct a bit of that knowledge into this piece too–without changing any of the “meat” of the story which was already very well established!

Fiction is hard, at least in my opinion.  I tend to need real events in my life to reflect back upon when I’m writing, so I really don’t think I would be very good at dreaming up something like this from scratch.  So kudos to HappilyLockedMan and anybody else who can bring erotic fantasies to life through words on paper!  And it WAS rather fun being an editor, so perhaps I will end up doing more of that in the future as time allows…

Posting both by request and with permission of the author, enjoy!  We would both love to hear any feedback that readers may have on this story!


Aaron and Melissa
by HappilyLockedMan

“Honey, I need you to do this.”

Aaron trembled as Melissa looked into his eyes. She was holding his face with her two hands so he had to look back at her.

“We’ve worked hard for this. This is our moment.”

There was urgency in her voice. Aaron nodded his head and looked down. With that assent Melissa continued with her preparations.

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The next set of questions from my inbox is from a gentleman who has written to me before, and seems to happily be getting much more into the lifestyle with his wife lately.  I always enjoy stories and questions like that, keep them coming!

Oh, and if you have not yet voted on your favorite Chastity Christmas tune, please do so here!

Ben (bigdaddyb) updated:

Appreciate reading your blog. And I appreciate you having turned my questions into a post and answering all of them. I wanted to give a brief update from back in April when I sent my initial message. [See previous post HERE ] While my wife hasn’t taken off as 100% domme/keyholder she has certainly begun on the path. Prior to last month after attempting to get her to do a bit longer of chastity play for almost a year and a half the longest she had ever kept me locked was 4 days. Regardless of my repeated requests for her to attempt longer periods between release. I don’t recall exactly how I brought up the subject but during a playfull text I said that “Locktober is coming up which is followed by No-vember”. She replied with a smiley emoticon and I didn’t hear anything else. That was – until Sept 25th came along. I had been uncaged for a few days and she told me I needed to go het her property caged in preparation for Locktober. It caught me off guard because she hadn’t said anything about it and the only mention I had given about it was almost a month prior.

When I did what she told me and handed her the key she said “Good pet, now we both have something to look forward to on my birthday”. Her birthday is on Oct. 20th. I had a moment of extreme excitement as she said that. But then I tried to play coy and said that she wouldn’t last more than 4 days before letting me out. Long story short – she didn’t keep me locked up the entire time – but she did last longer than she had ever before, 8 days. And she has locked me up for another 6 day period after that and then told me to lock up 3 days ago repeating that “it is Locktober so you need to be locked up a lot more”. It would appear that she is beginning to take a liking to things. Her favorite thing to do while I’m locked is to tell me to get “The Trainer” on (shock collar) so that we can lay in bed with each other and I can give her a full body rub.

A few follow up questions for you that I’m sure may be answered in some older posts but I haven’t been able to read through all of them as of yet:

1. Is there any punishment system between the two of you for bad behavior/breaking rules? That’s what I feel is a missing link with my wife and I as she merely tells me that I can’t go down on her as punishment if I do something wrong. But I don’t want my punishment to involve her limiting her pleasure. Wondering about some real life possibilities that others use (not the extreme things you sometimes see when perusing things like Tumblr)

2. Do you know what can and can’t get through a metal detector without setting it off? I have a Holy Trainer V2 and I have a metal cage (haven’t yet paid for a top end one – but it is working out OK so far) that I got off of Amazon from China. I would have to assume that a metal cage would set off all kinds of alarms at an airport security check. What about the small lock that goes with a Holy Trainer V2? I just feel that the plastic locks are cheesy and not a valid option but I also don’t want to have to have a search of that region by an airport security guard. 🙂

3. Do you have any books/blog recommendations that your wife has shown interest in that I might be able to share with my wife to further her interest? (aside from your blog of course – LOL)

I have other questions swimming around in my head but I’m a bit scattered and have to get going anyways. I appreciate your blog and your time in responding to me.


Ben,

Thank you for you the great questions and continuing to read my blog! I’ve noticed many great comments you’ve left recently throughout different pages as well; I just apologize that you caught me during a VERY busy time in life so it has taken a while to get back with you! I will go through your questions one by one, though some I think you may have already found elsewhere on my blog by now..

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I may write more about this at a later date after I have more time to think about it, but wanted to share this post in the mean time. I can’t say that this completely describes my relationship with Angel, but I definitely did see a few parallels in there! Enjoy!

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During my time maintaining this blog and befriending you kind souls, there has been a recurring theme that runs as an undercurrent to some of the lives that pass me by. And today I wanted to talk a bit about that.

The recurring element I’m speaking about is guilt and today I wanted to write for those with boyfriends or girlfriends or husbands or wives that aren’t remotely interested in anything BDSM related.

Maybe you’ve run it by your partner once and they’ve scoffed, maybe it’s been a few times. Maybe it’s been years since you’ve mentioned it, they’ve scoffed and you’ve been struggling with this emptiness, this desire to know but guilt for feeling so, since that point in time.

Here’s the thing though – you have absolutely no reason to feel guilt. Absolutely no reason. And here’s why.

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It’s getting to be the time of year to dig out one of my absolute favorite Chastity related things that I’ve ever done on this blog! Anybody who has followed me for at least a year or so might already know what I’m talking about, but for new readers who maybe haven’t quite gone back and read much of my old content, you’re in for a treat! 🙂

A few years ago I wrote some new lyrics that flow very well to the classic tune of “I’ll Be Home For Christmas,” only in this case it says “I’ll Be LOCKED for Christmas!” The following year after I came up with it, I hired it out to be sung to actual music as I am not a musician/singer myself in the least. Needless to say the track has been a pretty big hit both here and other chastity-type groups where I’ve posted it, for the past two Holiday seasons! Angel loves it too, and we end up playing it at some point almost every night between Thanksgiving and Christmas!
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Next up is a question about measuring for a new custom chastity device as well as considering cheaper designs.

Juan C wrote:

Congratulations on your web, it is a joy for me to have found it. I have 55 and married since 25. I practiced chastity subject with the CB3000s but as a game only. I would like to buy the metal bird but I am afraid to be wrong with the measurements. Ademas live in Spain and possibly would have to pay customs.

I have ordered one in the Chinese are many cheaper $20. Do you think there is much difference? Thanks


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I said recently that I was going to finally start trying to answer a few questions that have been piling up in my inbox from readers, so here’s the first of them!

Graeme asked:

I have recently become caged and I’m slightly concerned about hygiene. How often realistically should I be allowed out for a proper wash?


Graeme,

First of all let me apologize for taking so long to answer this. If you haven’t already figured out a good cleaning routine I hope you haven’t gotten discouraged and given up on chastity for that reason!

Hygiene is certainly an important issue for anybody who’s locked for more than a day at a time. Failing to keep things clean can lead to any number of problems, ranging from fairly minor (stink) to more serious health issues like infections (especially if there are also any open sores in the area which can sometimes happen with chastity).

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