Let’s Talk About Long Term Chastity

Posted: February 16, 2015 in Be Careful What You Wish For, Chastity, Key-Holder, Long Term Chastity, Male Chastity, Mature Metal, Queens Keep


As I alluded to in my last Valentine’s post, Angel and I did start having a conversation about possibly doing some longer periods of chastity.  A couple of the main issues that we have with this are:

  1. She thoroughly enjoys having me unlocked on occasion for “real” sex. (And so do *I*, I’m not going to lie about that!)
  2. We both rather enjoy leaving the “power” in her hands, to decide at any particular moment in time whether she wants to unlock me or not.

So we are both rather hesitant about setting a hard end date and saying that I HAVE TO stay locked until that time with no exceptions.  One “middle ground” option that was mentioned, was to be locked up for a set amount of time, but it wouldn’t technically be a hard limit because she would still get the option to let me out any time she wishes.  If she DOES unlock me, I would lock the device back on again immediately after we are finished playing, whether I actually have an orgasm during that time or not.  Angel did say that she might not mind at some point, if we were to put the keys back in the lockbox again (see my CarliLock post to read about previous experience with this), but we’d have to think about how much time to put on it.

I took some time to write up some of my thoughts on the matter of Long Term Chastity, and have presented it to Angel.  Right now I am waiting to hear that she has read through it, and see what else she might have to add.  The text of what I wrote to Angel, is as follows:

As we discussed briefly the other night, I am willing to abide by the following “ground rules” around my being locked up, AS LONG AS you are on board with them as well! Feel free to add/take away other items at your discretion. I am good for experimenting with somewhat of a longer term, but you should be involved in that decision too! 🙂

  1. I pledge to wear chastity cage continuously (at least daily), from today until [date to be determined].
  2. While locked, YOU are entitled to as many orgasms as you like, as often and any way you see fit.
  3. While locked, YOU still have complete say about IF/WHEN I am to be released.
    1. IF released, I will lock back up again immediately (or shortly following) our activities for the time.
    2. WHEN released, you still have complete say in whether I am able to orgasm myself. For example:
      1. You can choose to let me completely finish, then lock the cage back on.
      2. You can choose to tease me a little (or a lot!) while out, then just lock the cage back on anyway.
  4. You can also choose to keep me locked with NO release for the duration of time set above.
  5. If you ever wish for “help” in keeping me locked for a particular time, just ask!
  6. If you would ever like to secure the keys in the lockbox again where NEITHER of us have access to them for a specified time, again just ask! (For the record, a “free” membership on the CarliLock website can go up to about a 6 week duration at a time).
  7. This should be mutually enjoyable for both of us.  If there is ever anything that either of us really likes or doesn’t like about this arrangement, or anything that we might want to do more (or less) of, let’s please talk about it right away!  

So, assuming you are interested in anything similar to what is outlined above, the next question would be: How long should we set for the duration?

 I will make one proposal, and you can change it as you see fit..  I know it seems like QUITE a long time, but what about going from now until sometime over my birthday weekend

Depending how long you would choose to actually keep me locked during that time, that would probably be a good time to take a little break from it and be free for a bit!  🙂This whole thing has just been some ideas floating around my head.  I’d love to hear what you think too!

So that’s where I stand at the moment. We will have to wait and see what kind of turns this journey will take for us next! Oh, and also for the record, I made a suggestion of being locked all the way until my birthday, which isn’t until mid-June… That is a solid FOUR months from now!

  1. Cara says:

    Interesting. I’m doing my own project here with (female) chastity. Self-imposed, that is. It’s quite simple & requires no draconian device, just sheer will, and it’s that I’ve not had any sexual contact with ANYONE since I split with my ex, some two and a half years ago. During the time I’ve been single & without sex, I’ve gotten sober, lost 100 lbs, had two eye surgeries, I’ve been on a self-improvement kick. It’s not that I don’t enjoy sex & love play, but I chose to focus instead on becoming a better person for myself first & foremost during this time and a nice bonus of that would of course be if I can attract a quality man.

    I bring up my own experience with chastity because while what we’re doing can be described by that same word, “chastity”, it’s obvious that you and I are doing very different things (different actions) with different results. Funny how that word chastity can have so many meanings to so many people.

    • pcguy0681 says:

      That’s very true! I wrote a post not too long ago about “chastity” meaning different things in different contexts; you certainly do not have to be locked in a device to engage in some form of it!

      That post was specifically in response to a gentleman who engaged in chastity more for religious purposes (See post, here) , comparing that approach to my own version of chastity which is still very sexual in nature. It sounds like yours is different than either one of those scenarios, as you are engaging in chastity for the sake of trying to improve OTHER areas of your own life. Good for you! I hope you get everything out of it that you are trying to achieve.

      Thank you for reading, and for the comments!

      • Cara says:

        Well, religion’s idea is “don’t have sex, don’t touch yourself BECAUSE GOD SAYS SO” and having grown up Roman Catholic, as an adult, I, well, I see all the hypocrisy in a God who tells people to practice chastity but meanwhile priests keep getting caught touching the children. I’m not saying Roman Catholic priests necessarily should remain celibate, they’re men like everybody else. I’m saying that when they sit around with no wife & no job (reading from the bible once a week isn’t a real job) they obviously get bored, they get depraved enough to do some sick shit, and they have the kind of power hey can (and do) easily abuse. Maybe if the Church would let them marry (and by the way the only reason the church doesn’t let priests marry is that they don’t want to financially support men with wives and families…I guess paying off victims of sexual abuse is less costly) there might be less touching of the children. But wait, what was I talking about…oh right, God says don’t have sex. Every religion, Christianity, Judiasm, Islam, tells us about chastity…but they ALSO tell us God wants us to be fruitful and multiply.

        • pcguy0681 says:

          This is some pretty good stuff! My response is starting to get a little long-winded though.. Let’s move it on over to the Discussion Board where others might find it easier and can also throw in their own two-cents if they’d like! 🙂

  2. Shalom says:

    Whoa! And I thought 11 weeks and 6 days was a long time to wait for my Master…

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