Conditional Release from Chastity

Posted: February 14, 2020 in Chastity, Fetish, Kinky, Male Chastity, Orgasm Denial


Happy Valentine’s Day, everybody! Hope you all are enjoying this day with your loved ones, or if single, just go do something fun for yourself today! There’s no shame in that. 🙂

I want to give a little update on my status. As of yesterday I have officially hit 500 days of continuous chastity, beginning at the beginning of ‘LOcktober 2018!’ Above is the screenshot of my current EmlaLock session holding the combination to the lockbox with my keys secured inside. Clearly, the allotted time for this EmlaLock session is long past and all I would have to do to get my keys back is hit that “End Session” button. But at this point I dare not do that without Angel’s blessing and most likely in her presence!

Angel has been greatly enjoying keeping me locked for this long and allowing me to give her orgasm after orgasm while mine remains off-limits. However there have also been a number of times lately when she has been really wishing to feel me inside of her again, and has been very close to letting me out for that purpose. That is well within her right as my key-holder, of course!

Back towards the end of 2019, Angel was thinking very seriously of only keeping me locked through the Christmas season, then letting me out for our own private fireworks at New Year’s. Clearly… that didn’t happen.

So what changed her mind on this? Well, just a couple days before the new year came around, we were lying in bed and Angel told me that she had “been thinking….” Thinking that if she unlocks me for sex, obviously there’s always the chance of (another) baby.

[As far as I know Angel has remained on her own birth control the whole time I’ve been in chastity, but we’ve never taken any sort of permanent measures along those lines.]

Angel told me that MAYBE she was starting to come around to the idea of me having a vasectomy. And MAYBE we should think about holding off even longer on letting me out of my Jail Bird, until that happens. To be honest I’ve been ready to have this taken care of ever since we had our second child, over 5 years ago. But I think in the back of her mind, Angel has always been holding out a tiny bit of hope to maybe try one more time for a girl. So I know for her to come to this mindset that maybe our family really is good and complete with two boys, is huge and very hard for her!


From the other side, I had been thinking along the exact same lines as Angel but had been very hesitant to bring it up to her. When she had been hinting at letting me out for the New Year, I admit that I was a little bit nervous about that simply because of the chance of pregnancy (however small a chance it may be). Never mind the fact that my dick had been locked away for 15 months at that point, I wasn’t sure I’d ever be able to “perform” with that thought in the back of my mind! So I also, was kind of thinking that it might be better to remain locked until such a time as we could have that completely taken care of.

Not really knowing how to bring this up, I had actually taken an extra step to try to kind of “force” the conversation. We have a little storage unit a couple miles away from the house where we keep several old boxes of things to free up some extra space in the basement. So one day back in December, I came up with the idea to take the lockbox containing my keys to the storage unit so that they wouldn’t even be in the house at all. The idea being that if/when she did try to unlock me for New Year’s, I would have to tell her that it wouldn’t be possible unless we first LEAVE the house to go get the keys! And that of course would lead to WHY I had put the keys in our storage unit, and ultimately we would have to have the real conversation of permanent birth control.

So you can imagine how overjoyed I was when Angel brought the topic up first! Not trying to sound too eager to get snipped, I did spill the whole story of how I’d taken the keys out of the house for the sake of having that very conversation. Let me just say, Angel came SOO hard that night knowing that control was (temporarily) out of her hands and she couldn’t have unlocked me even if she wanted to!

Angel agreed at the time that I should at least look into the procedure (which she knew I’d already spoken to my primary doctor about a couple times already). Over the next few days I provided all of the information about which Urologist I’d already been recommended to, how much it will cost (enough, but far less than raising another human! Lol) and all of the possible risks & side effects of the procedure. Angel understands everything I’ve given her but has wanted me to hold off a little longer before making the appointment while she still thinks about it.

And so she’s still thinking about it…

On one hand Angel and I are on the same page about not having another baby, but she does still find it difficult to give me the full green light to make it completely permanent. And I get it… mostly. She does know my firm position on the subject and I’ve told her I’ll leave the rest completely up to her. I’m not going to go have the surgery done without her full knowledge and blessing! The only thing I did ask is that if we’re going to do it this year I would much prefer to do it over the winter months before we get much more active outside and the recovery could be a much bigger inconvenience. And not to give her a big ultimatum or anything, but I mentioned that if for some reason we don’t manage to get it done at least by early Spring, that maybe we should just think about still keeping me locked through yet another LOcktober! If that happens, I’ll be hitting a solid TWO years of continuous chastity!


So that’s where I sit today, just waiting for the final judgement call from Angel. In the meantime, this Valentine’s day Angel will continue to have enough orgasms for the both of us, any way she wants them! And God knows that just being in the vicinity of one of Angel’s orgasms, and feeling it vicariously THROUGH her, is far better than any “real” orgasm that I could ever have for myself!

We shall see where things go from here!

  1. Tabard says:

    I have actually sent you a private email with more details on me.
    I would love your advice for long term cage wearing !!!

  2. Tabard says:

    Love your blog. It has been an inspiration from me. I have been doing self imposed chastity for over 4 years. My wife discovered it about 2 years ago. She is not a big fan but allows me to wear it as much as I like now and has started playing with it with her hand ( I usually last 15 seconds…). Would love keeping my cage as much as you. At the moment I keep it for a week max. I use ver small cage because of my size (…) but also because I find that it is better to limit erection as much as possible. The cage being tight means it marks my ball area and my left ball is sometime painful. Would love some advice to keep it longer without risking my health (could send picture if it helps). Thanks again and long live your blog !

  3. Lisa Stone says:

    hmmm, i’ve never even imagine that there is a men’s chastity… giving you my respect, guys

  4. I’ve also had a vasectomy—about 24 years ago. Not a single issue. In fact I played in a tennis tournament a couple of days later. Hormones aren’t effected. Sensation remains the same. Semen is virtually the same as previously. Good luck!

  5. mrbillsails says:

    I had a vasectomy 20 years ago and have not had any problems. It was beneficial to our sex life at the time not to be worried about birth control and gave us freedom to be more spur of the moment.
    I did not discover the world of orgasm control and denial along with chastity for many years.
    Wish we had discovered the benefits of not feeling the pressure of any sexual activity ending with orgasm (for me). Now we can just have a quicky oral or get me aroused with a spanking and let it go at that. When there is an orgasm involved, it is mainly hers. That is my choice too. It has been ten weeks now since my last orgasm, my longest time has been twelve. We got through Christmas, New Years and now Valentines without. I don’t know what could be the reason for me to be allowed, maybe my wife’s birthday in July?
    I have purchased about 6 chastity devices but my wife does not like to use them. Therefore, it is my game even if I give her the key to hold for the day or night. She will be away for this weekend and I told her that I would be locked the whole time.

    • pcguy0681 says:

      Thanks for the info, it seems most stories I hear are like yours with no issues whatsoever. A few I’ve heard with either slight irritation or in very rare cases some rather life changing complications following a vasectomy.

      Have fun locked for the weekend with your wife out of town! When Angel and I were first getting started, there were a few times when she was traveling without me where I would lock up and slip the keys into her things before she left. I’d always make sure she knew later that she was kind of controlling me from afar, and she usually got a good kick out of that! Just something you might want to consider if you’re going to be alone! 🙂

  6. Been there…done that. Something else to think about, not trying to change your mind, is potentially having scar tissue. My urologist never discussed that possibility and it has been an issue ever since.

    On another note, we have discussed trying the Emlalock site; especially, since my travel may be limited for the next 8 weeks. Could be interesting!

    • pcguy0681 says:

      Yea, that part does worry me a little bit, but I feel it’s worth the risk.. What kind of issues has that caused for you long term? And does it get bothered more with the presence of a chastity device?

      On a somewhat related note, I’ve been batting around the idea that when I do make an appt I could try to have a serious but confidential conversation with him about chastity. As it could relate to after-effects of a vasectomy as well as just in general if he has any particular views around the practice. But it’s just a thought, when it comes down to it I have no idea if I’ll have the balls to actually bring that up! Lol

      And PLEASE, no comments or mail from anyone else out here telling me it’s a bad idea to involve “non-consenting” vanilla folks in my kink… A person should be able to talk freely with a trusted medical professional about anything going on with your body, kinky or not! Seeking actual medical advice/opinions is a far different thing than exposing yourself just for the thrill or humiliation aspects of it.

      Oh, and chaste cyclist, good luck and have fun with EmlaLock if you go that route. I’d love to hear of your experiences with it!

      • The biggest issue I have, and had long before chastity, was scar tissue build up around the clips they use to crimp off the vas deferens. It is a hard lump in my scrotum. I can go weeks without any issues then it will get aggravated and swells up. Hell, even sex with MrL can aggravate it.

        I have gone weeks at a time in the Steelheart without issue them the swelling of that little lump of scar tissue flares up.

        As for, when it it time, asking your urologist is probably a smart move. I haven’t told mine about chastity but have asked about cock ring. He said as long as they are not too restrictive they are okay. Sort of seems like the same thing, right?

        Hope this helps. If you want, we can continue this via email? I believe we have conversed via email before.

        • pcguy0681 says:

          Yes of course! Thanks for all the feedback so far, my direct email is listed on my contact page. We may have conversed on Fet before too, so any way is fine with me.

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