Reader Question: Shaving Dilemma

Posted: August 8, 2016 in Chastity, Fetish, Kinky, Male Chastity, Orgasm Denial


I had some e-mail last week from a new reader who is also getting started and trying to find his way through the world of male chastity.  He just had a few questions, most of which I think I gave him fairly sound advice about, but he had one question for which I don’t really have any specific experience to speak of.

So I thought I’d go a slightly different route and open it up here, to see if anybody else who sees this might happen to have any advice for him!  I may post more of his message at a later date when relevant; but for now this is truncated down just a bit for space and to keep the discussion centered on this one specific topic..

Mark asks:

My wife unlocked me last night, which was about 14 days, our longest to date.

I am still playing with the rings and the gap spacing on the CB6000S, and have the sizer rings on order from MM.   I felt a little discomfort at the end of the two weeks and thought it might just be that tugging feeling you get with an erection and the way it pulls on the ring.  After letting me out, I looked a litle closer because I was still feeling discomfort with it off.  Turns out, I have a couple in-grown hairs where I had shaved.  So that is my next question.  I thought if I was smoother there would be less friction, but now I am wondering if having something tight has any effect on in-grown hairs.  I have shaved before as that is the way my wife likes me, every once in a while I’ll get an in-grown hair, but after wearing the CB6000S for 2 weeks, I had about 3.  If your experience has given you insight into shaving or not shaving, I would love to hear about it.

My initial response at the time, reads like this:

That’s a good question, unfortunately I’m not sure I will be much help on that one.  I do try to keep things fairly shaved most of the time, but have never personally had issues with ingrown hairs and such..  I guess if you’re prone to that, having a tight device constantly rubbing against your skin could make it worse…  Have you ever tried any kind of lube or anything?  I think I’ve mentioned in a post or two at different times, but I’ve actually found that baby oil gel works very well.  It needs to be the gel kind though, not just regular baby oil.  This stuff is good because it’s not sticky at all, and will generally last most of a day under normal conditions.  It’s just a thought anyway.. that might help reduce the “friction” and help with your in-grown hair problem at the same time!

So how about it?  Are there any other guys in chastity out there who have a problem with in-grown hairs when you shave in that region?  Any tips or tricks that you can offer to Mark and anybody else who may have similar issues?

I really have no idea if lube is a good answer or not, that was just the first thing to come to mind!  Just to keep brainstorming here, maybe it could even have to do with the type of razor you use?  For the record, I just use a basic Mach3 blade.  I don’t even tend to use any cream or anything, just lots of warm water flowing in the shower!  But I do suspect I might be a little weird in that regard, and that is probably not common among people who shave!  🙂  If anybody does have any other advice, I’m sure it would be very much appreciated!


  1. Interesting, except when MrsL is in the mood to give me a treat with oral she wants things completely smooth.

  2. pcguy0681 says:

    Here’s a new & interesting perspective from the chastity community on Reddit. Thanks to mjm7863506475, who wrote:

    “I too like the feeling of being shaved–it adds to the submissive nature of being kept a certain way.

    However, hair is a dry lubricant–just rub your hand on your head and you’ll see what I mean. Keeping SOME hair down there is a good thing and will be the most comfortable particularly during long periods locked up. Get a pair of clippers and take all the hair down to about 1/8 inch. Shave nothing. You’ll be much better off.”

  3. I can’t help on this one. I keep things shaved all the time but never have an issue with ingrown hairs. Ask for a lubricant, I have used everything from lotions to Vaseline to now use baby oil gel which is fantastic. Sorry can’t be of more assistance.

  4. Hi. I use Vaseline when putting on the ring or in the morning when it’s already on. Cheap and easy to reapply if needed. I also shave using a power fusion razor–find it is smooth and unlikely to cut. Afterwards I apply rubbing alcohol. Both my wife and I use it and it seems to help prevent ingrown hairs. There are products designed to prevent ingrown hairs and I’ve used some in the past. Still I’ve gone to the rubbing alcohol. Much cheaper and it seems to work. Remember that hair type and curliness have an impact as does frequency of shaving. It try to shave 5-6 times a week. Hope this helps!

    • pcguy0681 says:

      Ah, first one in- thanks for sharing! For my own curiosity, when you say 5-6 times a week, are you generally unlocked for shaving or do you have to work around your device? Most of the time I just do as much as I can get to around the Queen’s Keep, then try to clean it up extra well on the occasions when I am actually out..

      • I am allowed out of the cage to work out (usually). And I work out 5-6 times a week. So I’m able to shave properly at those times. However my lady has occasionally kept the key so that I end up working out caged. On a couple of occasions she has also made me shower/clean up at the gym when caged. If I don’t workout then the cage stays on and shaving becomes more of a chore. After 3-4 days of constant wear I find the hair growing in around the ring causes more friction and things are not always comfortable. On those days I use a lot more Vaseline.

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